okay I can do this I got here I’m sick I’m still here oh my god my voice I
I’m still here oh my god my voice I
I’m still here oh my god my voice I sound like I sound like Ivana Chubbuck
sound like I sound like Ivana Chubbuck
sound like I sound like Ivana Chubbuck nice slow smoking voice okay rise and
nice slow smoking voice okay rise and
nice slow smoking voice okay rise and shine it’s in spresso time
shine it’s in spresso time
shine it’s in spresso time good morning belief nation my name is
good morning belief nation my name is
good morning belief nation my name is Lily and my one word is extraordinary I
Lily and my one word is extraordinary I
Lily and my one word is extraordinary I believe that every single human being is
believe that every single human being is
believe that every single human being is capable of extraordinary things when
capable of extraordinary things when
capable of extraordinary things when they embrace who they truly are so let’s
they embrace who they truly are so let’s
they embrace who they truly are so let’s start your day off right together go
start your day off right together go
start your day off right together go grab yourself a cup of coffee and sip on
grab yourself a cup of coffee and sip on
grab yourself a cup of coffee and sip on today’s message own your life over to
today’s message own your life over to
today’s message own your life over to you Chris Gardner as jarring and strange
you Chris Gardner as jarring and strange
you Chris Gardner as jarring and strange as change can be there were times when
as change can be there were times when
as change can be there were times when it was hard to imagine that my life
it was hard to imagine that my life
it was hard to imagine that my life would be what it is today
would be what it is today
would be what it is today especially the time when my son and I
especially the time when my son and I
especially the time when my son and I were living in that bathroom maybe
were living in that bathroom maybe
were living in that bathroom maybe remember that scene in the movie there
remember that scene in the movie there
remember that scene in the movie there was a highly polished sheet metal piece
was a highly polished sheet metal piece
was a highly polished sheet metal piece over a sink it wasn’t a mirror but it
over a sink it wasn’t a mirror but it
over a sink it wasn’t a mirror but it served as a mirror and I had to wash
served as a mirror and I had to wash
served as a mirror and I had to wash myself in that baby every day watch my
myself in that baby every day watch my
myself in that baby every day watch my baby in this sink and had to ask myself
baby in this sink and had to ask myself
baby in this sink and had to ask myself some very predictable questions what
some very predictable questions what
some very predictable questions what happened why did this happen why did
happened why did this happen why did
happened why did this happen why did that happen but the most difficult
that happen but the most difficult
that happen but the most difficult question I had to get through was how
question I had to get through was how
question I had to get through was how did I get here and the answer was even
did I get here and the answer was even
did I get here and the answer was even more brutal the answer was I drove here
more brutal the answer was I drove here
more brutal the answer was I drove here I had something to do with it
I had something to do with it
I had something to do with it you can’t change something until you own
you can’t change something until you own
you can’t change something until you own it so if you’re 50 plus and you’re
it so if you’re 50 plus and you’re
it so if you’re 50 plus and you’re sitting out there and pointing fingers
sitting out there and pointing fingers
sitting out there and pointing fingers at other people you can do that for a
at other people you can do that for a
at other people you can do that for a long time but it’s hard to look in the
long time but it’s hard to look in the
long time but it’s hard to look in the mirror and say how did I get here and
mirror and say how did I get here and
mirror and say how did I get here and have the answer be I drove here I had
have the answer be I drove here I had
have the answer be I drove here I had something to do with it it’s
something to do with it it’s
something to do with it it’s uncomfortable to admit that well I made
uncomfortable to admit that well I made
uncomfortable to admit that well I made some bad decisions I made some
some bad decisions I made some
some bad decisions I made some investments
investments
investments I made I had something to do with it
I made I had something to do with it
I made I had something to do with it well that man sold me that house with no
well that man sold me that house with no
well that man sold me that house with no money down I should have told him what
money down I should have told him what
money down I should have told him what he could do at that house huh when I
he could do at that house huh when I
he could do at that house huh when I signed that adjustable rate mortgage we
signed that adjustable rate mortgage we
signed that adjustable rate mortgage we all know these things only adjust
all know these things only adjust
all know these things only adjust upwards no one’s ever gonna call you and
upwards no one’s ever gonna call you and
upwards no one’s ever gonna call you and say guess what you go pay less for your
say guess what you go pay less for your
say guess what you go pay less for your money your house next year angle happen
money your house next year angle happen
money your house next year angle happen so the idea of I drove here is
so the idea of I drove here is
so the idea of I drove here is empowering because the other side of it
empowering because the other side of it
empowering because the other side of it is if I drove here that means I can
is if I drove here that means I can
is if I drove here that means I can drive out of here I have to own it and
drive out of here I have to own it and
drive out of here I have to own it and that bathroom I finally had to
that bathroom I finally had to
that bathroom I finally had to understand what my mama used to say to
understand what my mama used to say to
understand what my mama used to say to me where she would say boy to Calvary is
me where she would say boy to Calvary is
me where she would say boy to Calvary is not coming
not coming
not coming ain’t no backup I was 28 years old when
ain’t no backup I was 28 years old when
ain’t no backup I was 28 years old when that part of my life happened change was
that part of my life happened change was
that part of my life happened change was coming fast and you know what changes
coming fast and you know what changes
coming fast and you know what changes everywhere all the time social change
everywhere all the time social change
everywhere all the time social change technical logical change and the most
technical logical change and the most
technical logical change and the most potent of all personal change the most
potent of all personal change the most
potent of all personal change the most urgent question today is not so much as
urgent question today is not so much as
urgent question today is not so much as what are my values and who are we the
what are my values and who are we the
what are my values and who are we the urgent question on these times of
urgent question on these times of
urgent question on these times of constant changes how exactly are you
constant changes how exactly are you
constant changes how exactly are you going to navigate these new realities
going to navigate these new realities
going to navigate these new realities put another way what are you going to do
put another way what are you going to do
put another way what are you going to do I love this message I think it’s so
I love this message I think it’s so
I love this message I think it’s so important to take ownership of your life
important to take ownership of your life
important to take ownership of your life and take responsibility for everything
and take responsibility for everything
and take responsibility for everything good and bad and I know sometimes it’s
good and bad and I know sometimes it’s
good and bad and I know sometimes it’s so hard to actually do that because bad
so hard to actually do that because bad
so hard to actually do that because bad things do happen to good people but
things do happen to good people but
things do happen to good people but blaming others and blaming the situation
blaming others and blaming the situation
blaming others and blaming the situation blaming on government regulations is not
blaming on government regulations is not
blaming on government regulations is not going to do you any good it’s actually
going to do you any good it’s actually
going to do you any good it’s actually detrimental to your own well-being if
detrimental to your own well-being if
detrimental to your own well-being if you take responsibility for you live
you take responsibility for you live
you take responsibility for you live you’ll see how you can actually open up
you’ll see how you can actually open up
you’ll see how you can actually open up all sorts of opportunities for yourself
all sorts of opportunities for yourself
all sorts of opportunities for yourself and it’s actually very very empowering
and it’s actually very very empowering
and it’s actually very very empowering so when I was 18 years old I wasn’t a
so when I was 18 years old I wasn’t a
so when I was 18 years old I wasn’t a really crappy relationship I was in a
really crappy relationship I was in a
really crappy relationship I was in a relationship with someone who constantly
relationship with someone who constantly
relationship with someone who constantly cheated on me all the time multiple
cheated on me all the time multiple
cheated on me all the time multiple times with multiple people and I knew
times with multiple people and I knew
times with multiple people and I knew about it and I remember receiving a
about it and I remember receiving a
about it and I remember receiving a phone call from one of my really close
phone call from one of my really close
phone call from one of my really close friends telling me that he did it again
friends telling me that he did it again
friends telling me that he did it again he cheated on me and she saw it and I
he cheated on me and she saw it and I
he cheated on me and she saw it and I remember sitting at the edge of my bed
remember sitting at the edge of my bed
remember sitting at the edge of my bed freaking out panicking is like I cannot
freaking out panicking is like I cannot
freaking out panicking is like I cannot believe this has happened to me again I
believe this has happened to me again I
believe this has happened to me again I cannot believe what a jerk he is that he
cannot believe what a jerk he is that he
cannot believe what a jerk he is that he has done it again this is so unfair I
has done it again this is so unfair I
has done it again this is so unfair I have been nothing but good to him I’ve
have been nothing but good to him I’ve
have been nothing but good to him I’ve been nothing but a great girlfriend and
been nothing but a great girlfriend and
been nothing but a great girlfriend and have done everything that I could why
have done everything that I could why
have done everything that I could why did he do this again to me and how did I
did he do this again to me and how did I
did he do this again to me and how did I even get here and I kept on saying how
even get here and I kept on saying how
even get here and I kept on saying how did I even get here how did I even get
did I even get here how did I even get
did I even get here how did I even get here
here
here and this weird voice kind of appeared
and this weird voice kind of appeared
and this weird voice kind of appeared out of nowhere and she said girl it’s
out of nowhere and she said girl it’s
out of nowhere and she said girl it’s your fault you’re the reason why you’re
your fault you’re the reason why you’re
your fault you’re the reason why you’re here in this situation you knew that he
here in this situation you knew that he
here in this situation you knew that he was not good for you you knew that he
was not good for you you knew that he
was not good for you you knew that he cheats on you you knew that he would lie
cheats on you you knew that he would lie
cheats on you you knew that he would lie to you but you kept on going back over
to you but you kept on going back over
to you but you kept on going back over and over again and at first I was like
and over again and at first I was like
and over again and at first I was like no it’s not my fault it’s his fault and
no it’s not my fault it’s his fault and
no it’s not my fault it’s his fault and I kept on fighting with myself and
I kept on fighting with myself and
I kept on fighting with myself and eventually I knew was my fault to
eventually I knew was my fault to
eventually I knew was my fault to continue on in this relationship so I
continue on in this relationship so I
continue on in this relationship so I took responsibility at the age of 18 to
took responsibility at the age of 18 to
took responsibility at the age of 18 to completely cut out that relationship and
completely cut out that relationship and
completely cut out that relationship and move on with my life I actually ended at
move on with my life I actually ended at
move on with my life I actually ended at that night and since then I haven’t
that night and since then I haven’t
that night and since then I haven’t and I apply the same philosophy in
and I apply the same philosophy in
and I apply the same philosophy in everything that I do anytime I’m in a
everything that I do anytime I’m in a
everything that I do anytime I’m in a situation that I feel like oh my god I
situation that I feel like oh my god I
situation that I feel like oh my god I can’t believe this happened to me again
can’t believe this happened to me again
can’t believe this happened to me again I think to myself how much of it has to
I think to myself how much of it has to
I think to myself how much of it has to do with me sometimes it’s a hundred
do with me sometimes it’s a hundred
do with me sometimes it’s a hundred percent my fault and sometimes it’s two
percent my fault and sometimes it’s two
percent my fault and sometimes it’s two percent but I’m the common denominator
percent but I’m the common denominator
percent but I’m the common denominator it always comes back to me and as as
it always comes back to me and as as
it always comes back to me and as as soon as I know that I know I could get
soon as I know that I know I could get
soon as I know that I know I could get myself out and that is more empowering
myself out and that is more empowering
myself out and that is more empowering than anything else so next time you’re
than anything else so next time you’re
than anything else so next time you’re in a situation that you’re like oh my
in a situation that you’re like oh my
in a situation that you’re like oh my god this is horrible
god this is horrible
god this is horrible I cannot believe it this has happened to
I cannot believe it this has happened to
I cannot believe it this has happened to me I’m such a victim in this and you
me I’m such a victim in this and you
me I’m such a victim in this and you want to point and fingers on different
want to point and fingers on different
want to point and fingers on different people and blame it on other people
people and blame it on other people
people and blame it on other people blaming government regulations whatever
blaming government regulations whatever
blaming government regulations whatever you like I have no control over that but
you like I have no control over that but
you like I have no control over that but you do you have control over yourself if
you do you have control over yourself if
you do you have control over yourself if you want things to work out your way and
you want things to work out your way and
you want things to work out your way and you want success and happiness and joy
you want success and happiness and joy
you want success and happiness and joy in your life you need to own your life
in your life you need to own your life
in your life you need to own your life and the question of the day is what is
and the question of the day is what is
and the question of the day is what is that terrible event that happened to you
that terrible event that happened to you
that terrible event that happened to you that you need to take ownership for
that you need to take ownership for
that you need to take ownership for right now write in the comments below
right now write in the comments below
right now write in the comments below and I’ll join in on the discussion and
and I’ll join in on the discussion and
and I’ll join in on the discussion and have a special shout out for Danny
have a special shout out for Danny
have a special shout out for Danny Collins Danny thank you so much for
Collins Danny thank you so much for
Collins Danny thank you so much for picking up a copy of Evans book top ten
picking up a copy of Evans book top ten
picking up a copy of Evans book top ten rules for success and taking that
rules for success and taking that
rules for success and taking that awesome picture next to it
awesome picture next to it
awesome picture next to it we really appreciate your support and I
we really appreciate your support and I
we really appreciate your support and I hope you’re enjoying the read and thank
hope you’re enjoying the read and thank
hope you’re enjoying the read and thank you so much for watching we believe in
you so much for watching we believe in
you so much for watching we believe in you and hope you continue to believe in
you and hope you continue to believe in
you and hope you continue to believe in yourself and whatever your one word is
yourself and whatever your one word is
yourself and whatever your one word is and we’ll see you again tomorrow morning
and we’ll see you again tomorrow morning
and we’ll see you again tomorrow morning for another shot of an espresso
[Music]
[Music] you
I was working once at an ice cream
I was working once at an ice cream parlor when I was about 15 years old my
parlor when I was about 15 years old my
parlor when I was about 15 years old my first real job and on the second day I
first real job and on the second day I
first real job and on the second day I was asked to scrape the gum off between
was asked to scrape the gum off between
was asked to scrape the gum off between the Mexican tiles on the floor and I
the Mexican tiles on the floor and I
the Mexican tiles on the floor and I said to the woman who owned the storms
said to the woman who owned the storms
said to the woman who owned the storms called Magoo’s ice cream parlor you
called Magoo’s ice cream parlor you
called Magoo’s ice cream parlor you didn’t hire me to scrape gum you hired
didn’t hire me to scrape gum you hired
didn’t hire me to scrape gum you hired me to scoop ice cream and this this girl
me to scoop ice cream and this this girl
me to scoop ice cream and this this girl this shoe store across the way that’s
this shoe store across the way that’s
this shoe store across the way that’s looking at me I don’t want to see her me
looking at me I don’t want to see her me
looking at me I don’t want to see her me scraping the gum and she said what are
scraping the gum and she said what are
scraping the gum and she said what are you talking about I own this store I’ll
you talking about I own this store I’ll
you talking about I own this store I’ll do anything I want with you get down on
do anything I want with you get down on
do anything I want with you get down on your knees and scrape that gum what I
your knees and scrape that gum what I
your knees and scrape that gum what I said I’m not doing it
said I’m not doing it
said I’m not doing it she said you’re fired last job I ever
she said you’re fired last job I ever
she said you’re fired last job I ever had I owe that woman everything I don’t
had I owe that woman everything I don’t
had I owe that woman everything I don’t like to work for people many of you in
like to work for people many of you in
like to work for people many of you in here I hope and inherit that there’s
here I hope and inherit that there’s
here I hope and inherit that there’s nothing wrong with it if you want to
nothing wrong with it if you want to
nothing wrong with it if you want to control your own destiny you work for
control your own destiny you work for
control your own destiny you work for yourself that’s how it works I’m trying
yourself that’s how it works I’m trying
yourself that’s how it works I’m trying to inspire those of you are on the
to inspire those of you are on the
to inspire those of you are on the tipping point take the chance you’re
tipping point take the chance you’re
tipping point take the chance you’re young go for it there’s nothing better
young go for it there’s nothing better
young go for it there’s nothing better than being able to wake up in the
than being able to wake up in the
than being able to wake up in the morning 10 years or 20 years so now and
morning 10 years or 20 years so now and
morning 10 years or 20 years so now and do what ever you like it’s about freedom
do what ever you like it’s about freedom
do what ever you like it’s about freedom that’s what matters
that’s what matters
that’s what matters I’m not saying being an employee’s bad
I’m not saying being an employee’s bad
I’m not saying being an employee’s bad but believe me being an entrepreneur is
but believe me being an entrepreneur is
but believe me being an entrepreneur is better I’m a little bias if you’re an
better I’m a little bias if you’re an
better I’m a little bias if you’re an artist or a filmmaker or content creator
artist or a filmmaker or content creator
artist or a filmmaker or content creator in general do you feel like you
in general do you feel like you
in general do you feel like you shouldn’t even go mainstream towards TV
shouldn’t even go mainstream towards TV
shouldn’t even go mainstream towards TV or towards film or towards working with
or towards film or towards working with
or towards film or towards working with a music label or should you focus on
a music label or should you focus on
a music label or should you focus on creating it all yourself because it it
creating it all yourself because it it
creating it all yourself because it it still helps a lot of people who don’t
still helps a lot of people who don’t
still helps a lot of people who don’t know how to do the online so yeah I mean
know how to do the online so yeah I mean
know how to do the online so yeah I mean look there’s there’s no answer to that
look there’s there’s no answer to that
look there’s there’s no answer to that question I think that it’s one thing
question I think that it’s one thing
question I think that it’s one thing that everybody but the successful people
that everybody but the successful people
that everybody but the successful people fail to realize about any creative
fail to realize about any creative
fail to realize about any creative industry is that there is absolutely no
industry is that there is absolutely no
industry is that there is absolutely no defined path there isn’t one so it’s
defined path there isn’t one so it’s
defined path there isn’t one so it’s about paving your own path and now for
about paving your own path and now for
about paving your own path and now for me my path and then mainstream just
me my path and then mainstream just
me my path and then mainstream just didn’t work
didn’t work
didn’t work and new media did work and for other
and new media did work and for other
and new media did work and for other people it’s entirely antithetical to
people it’s entirely antithetical to
people it’s entirely antithetical to that where mainstream is exactly the
that where mainstream is exactly the
that where mainstream is exactly the right place for them so there is no
right place for them so there is no
right place for them so there is no formula that’s that’s right or wrong I’m
formula that’s that’s right or wrong I’m
formula that’s that’s right or wrong I’m just much better versed in my own sure
just much better versed in my own sure
just much better versed in my own sure the trajectory that I found myself and
the trajectory that I found myself and
the trajectory that I found myself and that includes really running away from
that includes really running away from
that includes really running away from the establishment into whatever the most
the establishment into whatever the most
the establishment into whatever the most forward-thinking space is my whole
forward-thinking space is my whole
forward-thinking space is my whole career has been in some way or another a
career has been in some way or another a
career has been in some way or another a struggle against my own doubts all along
struggle against my own doubts all along
struggle against my own doubts all along the way as much as people said gosh
the way as much as people said gosh
the way as much as people said gosh you’re so confident you know that
you’re so confident you know that
you’re so confident you know that higher-performance guy and everything
higher-performance guy and everything
higher-performance guy and everything else I’m like yeah but it doesn’t mean I
else I’m like yeah but it doesn’t mean I
else I’m like yeah but it doesn’t mean I don’t struggle matter of fact I probably
don’t struggle matter of fact I probably
don’t struggle matter of fact I probably put myself in situations where I must be
put myself in situations where I must be
put myself in situations where I must be challenged and I must struggle more than
challenged and I must struggle more than
challenged and I must struggle more than any normal sane person you know I’m
any normal sane person you know I’m
any normal sane person you know I’m constantly pushing myself all the time
constantly pushing myself all the time
constantly pushing myself all the time because I evaluate struggle is something
because I evaluate struggle is something
because I evaluate struggle is something to be honored you know it used to be
to be honored you know it used to be
to be honored you know it used to be strong goal a struggle was something
strong goal a struggle was something
strong goal a struggle was something that was was truly honored by people
that was was truly honored by people
that was was truly honored by people they thought that was something to build
they thought that was something to build
they thought that was something to build character they thought that that was
character they thought that that was
character they thought that that was something that was good and now we’ve
something that was good and now we’ve
something that was good and now we’ve got to be such a convenient driven
got to be such a convenient driven
got to be such a convenient driven society that’s into ease and so much to
society that’s into ease and so much to
society that’s into ease and so much to just I think an unbelievable level of
just I think an unbelievable level of
just I think an unbelievable level of engage by M Sartre entitlement where
engage by M Sartre entitlement where
engage by M Sartre entitlement where people don’t think they have to earn it
people don’t think they have to earn it
people don’t think they have to earn it and I’m always like wait you know if you
and I’m always like wait you know if you
and I’m always like wait you know if you have a dream never forget if you knock
have a dream never forget if you knock
have a dream never forget if you knock on the door of opportunity that it is
on the door of opportunity that it is
on the door of opportunity that it is work who answers you know it takes a lot
work who answers you know it takes a lot
work who answers you know it takes a lot of work to achieve your bigger dreams to
of work to achieve your bigger dreams to
of work to achieve your bigger dreams to to become the best you you can be to
to become the best you you can be to
to become the best you you can be to serve more to create more to contribute
serve more to create more to contribute
serve more to create more to contribute that highest level and it’s a long word
that highest level and it’s a long word
that highest level and it’s a long word [Music]
[Music]
[Music] if you had to think of one word that’s
if you had to think of one word that’s
if you had to think of one word that’s most important to you or that sums you
most important to you or that sums you
most important to you or that sums you up or so it would be like a little
up or so it would be like a little
up or so it would be like a little beacon hey believe nation if you want to
beacon hey believe nation if you want to
beacon hey believe nation if you want to know what the most important one word is
know what the most important one word is
know what the most important one word is for Tony Robbins Gary Vaynerchuk Oprah
for Tony Robbins Gary Vaynerchuk Oprah
for Tony Robbins Gary Vaynerchuk Oprah Winfrey will.i.am and Howard Schultz I
Winfrey will.i.am and Howard Schultz I
Winfrey will.i.am and Howard Schultz I have a very special secret video for you
have a very special secret video for you
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