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When a gun makes everything clear | Jennifer Stapleton | TEDxEHC


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[Applause] once I was rock climbing and I got

once I was rock climbing and I got

once I was rock climbing and I got dangerously high before I realized that

dangerously high before I realized that

dangerously high before I realized that my harness wasn’t safely attached to the

my harness wasn’t safely attached to the

my harness wasn’t safely attached to the rope so my life which I thought was

rope so my life which I thought was

rope so my life which I thought was being held safely was literally in my

being held safely was literally in my

being held safely was literally in my own hands I had a moment of perfect

own hands I had a moment of perfect

own hands I had a moment of perfect clarity where I realized I was gonna

clarity where I realized I was gonna

clarity where I realized I was gonna have to get myself down and I was gonna

have to get myself down and I was gonna

have to get myself down and I was gonna really have to be perfectly present and

really have to be perfectly present and

really have to be perfectly present and perfectly focused to get that done

perfectly focused to get that done

perfectly focused to get that done perfect clarity is stripping away the

perfect clarity is stripping away the

perfect clarity is stripping away the details of all things all insignificant

details of all things all insignificant

details of all things all insignificant things so that you can focus on one

things so that you can focus on one

things so that you can focus on one important idea it’s not we’ve called it

important idea it’s not we’ve called it

important idea it’s not we’ve called it simplicity but when I’ve lived it I’ve

simplicity but when I’ve lived it I’ve

simplicity but when I’ve lived it I’ve experienced moments of perfect clarity I

experienced moments of perfect clarity I

experienced moments of perfect clarity I had perfect clarity as I sat next to my

had perfect clarity as I sat next to my

had perfect clarity as I sat next to my cousin’s bed as she died slowly after a

cousin’s bed as she died slowly after a

cousin’s bed as she died slowly after a horrible accident I had perfect clarity

horrible accident I had perfect clarity

horrible accident I had perfect clarity the day my son was born and in fact I’ve

the day my son was born and in fact I’ve

the day my son was born and in fact I’ve lived with a kind of perfect clarity

lived with a kind of perfect clarity

lived with a kind of perfect clarity ever since then that the main reason I

ever since then that the main reason I

ever since then that the main reason I exist is to keep him safe now I have a

exist is to keep him safe now I have a

exist is to keep him safe now I have a good marriage and I have a job that I

good marriage and I have a job that I

good marriage and I have a job that I enjoy

enjoy

enjoy I have faith and activism that give my

I have faith and activism that give my

I have faith and activism that give my life meaning I have an unhealthy

life meaning I have an unhealthy

life meaning I have an unhealthy addiction to reality TV and shonda

addiction to reality TV and shonda

addiction to reality TV and shonda rhimes shows but when you strip it all

rhimes shows but when you strip it all

rhimes shows but when you strip it all away the reason I exist is to make sure

away the reason I exist is to make sure

away the reason I exist is to make sure that my son and my daughter who was born

that my son and my daughter who was born

that my son and my daughter who was born a few years later live my constant

a few years later live my constant

a few years later live my constant mantra is please God let these children

mantra is please God let these children

mantra is please God let these children outlive me I had perfect clarity the

outlive me I had perfect clarity the

outlive me I had perfect clarity the moment I saw the man with the gun

moment I saw the man with the gun

moment I saw the man with the gun pointed at my wife’s head it was

pointed at my wife’s head it was

pointed at my wife’s head it was November 2008 just a few days after

November 2008 just a few days after

November 2008 just a few days after President Obama’s first election it was

President Obama’s first election it was

President Obama’s first election it was November and it was only about seven

November and it was only about seven

November and it was only about seven o’clock in the evening but it was dark

o’clock in the evening but it was dark

o’clock in the evening but it was dark already because the time had just

already because the time had just

already because the time had just changed we’d been at the grocery store

changed we’d been at the grocery store

changed we’d been at the grocery store I was very very pregnant came out and I

I was very very pregnant came out and I

I was very very pregnant came out and I got in the car talking on the cell phone

got in the car talking on the cell phone

got in the car talking on the cell phone to my dad

to my dad

to my dad while Amy put the groceries away in the

while Amy put the groceries away in the

while Amy put the groceries away in the trunk and I noticed somebody pulled up

trunk and I noticed somebody pulled up

trunk and I noticed somebody pulled up behind us and then Amy got in the car

behind us and then Amy got in the car

behind us and then Amy got in the car and I heard her say no you don’t have to

and I heard her say no you don’t have to

and I heard her say no you don’t have to do this and when I turned and looked the

do this and when I turned and looked the

do this and when I turned and looked the first thing I saw was the gun and it was

first thing I saw was the gun and it was

first thing I saw was the gun and it was like time stopped everything went silent

like time stopped everything went silent

like time stopped everything went silent the moment seemed to be wrapped in

the moment seemed to be wrapped in

the moment seemed to be wrapped in cotton and I had the clarity to say to

cotton and I had the clarity to say to

cotton and I had the clarity to say to my dad dad were being robbed I’ve got to

my dad dad were being robbed I’ve got to

my dad dad were being robbed I’ve got to go hung up the phone and just by pure

go hung up the phone and just by pure

go hung up the phone and just by pure instinct walked away from the car with

instinct walked away from the car with

instinct walked away from the car with my back to the car so that the baby and

my back to the car so that the baby and

my back to the car so that the baby and my body was as far away from the gunman

my body was as far away from the gunman

my body was as far away from the gunman as possible Amy had a harder time with

as possible Amy had a harder time with

as possible Amy had a harder time with it she had to get out right next to him

it she had to get out right next to him

it she had to get out right next to him he stood there and demanded her wallet

he stood there and demanded her wallet

he stood there and demanded her wallet demanded her phone with the gun on her

demanded her phone with the gun on her

demanded her phone with the gun on her the whole time but eventually she got

the whole time but eventually she got

the whole time but eventually she got out as well he got in our car his

out as well he got in our car his

out as well he got in our car his accomplice pulled forward and they both

accomplice pulled forward and they both

accomplice pulled forward and they both drove away the local paper and the TV

drove away the local paper and the TV

drove away the local paper and the TV Evening News didn’t pick up the news of

Evening News didn’t pick up the news of

Evening News didn’t pick up the news of our carjacking unfortunately in

our carjacking unfortunately in

our carjacking unfortunately in Washington DC incidents like this are

Washington DC incidents like this are

Washington DC incidents like this are pretty regular but a local blogger in

pretty regular but a local blogger in

pretty regular but a local blogger in our neighborhood did write about it and

our neighborhood did write about it and

our neighborhood did write about it and he said two things he said that we were

he said two things he said that we were

he said two things he said that we were we were left unharmed and that we

we were left unharmed and that we

we were left unharmed and that we probably wish we had a gun with us and

probably wish we had a gun with us and

probably wish we had a gun with us and both of those things are wrong you don’t

both of those things are wrong you don’t

both of those things are wrong you don’t live through an incident of gun violence

live through an incident of gun violence

live through an incident of gun violence unharmed you may not die you may not

unharmed you may not die you may not

unharmed you may not die you may not bleed but the emotional impact of an

bleed but the emotional impact of an

bleed but the emotional impact of an incident like ours is long and real and

incident like ours is long and real and

incident like ours is long and real and exceptionally painful so these shocking

exceptionally painful so these shocking

exceptionally painful so these shocking clarifying moments when everything comes

clarifying moments when everything comes

clarifying moments when everything comes into view I have experience with that

into view I have experience with that

into view I have experience with that also though

also though

also though have experience with clarity that comes

have experience with clarity that comes

have experience with clarity that comes after disorientation so you have this

after disorientation so you have this

after disorientation so you have this moment a moment in time that’s very

moment a moment in time that’s very

moment a moment in time that’s very confusing and you don’t know what’s

confusing and you don’t know what’s

confusing and you don’t know what’s going on and then eventually the lesson

going on and then eventually the lesson

going on and then eventually the lesson of the moment comes to you and so this

of the moment comes to you and so this

of the moment comes to you and so this was similar also in 2008 my dad called

was similar also in 2008 my dad called

was similar also in 2008 my dad called me to say there was a shooting at your

me to say there was a shooting at your

me to say there was a shooting at your brother’s church today my brother and

brother’s church today my brother and

brother’s church today my brother and his wife were at home with a brand-new

his wife were at home with a brand-new

his wife were at home with a brand-new baby so they were unharmed they were not

baby so they were unharmed they were not

baby so they were unharmed they were not physically harmed my sister-in-law

physically harmed my sister-in-law

physically harmed my sister-in-law wasn’t sitting in the quiet room at the

wasn’t sitting in the quiet room at the

wasn’t sitting in the quiet room at the back of the church we’re parents with

back of the church we’re parents with

back of the church we’re parents with fussy babies keep them quiet that’s the

fussy babies keep them quiet that’s the

fussy babies keep them quiet that’s the spot where the man stood as he started

spot where the man stood as he started

spot where the man stood as he started to shoot into the congregation and what

to shoot into the congregation and what

to shoot into the congregation and what I figured out from this is that I think

I figured out from this is that I think

I figured out from this is that I think all of us as Americans living in an

all of us as Americans living in an

all of us as Americans living in an insane time create this notion that

insane time create this notion that

insane time create this notion that keeps us safe in our minds we have to

keeps us safe in our minds we have to

keeps us safe in our minds we have to believe that even though thirty thousand

believe that even though thirty thousand

believe that even though thirty thousand people a year die from gun violence and

people a year die from gun violence and

people a year die from gun violence and even though young people are killing

even though young people are killing

even though young people are killing each other on our city streets and even

each other on our city streets and even

each other on our city streets and even though we’re having mass shootings

though we’re having mass shootings

though we’re having mass shootings happening at malls and movie theaters

happening at malls and movie theaters

happening at malls and movie theaters and elementary school classrooms somehow

and elementary school classrooms somehow

and elementary school classrooms somehow we have to believe this couldn’t happen

we have to believe this couldn’t happen

we have to believe this couldn’t happen to me this doesn’t happen to my family

to me this doesn’t happen to my family

to me this doesn’t happen to my family that’s something that happened somewhere

that’s something that happened somewhere

that’s something that happened somewhere what far away and that was taken from me

what far away and that was taken from me

what far away and that was taken from me I could had perfect clarity

I could had perfect clarity

I could had perfect clarity I could no longer pretend that this

I could no longer pretend that this

I could no longer pretend that this couldn’t happen to my family because it

couldn’t happen to my family because it

couldn’t happen to my family because it was pure luck that my brother and my

was pure luck that my brother and my

was pure luck that my brother and my sister-in-law and my niece and my nephew

sister-in-law and my niece and my nephew

sister-in-law and my niece and my nephew weren’t at that church that day and I

weren’t at that church that day and I

weren’t at that church that day and I know a story of a woman who was at that

know a story of a woman who was at that

know a story of a woman who was at that church that day and it haunts me she was

church that day and it haunts me she was

church that day and it haunts me she was a mother like me she was sitting in

a mother like me she was sitting in

a mother like me she was sitting in church between her two children two sons

church between her two children two sons

church between her two children two sons and that’s when the stranger’s bullet

and that’s when the stranger’s bullet

and that’s when the stranger’s bullet went into her head the gunman was the

went into her head the gunman was the

went into her head the gunman was the ex-wife at the ex-husband of one of the

ex-wife at the ex-husband of one of the

ex-wife at the ex-husband of one of the women in the church and he had come to

women in the church and he had come to

women in the church and he had come to exact revenge on her by killing fellow

exact revenge on her by killing fellow

exact revenge on her by killing fellow church members

church members

church members and when the mother was shot in the head

and when the mother was shot in the head

and when the mother was shot in the head she began to bleed profusely she bled

she began to bleed profusely she bled

she began to bleed profusely she bled all over herself and she bled all over

all over herself and she bled all over

all over herself and she bled all over her two children and miraculously she

her two children and miraculously she

her two children and miraculously she survived this event but when she thinks

survived this event but when she thinks

survived this event but when she thinks about that day she says that the thing

about that day she says that the thing

about that day she says that the thing she feels is guilty she says a mother is

she feels is guilty she says a mother is

she feels is guilty she says a mother is just not supposed to bleed on her child

just not supposed to bleed on her child

just not supposed to bleed on her child and she’s right

and she’s right

and she’s right my job what I do for a living is craft

my job what I do for a living is craft

my job what I do for a living is craft communications to help move legislative

communications to help move legislative

communications to help move legislative change so I’ve lived and worked in

change so I’ve lived and worked in

change so I’ve lived and worked in Washington DC for about 15 years now as

Washington DC for about 15 years now as

Washington DC for about 15 years now as a professional communicator focused on

a professional communicator focused on

a professional communicator focused on making change I’ve worked on issues as

making change I’ve worked on issues as

making change I’ve worked on issues as diverse as workers rights hunger and

diverse as workers rights hunger and

diverse as workers rights hunger and poverty helping to make life better for

poverty helping to make life better for

poverty helping to make life better for children families but in 2008 when these

children families but in 2008 when these

children families but in 2008 when these incidents happened to my family I didn’t

incidents happened to my family I didn’t

incidents happened to my family I didn’t even consider taking on gun violence as

even consider taking on gun violence as

even consider taking on gun violence as an issue mostly because I’m a political

an issue mostly because I’m a political

an issue mostly because I’m a political realist I work on issues that may be

realist I work on issues that may be

realist I work on issues that may be hard but that can be one because there’s

hard but that can be one because there’s

hard but that can be one because there’s too much change that can happen for me

too much change that can happen for me

too much change that can happen for me to waste my time on something that’s

to waste my time on something that’s

to waste my time on something that’s intractable and that’s where gun policy

intractable and that’s where gun policy

intractable and that’s where gun policy was in 2008 and so I did what a person

was in 2008 and so I did what a person

was in 2008 and so I did what a person does after traumatic incidents I went to

does after traumatic incidents I went to

does after traumatic incidents I went to therapy I went to church we let our

therapy I went to church we let our

therapy I went to church we let our church community love and nurture us I

church community love and nurture us I

church community love and nurture us I prayed I went to therapy

prayed I went to therapy

prayed I went to therapy I took meds all the things you need to

I took meds all the things you need to

I took meds all the things you need to do to try to get back to clarity and

do to try to get back to clarity and

do to try to get back to clarity and just a few weeks after this incident our

just a few weeks after this incident our

just a few weeks after this incident our son was born and he was the perfect

son was born and he was the perfect

son was born and he was the perfect place to pour our love and our concern

place to pour our love and our concern

place to pour our love and our concern and our protection and I healed

until December 14 2012 on that day I was

until December 14 2012 on that day I was 8 weeks pregnant with our daughter and

my son was a few days shy of 4 he was in

my son was a few days shy of 4 he was in his preschool classroom and on that day

his preschool classroom and on that day

his preschool classroom and on that day a man walked into an elementary school

a man walked into an elementary school

a man walked into an elementary school in Connecticut he had taken his mother’s

in Connecticut he had taken his mother’s

in Connecticut he had taken his mother’s gun and killed her with it and then he

gun and killed her with it and then he

gun and killed her with it and then he killed six educators and twenty first

killed six educators and twenty first

killed six educators and twenty first graders and that day was a day of

graders and that day was a day of

graders and that day was a day of perfect clarity for me because as I

perfect clarity for me because as I

perfect clarity for me because as I thought about the incident I can only

thought about the incident I can only

thought about the incident I can only imagine that Sandy Hook classroom as my

imagine that Sandy Hook classroom as my

imagine that Sandy Hook classroom as my child’s classroom and I could only

child’s classroom and I could only

child’s classroom and I could only imagine myself as one of those parents

imagine myself as one of those parents

imagine myself as one of those parents at the fire hook for our house waiting

at the fire hook for our house waiting

at the fire hook for our house waiting in vain for a child that wasn’t going to

in vain for a child that wasn’t going to

in vain for a child that wasn’t going to come home and so with what I now

come home and so with what I now

come home and so with what I now recognize as part anxiety disorder I

recognize as part anxiety disorder I

recognize as part anxiety disorder I became obsessed with figuring out how to

became obsessed with figuring out how to

became obsessed with figuring out how to keep guns out of dangerous hands and so

keep guns out of dangerous hands and so

keep guns out of dangerous hands and so I did the things I do I researched I

I did the things I do I researched I

I did the things I do I researched I organized I gave money I communicated

organized I gave money I communicated

organized I gave money I communicated working with groups trying to stop gun

working with groups trying to stop gun

working with groups trying to stop gun violence and ultimately I ended up as a

violence and ultimately I ended up as a

violence and ultimately I ended up as a volunteer with a group called moms

volunteer with a group called moms

volunteer with a group called moms demand action for gun sense in America

demand action for gun sense in America

demand action for gun sense in America and we’re a group a group of mothers

and we’re a group a group of mothers

and we’re a group a group of mothers born out of the Sandy Hook tragedy who

born out of the Sandy Hook tragedy who

born out of the Sandy Hook tragedy who realized that we could no longer do

realized that we could no longer do

realized that we could no longer do nothing I helped the group with media

nothing I helped the group with media

nothing I helped the group with media relations and social media and we do

relations and social media and we do

relations and social media and we do several things to try to create a

several things to try to create a

several things to try to create a culture of gun safety we pass laws we

culture of gun safety we pass laws we

culture of gun safety we pass laws we work to pass laws at state houses that

work to pass laws at state houses that

work to pass laws at state houses that strengthen gun laws and keep guns out of

strengthen gun laws and keep guns out of

strengthen gun laws and keep guns out of dangerous hands we educate parents about

dangerous hands we educate parents about

dangerous hands we educate parents about asking about guns in the home to try to

asking about guns in the home to try to

asking about guns in the home to try to cut down on unintentional child

cut down on unintentional child

cut down on unintentional child shootings and we talk about the risks of

shootings and we talk about the risks of

shootings and we talk about the risks of teen suicide and how to recognize that

teen suicide and how to recognize that

teen suicide and how to recognize that and then finally we work on culture

and then finally we work on culture

and then finally we work on culture change because just as Mothers Against

change because just as Mothers Against

change because just as Mothers Against Drunk Driving changed the societal norms

Drunk Driving changed the societal norms

Drunk Driving changed the societal norms around drinking and driving we are

around drinking and driving we are

around drinking and driving we are trying to change the norms in our

trying to change the norms in our

trying to change the norms in our country and create a culture of gun

country and create a culture of gun

country and create a culture of gun safety because the political calculation

safety because the political calculation

safety because the political calculation was different after Sandy Hook suddenly

was different after Sandy Hook suddenly

was different after Sandy Hook suddenly leaders from both sides of the aisle

leaders from both sides of the aisle

leaders from both sides of the aisle were willing to talk with us to talk

were willing to talk with us to talk

were willing to talk with us to talk about tentative steps that they could

about tentative steps that they could

about tentative steps that they could take to try to curb this epidemic and

take to try to curb this epidemic and

take to try to curb this epidemic and even after in April 2013 you Mike Lee

even after in April 2013 you Mike Lee

even after in April 2013 you Mike Lee remember the national vote where we did

remember the national vote where we did

remember the national vote where we did not pass background checks on all gun

not pass background checks on all gun

not pass background checks on all gun sales so we went on to have went after

sales so we went on to have went after

sales so we went on to have went after win and state houses and in-state voter

win and state houses and in-state voter

win and state houses and in-state voter referendums and I want to tell you a

referendums and I want to tell you a

referendums and I want to tell you a little bit about my relationship with

little bit about my relationship with

little bit about my relationship with guns so my dad owns one my brother owns

guns so my dad owns one my brother owns

guns so my dad owns one my brother owns a couple and so did my brother-in-law’s

a couple and so did my brother-in-law’s

a couple and so did my brother-in-law’s I have cousins who are champion sport

I have cousins who are champion sport

I have cousins who are champion sport shooters and avid hunters and I was

shooters and avid hunters and I was

shooters and avid hunters and I was always a tomboy so I got to shoot guns a

always a tomboy so I got to shoot guns a

always a tomboy so I got to shoot guns a little bit myself as a child I never had

little bit myself as a child I never had

little bit myself as a child I never had anything alive except mistletoe which my

anything alive except mistletoe which my

anything alive except mistletoe which my dad taught me how to shoot out of a tree

dad taught me how to shoot out of a tree

dad taught me how to shoot out of a tree thanks dad but until I saw a gun pointed

thanks dad but until I saw a gun pointed

thanks dad but until I saw a gun pointed at Amy

at Amy

at Amy I enjoyed shooting them I have no

I enjoyed shooting them I have no

I enjoyed shooting them I have no problem with a family owning one to

problem with a family owning one to

problem with a family owning one to protect their home and the truth is I

protect their home and the truth is I

protect their home and the truth is I don’t think guns are nearly as

don’t think guns are nearly as

don’t think guns are nearly as contentious and issue as our politicians

contentious and issue as our politicians

contentious and issue as our politicians are making them out to be here’s what I

are making them out to be here’s what I

are making them out to be here’s what I believe there are some people like

believe there are some people like

believe there are some people like convicted felons and domestic abusers

convicted felons and domestic abusers

convicted felons and domestic abusers that shouldn’t have guns and we should

that shouldn’t have guns and we should

that shouldn’t have guns and we should make it harder for them to get guns by

make it harder for them to get guns by

make it harder for them to get guns by requiring a background check on every

requiring a background check on every

requiring a background check on every cell there are some places that gun

cell there are some places that gun

cell there are some places that gun shouldn’t be carried bars playgrounds

shouldn’t be carried bars playgrounds

shouldn’t be carried bars playgrounds elementary schools we need to crack down

elementary schools we need to crack down

elementary schools we need to crack down on illegal gun traffickers and finally

on illegal gun traffickers and finally

on illegal gun traffickers and finally for people that own guns it’s important

for people that own guns it’s important

for people that own guns it’s important to store them as safely as possible

to store them as safely as possible

to store them as safely as possible which means unloaded

which means unloaded

which means unloaded locked with the ammunition separate and

locked with the ammunition separate and

locked with the ammunition separate and I will wager a guess that the majority

I will wager a guess that the majority

I will wager a guess that the majority of you agree with me on these issues

of you agree with me on these issues

of you agree with me on these issues because the majority of Americans do

because the majority of Americans do

because the majority of Americans do when you talk about gun control it

when you talk about gun control it

when you talk about gun control it conjures up this distant past there was

conjures up this distant past there was

conjures up this distant past there was actually a time when we considered

actually a time when we considered

actually a time when we considered getting rid of all handguns and

getting rid of all handguns and

getting rid of all handguns and disarming law-abiding people today’s

disarming law-abiding people today’s

disarming law-abiding people today’s conversation is about gun sense how do

conversation is about gun sense how do

conversation is about gun sense how do we protect the rights of people to

we protect the rights of people to

we protect the rights of people to sports shoot to hunt to protect their

sports shoot to hunt to protect their

sports shoot to hunt to protect their families while at the same time making

families while at the same time making

families while at the same time making it harder for dangerous people to get

it harder for dangerous people to get

it harder for dangerous people to get guns there’s so much common ground on

guns there’s so much common ground on

guns there’s so much common ground on this issue and so few conversations that

this issue and so few conversations that

this issue and so few conversations that happen on that common ground I find that

happen on that common ground I find that

happen on that common ground I find that this is an issue that people usually

this is an issue that people usually

this is an issue that people usually there come from their heart and not from

there come from their heart and not from

there come from their heart and not from their head and when people are talking

their head and when people are talking

their head and when people are talking about guns they seem to be more

about guns they seem to be more

about guns they seem to be more interested in being right than listening

interested in being right than listening

interested in being right than listening that has to stop to bring about change

that has to stop to bring about change

that has to stop to bring about change we’re gonna have to talk and listen and

we’re gonna have to talk and listen and

we’re gonna have to talk and listen and we need to be clear about the problem

we need to be clear about the problem

we need to be clear about the problem here it’s not my uncle Johnny and his

here it’s not my uncle Johnny and his

here it’s not my uncle Johnny and his nephews skeet shooting on the weekends

nephews skeet shooting on the weekends

nephews skeet shooting on the weekends there’s a gun lobby run by the gun

there’s a gun lobby run by the gun

there’s a gun lobby run by the gun manufacturers that pays to have

manufacturers that pays to have

manufacturers that pays to have politicians elected and then had them

politicians elected and then had them

politicians elected and then had them pass gun laws that the majority of

pass gun laws that the majority of

pass gun laws that the majority of Americans don’t agree with so while the

Americans don’t agree with so while the

Americans don’t agree with so while the gun lobby is owning these politicians

gun lobby is owning these politicians

gun lobby is owning these politicians they’re also scaring the rest of us to

they’re also scaring the rest of us to

they’re also scaring the rest of us to death so that will buy more guns I read

death so that will buy more guns I read

death so that will buy more guns I read an article recently in New York magazine

an article recently in New York magazine

an article recently in New York magazine it was by a woman named Lisa Miller and

it was by a woman named Lisa Miller and

it was by a woman named Lisa Miller and the magazine was about trying to find

the magazine was about trying to find

the magazine was about trying to find common ground on guns and she ended her

common ground on guns and she ended her

common ground on guns and she ended her peace with what I thought was a really

peace with what I thought was a really

peace with what I thought was a really precise idea which is the conversation

precise idea which is the conversation

precise idea which is the conversation we’re having here isn’t about guns the

we’re having here isn’t about guns the

we’re having here isn’t about guns the conversation we’re having is about fear

conversation we’re having is about fear

conversation we’re having is about fear and in the face of fear do you arm

and in the face of fear do you arm

and in the face of fear do you arm yourself and hope that you’re at the

yourself and hope that you’re at the

yourself and hope that you’re at the ready in case somebody comes to attack

ready in case somebody comes to attack

ready in case somebody comes to attack you or do you try to make it harder for

you or do you try to make it harder for

you or do you try to make it harder for that person to get guns in the first

that person to get guns in the first

that person to get guns in the first place some of my favorite people do both

place some of my favorite people do both

place some of my favorite people do both I am not willing to live in a world

I am not willing to live in a world

I am not willing to live in a world where the good guys shoot it out with

where the good guys shoot it out with

where the good guys shoot it out with the bad guys over my kids heads and so

the bad guys over my kids heads and so

the bad guys over my kids heads and so even though I’m perfectly clear that the

even though I’m perfectly clear that the

even though I’m perfectly clear that the reason I exist is to keep them safe I

reason I exist is to keep them safe I

reason I exist is to keep them safe I don’t carry a gun

don’t carry a gun

don’t carry a gun mostly because I’ve learned it’s more

mostly because I’ve learned it’s more

mostly because I’ve learned it’s more likely to be used against us than we are

likely to be used against us than we are

likely to be used against us than we are to use it against somebody trying to

to use it against somebody trying to

to use it against somebody trying to hurt us that said I’m completely

hurt us that said I’m completely

hurt us that said I’m completely committed to having conversations with

committed to having conversations with

committed to having conversations with people who think differently than me I

people who think differently than me I

people who think differently than me I want to hear the vision of a mother who

want to hear the vision of a mother who

want to hear the vision of a mother who carries a gun to try to help keep their

carries a gun to try to help keep their

carries a gun to try to help keep their kids safe I want to understand her

kids safe I want to understand her

kids safe I want to understand her perspective I want her to understand

perspective I want her to understand

perspective I want her to understand mine I want us to come to some common

mine I want us to come to some common

mine I want us to come to some common ground and then push our legislators to

ground and then push our legislators to

ground and then push our legislators to pass some gun same gun laws because I

pass some gun same gun laws because I

pass some gun same gun laws because I have really good news the way gun

have really good news the way gun

have really good news the way gun violence is in our country right now

violence is in our country right now

violence is in our country right now doesn’t have to stay this way so let’s

doesn’t have to stay this way so let’s

doesn’t have to stay this way so let’s be clear with each other and then let’s

be clear with each other and then let’s

be clear with each other and then let’s be perfectly clear with our legislators

be perfectly clear with our legislators

be perfectly clear with our legislators who have power to do something about it

who have power to do something about it

who have power to do something about it let me be clear with you here’s what I

let me be clear with you here’s what I

let me be clear with you here’s what I want I want you to start conversations

want I want you to start conversations

want I want you to start conversations about gun violence and I want you to not

about gun violence and I want you to not

about gun violence and I want you to not stop with just talking I want you to

stop with just talking I want you to

stop with just talking I want you to join an organization I want you to give

join an organization I want you to give

join an organization I want you to give time I want you to contact your

time I want you to contact your

time I want you to contact your legislators on both sides of the aisle

legislators on both sides of the aisle

legislators on both sides of the aisle call them email them show up at their

call them email them show up at their

call them email them show up at their offices because even in this topsy-turvy

offices because even in this topsy-turvy

offices because even in this topsy-turvy political climate nothing moves

political climate nothing moves

political climate nothing moves legislators more than constituent action

legislators more than constituent action

legislators more than constituent action and as I’ve said my vision is perfectly

and as I’ve said my vision is perfectly

and as I’ve said my vision is perfectly clear

clear

clear I’m here to make sure my kids outlive me

I’m here to make sure my kids outlive me

I’m here to make sure my kids outlive me I’m here to make sure you outlive your

I’m here to make sure you outlive your

I’m here to make sure you outlive your parents and that some day your kids

parents and that some day your kids

parents and that some day your kids outlive you too thank you

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