I created the mentality in my head of taking no as no not right now not no
taking no as no not right now not no
taking no as no not right now not no this isn’t for you so no didn’t have a
this isn’t for you so no didn’t have a
this isn’t for you so no didn’t have a period it had a dot dot dot but then
period it had a dot dot dot but then
period it had a dot dot dot but then there came a point when I believe had to
there came a point when I believe had to
there came a point when I believe had to say like I love you thank you so much
say like I love you thank you so much
say like I love you thank you so much for all your opinions but I need to now
for all your opinions but I need to now
for all your opinions but I need to now kind of do some of this on my own
kind of do some of this on my own
kind of do some of this on my own are you ambitious I mean do you have a
are you ambitious I mean do you have a
are you ambitious I mean do you have a girl oh my god
what’s up believe nation its Evan my one
what’s up believe nation its Evan my one word is believe and I believe in you I
word is believe and I believe in you I
word is believe and I believe in you I believe in your potential and I want to
believe in your potential and I want to
believe in your potential and I want to see that thing that you’ve got inside
see that thing that you’ve got inside
see that thing that you’ve got inside you explode out into the world to have a
you explode out into the world to have a
you explode out into the world to have a big impact for you your family and the
big impact for you your family and the
big impact for you your family and the world so to help you on your journey
world so to help you on your journey
world so to help you on your journey today we’re gonna learn from actress
today we’re gonna learn from actress
today we’re gonna learn from actress model and writer Lily Collins and my
model and writer Lily Collins and my
model and writer Lily Collins and my take on her top ten rules of success
take on her top ten rules of success
take on her top ten rules of success rule number five is my personal favorite
rule number five is my personal favorite
rule number five is my personal favorite and I’d love to know which one you guys
and I’d love to know which one you guys
and I’d love to know which one you guys like the best and as always guys as
like the best and as always guys as
like the best and as always guys as you’re watching if you hear something
you’re watching if you hear something
you’re watching if you hear something that really really resonates with you
that really really resonates with you
that really really resonates with you please leave it down the comments below
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down it’s much more likely to stick for
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if I could count the amount of times I
if I could count the amount of times I was told no it would amount to I mean
was told no it would amount to I mean
was told no it would amount to I mean just it was way too many times
just it was way too many times
just it was way too many times and it made being told yes that much
and it made being told yes that much
and it made being told yes that much better and so I created the mentality in
better and so I created the mentality in
better and so I created the mentality in my head of taking no as no not right now
my head of taking no as no not right now
my head of taking no as no not right now not no this isn’t for you so no didn’t
not no this isn’t for you so no didn’t
not no this isn’t for you so no didn’t have a period it had a dot dot dot and
have a period it had a dot dot dot and
have a period it had a dot dot dot and so if I had given up after the first
so if I had given up after the first
so if I had given up after the first time I had said no I wouldn’t be here
time I had said no I wouldn’t be here
time I had said no I wouldn’t be here and so it just you know not letting
and so it just you know not letting
and so it just you know not letting someone dictate your future if you
someone dictate your future if you
someone dictate your future if you believe in something so strongly and you
believe in something so strongly and you
believe in something so strongly and you want to do something so strongly who’s
want to do something so strongly who’s
want to do something so strongly who’s gonna tell you to not do it
gonna tell you to not do it
gonna tell you to not do it so that was adapting that kind of
so that was adapting that kind of
so that was adapting that kind of allowed me to take a lot of pressure off
allowed me to take a lot of pressure off
allowed me to take a lot of pressure off – I like storytelling but I really like
– I like storytelling but I really like
– I like storytelling but I really like being able to play with different parts
being able to play with different parts
being able to play with different parts of myself in different characters and
of myself in different characters and
of myself in different characters and you know switching it up and keeping
you know switching it up and keeping
you know switching it up and keeping people on their toes as to what they
people on their toes as to what they
people on their toes as to what they expect of me and also wait what do I
expect of me and also wait what do I
expect of me and also wait what do I expect of myself can I go beyond what I
expect of myself can I go beyond what I
expect of myself can I go beyond what I think I’m capable of let me try this
think I’m capable of let me try this
think I’m capable of let me try this character and see if there’s more than
character and see if there’s more than
character and see if there’s more than to me than meets the eye and can really
to me than meets the eye and can really
to me than meets the eye and can really relate to her and you know going from
relate to her and you know going from
relate to her and you know going from this movie I mean it was so interesting
this movie I mean it was so interesting
this movie I mean it was so interesting because I I shot the pilot for a series
because I I shot the pilot for a series
because I I shot the pilot for a series that I did the Last Tycoon which is
that I did the Last Tycoon which is
that I did the Last Tycoon which is ultra glamorous nineteen thirties
ultra glamorous nineteen thirties
ultra glamorous nineteen thirties Hollywood two weeks later shooting this
Hollywood two weeks later shooting this
Hollywood two weeks later shooting this then like two weeks later going off to
then like two weeks later going off to
then like two weeks later going off to Korea and shooting
Korea and shooting
Korea and shooting okhta and it was like these three
okhta and it was like these three
okhta and it was like these three different people and I don’t know I
different people and I don’t know I
different people and I don’t know I would never have thought in my life you
would never have thought in my life you
would never have thought in my life you know oh I’m gonna play this person this
know oh I’m gonna play this person this
know oh I’m gonna play this person this person this person but all of them are
person this person but all of them are
person this person but all of them are me they’re different aspects of me and I
me they’re different aspects of me and I
me they’re different aspects of me and I get to learn about myself along the way
get to learn about myself along the way
get to learn about myself along the way and I get to learn from people like
and I get to learn from people like
and I get to learn from people like Marty and amazing other actors and you
Marty and amazing other actors and you
Marty and amazing other actors and you just get to you get to play and be
just get to you get to play and be
just get to you get to play and be different versions of yourself and I
different versions of yourself and I
different versions of yourself and I think I better understand myself through
think I better understand myself through
think I better understand myself through the characters I play sometimes I think
the characters I play sometimes I think
the characters I play sometimes I think it’s probably more of a self-imposed
it’s probably more of a self-imposed
it’s probably more of a self-imposed rule that growing up I always felt that
rule that growing up I always felt that
rule that growing up I always felt that I almost had to keep it together all the
I almost had to keep it together all the
I almost had to keep it together all the time to keep a composure all the time to
time to keep a composure all the time to
time to keep a composure all the time to have all my ducks in a line all the time
have all my ducks in a line all the time
have all my ducks in a line all the time and as an actor again like with the note
and as an actor again like with the note
and as an actor again like with the note that Warren had given me about letting
that Warren had given me about letting
that Warren had given me about letting go you just sometimes are naturally not
go you just sometimes are naturally not
go you just sometimes are naturally not gonna be in control all the time and I
gonna be in control all the time and I
gonna be in control all the time and I think once I realized that that was a
think once I realized that that was a
think once I realized that that was a rule that I was putting on myself and
rule that I was putting on myself and
rule that I was putting on myself and that I could just discard the world like
that I could just discard the world like
that I could just discard the world like opens up all of a sudden these more
opens up all of a sudden these more
opens up all of a sudden these more sponge
sponge
sponge Haney’s magical moments can happen
Haney’s magical moments can happen
Haney’s magical moments can happen whether that’s in your daily life
whether that’s in your daily life
whether that’s in your daily life whether that’s at your job I mean even
whether that’s at your job I mean even
whether that’s at your job I mean even if when in your relationship with
if when in your relationship with
if when in your relationship with yourself it’s something so important to
yourself it’s something so important to
yourself it’s something so important to know that it’s okay not to have to be
know that it’s okay not to have to be
know that it’s okay not to have to be perfect all the time
perfect all the time
perfect all the time are you ambitious I mean you have a girl
are you ambitious I mean you have a girl
are you ambitious I mean you have a girl oh my god yeah well I mean but in an
oh my god yeah well I mean but in an
oh my god yeah well I mean but in an incredibly positive way look at you you
incredibly positive way look at you you
incredibly positive way look at you you want to do all kinds of different things
want to do all kinds of different things
want to do all kinds of different things I mean I feel like your ambition is more
I mean I feel like your ambition is more
I mean I feel like your ambition is more toward experience yeah but it’s very
toward experience yeah but it’s very
toward experience yeah but it’s very focused they’re awesome I’m very focused
focused they’re awesome I’m very focused
focused they’re awesome I’m very focused but I’ve been very focused since I was
but I’ve been very focused since I was
but I’ve been very focused since I was younger and definitely driven past what
younger and definitely driven past what
younger and definitely driven past what I think people would expect of me even
I think people would expect of me even
I think people would expect of me even though I think I’m capable of or whatnot
though I think I’m capable of or whatnot
though I think I’m capable of or whatnot and sometimes I have to just take a
and sometimes I have to just take a
and sometimes I have to just take a chill to chill pal say no to some things
chill to chill pal say no to some things
chill to chill pal say no to some things but I I just I’m a believer in like
but I I just I’m a believer in like
but I I just I’m a believer in like keeping lots of doors open and I really
keeping lots of doors open and I really
keeping lots of doors open and I really I’m passionate about what I’m passionate
I’m passionate about what I’m passionate
I’m passionate about what I’m passionate about and I think that everything can
about and I think that everything can
about and I think that everything can help with everything else the writing
help with everything else the writing
help with everything else the writing kind of with the acting with you know
kind of with the acting with you know
kind of with the acting with you know just there’s so many different things
just there’s so many different things
just there’s so many different things that I like to do and I don’t know why
that I like to do and I don’t know why
that I like to do and I don’t know why why not you know I had fought for this
why not you know I had fought for this
why not you know I had fought for this for what like six months seven months I
for what like six months seven months I
for what like six months seven months I really wanted it and I remember sitting
really wanted it and I remember sitting
really wanted it and I remember sitting there and and my agent said to me I’m I
there and and my agent said to me I’m I
there and and my agent said to me I’m I have good news and bad news good news is
have good news and bad news good news is
have good news and bad news good news is you got writers bad news as you can’t do
you got writers bad news as you can’t do
you got writers bad news as you can’t do it then why can’t I do it because it was
it then why can’t I do it because it was
it then why can’t I do it because it was exactly the same time as a press tour of
exactly the same time as a press tour of
exactly the same time as a press tour of mine but we did the press tour while she
mine but we did the press tour while she
mine but we did the press tour while she did our movie so she took how many
did our movie so she took how many
did our movie so she took how many flights in and out I took 23 flights
flights in and out I took 23 flights
flights in and out I took 23 flights during this shoot during the filming of
during this shoot during the filming of
during this shoot during the filming of this movie yeah always knew her lies
this movie yeah always knew her lies
this movie yeah always knew her lies always on time I I when I read the
always on time I I when I read the
always on time I I when I read the script it was the first time and since
script it was the first time and since
script it was the first time and since then it’s been the only time I’ve ever
then it’s been the only time I’ve ever
then it’s been the only time I’ve ever read something that I couldn’t imagine
read something that I couldn’t imagine
read something that I couldn’t imagine somebody else playing and whatever it
somebody else playing and whatever it
somebody else playing and whatever it took whether I was tired or it didn’t
took whether I was tired or it didn’t
took whether I was tired or it didn’t matter for me for this project my mom
matter for me for this project my mom
matter for me for this project my mom and I are really really close so she
and I are really really close so she
and I are really really close so she would drive me to auditions and read
would drive me to auditions and read
would drive me to auditions and read scripts and give her opinions but then
scripts and give her opinions but then
scripts and give her opinions but then there came a point when I verily had to
there came a point when I verily had to
there came a point when I verily had to say like I love you thank you so much
say like I love you thank you so much
say like I love you thank you so much for all your opinions but I need to not
for all your opinions but I need to not
for all your opinions but I need to not kind of do some of this on my own and I
kind of do some of this on my own and I
kind of do some of this on my own and I stopped reading and you know asking her
stopped reading and you know asking her
stopped reading and you know asking her to read scripts and I just became more
to read scripts and I just became more
to read scripts and I just became more independent which I think regardless of
independent which I think regardless of
independent which I think regardless of whatever industry you’re in we all go
whatever industry you’re in we all go
whatever industry you’re in we all go through that male/female it’s kind of
through that male/female it’s kind of
through that male/female it’s kind of like let me do my own
like let me do my own
like let me do my own thing I read this a week after I had
thing I read this a week after I had
thing I read this a week after I had written a chapter in my book that came
written a chapter in my book that came
written a chapter in my book that came out this year where I talked about my
out this year where I talked about my
out this year where I talked about my experience with eating disorders so if
experience with eating disorders so if
experience with eating disorders so if that wasn’t a sign it wasn’t something I
that wasn’t a sign it wasn’t something I
that wasn’t a sign it wasn’t something I was meant to do I don’t know what is so
was meant to do I don’t know what is so
was meant to do I don’t know what is so I read the script I knew from reading it
I read the script I knew from reading it
I read the script I knew from reading it that it was bound to have been written
that it was bound to have been written
that it was bound to have been written by someone that went through it I have
by someone that went through it I have
by someone that went through it I have just been pretty recently vocal about my
just been pretty recently vocal about my
just been pretty recently vocal about my experiences with with eating disorders
experiences with with eating disorders
experiences with with eating disorders and I think that that’s part of my
and I think that that’s part of my
and I think that that’s part of my purpose just a life mission you know and
purpose just a life mission you know and
purpose just a life mission you know and I think that when a life mission and a
I think that when a life mission and a
I think that when a life mission and a work mission can can mold together so
work mission can can mold together so
work mission can can mold together so beautifully that’s when like magic can
beautifully that’s when like magic can
beautifully that’s when like magic can happen if you let it there were nerves I
happen if you let it there were nerves I
happen if you let it there were nerves I mean as an actor entering into a role
mean as an actor entering into a role
mean as an actor entering into a role anyway and as someone who is now
anyway and as someone who is now
anyway and as someone who is now stepping back into the shoes that they
stepping back into the shoes that they
stepping back into the shoes that they once wore you know in something that
once wore you know in something that
once wore you know in something that wasn’t a positive experience for them
wasn’t a positive experience for them
wasn’t a positive experience for them yes you would would enter into it
yes you would would enter into it
yes you would would enter into it trepidatious lee but I saw it as
trepidatious lee but I saw it as
trepidatious lee but I saw it as something so much larger than myself you
something so much larger than myself you
something so much larger than myself you know I saw this something greater than
know I saw this something greater than
know I saw this something greater than my story and I I knew that I had to do
my story and I I knew that I had to do
my story and I I knew that I had to do it I just got I instinctually gutturally
it I just got I instinctually gutturally
it I just got I instinctually gutturally reacted so strongly and I trust my gut
reacted so strongly and I trust my gut
reacted so strongly and I trust my gut my guts done some good things a good gut
my guts done some good things a good gut
my guts done some good things a good gut I really hate gay slurs and I will just
I really hate gay slurs and I will just
I really hate gay slurs and I will just never understand the use of those words
never understand the use of those words
never understand the use of those words and yeah I remember specifically on
and yeah I remember specifically on
and yeah I remember specifically on dates someone using that and as like a
dates someone using that and as like a
dates someone using that and as like a joke and I was like do you realize how
joke and I was like do you realize how
joke and I was like do you realize how uncool that is and I even shocked myself
uncool that is and I even shocked myself
uncool that is and I even shocked myself it wasn’t even a thing that I thought
it wasn’t even a thing that I thought
it wasn’t even a thing that I thought should I say it just came out because of
should I say it just came out because of
should I say it just came out because of passion and I just really was against it
passion and I just really was against it
passion and I just really was against it I think there’s something so empowering
I think there’s something so empowering
I think there’s something so empowering about speaking out and also you know
about speaking out and also you know
about speaking out and also you know sometimes they say that the moments
sometimes they say that the moments
sometimes they say that the moments where you’re the most nervous are scared
where you’re the most nervous are scared
where you’re the most nervous are scared are the most like kind of invigorating
are the most like kind of invigorating
are the most like kind of invigorating moments in which you grow from and the
moments in which you grow from and the
moments in which you grow from and the most powerful and what you gain an hour
most powerful and what you gain an hour
most powerful and what you gain an hour later looking back on then you’re like
later looking back on then you’re like
later looking back on then you’re like yeah I told him yeah I said something
yeah I told him yeah I said something
yeah I told him yeah I said something because those are the moments that
because those are the moments that
because those are the moments that you’ve obviously grown from but also you
you’ve obviously grown from but also you
you’ve obviously grown from but also you never know that could have made such an
never know that could have made such an
never know that could have made such an impact on that person because no one’s
impact on that person because no one’s
impact on that person because no one’s actually ever called them out
actually ever called them out
actually ever called them out and to be the first person to call
and to be the first person to call
and to be the first person to call someone out that’s a really strong thing
thank Sabina for your question I’d have
thank Sabina for your question I’d have to say it’s fun for my mom
to say it’s fun for my mom
to say it’s fun for my mom which is the quirky things that make you
which is the quirky things that make you
which is the quirky things that make you different are what make you beautiful
different are what make you beautiful
different are what make you beautiful because I think it’s such a young age
because I think it’s such a young age
because I think it’s such a young age when we’re not embracing our differences
when we’re not embracing our differences
when we’re not embracing our differences we’re afraid to be different and stand
we’re afraid to be different and stand
we’re afraid to be different and stand out it’s really important to know that
out it’s really important to know that
out it’s really important to know that one day those things that make you
one day those things that make you
one day those things that make you different are the things that make
different are the things that make
different are the things that make unique and unique you special different
unique and unique you special different
unique and unique you special different doesn’t have to be a bad thing different
doesn’t have to be a bad thing different
doesn’t have to be a bad thing different is beautiful I’m as ready as I’ll ever
is beautiful I’m as ready as I’ll ever
is beautiful I’m as ready as I’ll ever be for the challenge a dream I will
be for the challenge a dream I will
be for the challenge a dream I will gladly be the next member I’m telling
gladly be the next member I’m telling
gladly be the next member I’m telling you even the rap part I know I’m pretty
you even the rap part I know I’m pretty
you even the rap part I know I’m pretty good at accents I usually do a British
good at accents I usually do a British
good at accents I usually do a British one when I’m in Starbucks or some
one when I’m in Starbucks or some
one when I’m in Starbucks or some wherever I’m getting coffee I like to
wherever I’m getting coffee I like to
wherever I’m getting coffee I like to order a mocha frappuccino with whipped
order a mocha frappuccino with whipped
order a mocha frappuccino with whipped cream and extra I seem like a totally
cream and extra I seem like a totally
cream and extra I seem like a totally going valley girl a mocha latte but it
going valley girl a mocha latte but it
going valley girl a mocha latte but it has to be like 102 degrees
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you learn from this video what lesson really hit home the hardest what are you
really hit home the hardest what are you
really hit home the hardest what are you going to immediately apply somehow to
going to immediately apply somehow to
going to immediately apply somehow to your life or to your business leave it
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curious to find out I also want to give
curious to find out I also want to give a quick shout out to Rebecca
a quick shout out to Rebecca
a quick shout out to Rebecca Coleman Rebecca thank you so much for
Coleman Rebecca thank you so much for
Coleman Rebecca thank you so much for picking up the e copy of my book your
picking up the e copy of my book your
picking up the e copy of my book your one word taking that picture posting
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online
online I really really appreciate the support
I really really appreciate the support
I really really appreciate the support and I’m so glad that you enjoyed the
and I’m so glad that you enjoyed the
and I’m so glad that you enjoyed the book thank you guys again for watching I
book thank you guys again for watching I
book thank you guys again for watching I believe in you I hope you continue to
believe in you I hope you continue to
believe in you I hope you continue to believe in yourself and whatever your
believe in yourself and whatever your
believe in yourself and whatever your one word is much love I’ll see you soon
I would constantly get the note from
I would constantly get the note from Warren to let go more and it’s not
Warren to let go more and it’s not
Warren to let go more and it’s not something that I’ve never been told
something that I’ve never been told
something that I’ve never been told before so I was very hyper aware of it
before so I was very hyper aware of it
before so I was very hyper aware of it when he said it and I just didn’t quite
when he said it and I just didn’t quite
when he said it and I just didn’t quite realize how useful and almost kind of
realize how useful and almost kind of
realize how useful and almost kind of magical things can get when you just let
magical things can get when you just let
magical things can get when you just let go and especially when you’re doing take
go and especially when you’re doing take
go and especially when you’re doing take after take after take you start to have
after take after take you start to have
after take after take you start to have to just relinquish all self control in a
to just relinquish all self control in a
to just relinquish all self control in a way and and really stop thinking so much
way and and really stop thinking so much
way and and really stop thinking so much about what you would plan to do even as
about what you would plan to do even as
about what you would plan to do even as an actor you know I know that it’s all
an actor you know I know that it’s all
an actor you know I know that it’s all in those spontaneous moments but you do
in those spontaneous moments but you do
in those spontaneous moments but you do kind of have a bit of a guideline of
kind of have a bit of a guideline of
kind of have a bit of a guideline of where you’re going but once you get to
where you’re going but once you get to
where you’re going but once you get to that you know fifth sixth seventh take
that you know fifth sixth seventh take
that you know fifth sixth seventh take you have to start playing around in ways
you have to start playing around in ways
you have to start playing around in ways that you weren’t even expecting and it’s
that you weren’t even expecting and it’s
that you weren’t even expecting and it’s in those moments that sometimes the most
in those moments that sometimes the most
in those moments that sometimes the most brilliant moments that would never have
brilliant moments that would never have
brilliant moments that would never have happened had it just been on take one
happened had it just been on take one
happened had it just been on take one what would happen and so I think I’m
what would happen and so I think I’m
what would happen and so I think I’m always gonna take that with me
always gonna take that with me
always gonna take that with me both my mom and my dad always have
both my mom and my dad always have
both my mom and my dad always have encouraged me to do what I’m passionate
encouraged me to do what I’m passionate
encouraged me to do what I’m passionate about and as long as you’re choosing the
about and as long as you’re choosing the
about and as long as you’re choosing the decision because you feel it’s right for
decision because you feel it’s right for
decision because you feel it’s right for you you can’t have any regrets and no
you you can’t have any regrets and no
you you can’t have any regrets and no one can tell you that it’s the wrong
one can tell you that it’s the wrong
one can tell you that it’s the wrong decision for you so they always knew
decision for you so they always knew
decision for you so they always knew that I like to play dress-up and be
that I like to play dress-up and be
that I like to play dress-up and be creative so I think it was quite an ever
creative so I think it was quite an ever
creative so I think it was quite an ever table that I’ll be playing characters as
table that I’ll be playing characters as
table that I’ll be playing characters as I got older if you have to think of one
I got older if you have to think of one
I got older if you have to think of one word that’s most important to you or
word that’s most important to you or
word that’s most important to you or that sums you Apple that would be like a
that sums you Apple that would be like a
that sums you Apple that would be like a little beacon they believe nation if you
little beacon they believe nation if you
little beacon they believe nation if you want to know what the most important one
want to know what the most important one
want to know what the most important one word is for Tony Robbins Gary Vaynerchuk
word is for Tony Robbins Gary Vaynerchuk
word is for Tony Robbins Gary Vaynerchuk Oprah Winfrey will.i.am and Howard
Oprah Winfrey will.i.am and Howard
Oprah Winfrey will.i.am and Howard Schultz I have a very special secret
Schultz I have a very special secret
Schultz I have a very special secret video for you check the description for
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