you’ve got to remember that any feeling you’ve ever had in your body whether it
you’ve ever had in your body whether it
you’ve ever had in your body whether it be fear anxiety concern depression
be fear anxiety concern depression
be fear anxiety concern depression frustration or ecstasy power unstoppable
frustration or ecstasy power unstoppable
frustration or ecstasy power unstoppable ‘ti confidence success those emotions
‘ti confidence success those emotions
‘ti confidence success those emotions any emotion you feel comes from the way
any emotion you feel comes from the way
any emotion you feel comes from the way you use your physical body the only way
you use your physical body the only way
you use your physical body the only way you can feel anything is by the way you
you can feel anything is by the way you
you can feel anything is by the way you move the way you breathe your facial
move the way you breathe your facial
move the way you breathe your facial expressions so if you’re not feeling
expressions so if you’re not feeling
expressions so if you’re not feeling confident you don’t have to
confident you don’t have to
confident you don’t have to intellectually try and pump yourself up
intellectually try and pump yourself up
intellectually try and pump yourself up because it doesn’t always work
because it doesn’t always work
because it doesn’t always work I’m sure you’ve tried it time to go well
I’m sure you’ve tried it time to go well
I’m sure you’ve tried it time to go well I need to be confident I know I should
I need to be confident I know I should
I need to be confident I know I should be confident but you’re still not there
be confident but you’re still not there
be confident but you’re still not there well let me tell you the quickest way to
well let me tell you the quickest way to
well let me tell you the quickest way to get confident is to change your
get confident is to change your
get confident is to change your physiology radically today’s focus is on
physiology radically today’s focus is on
physiology radically today’s focus is on how to eliminate self-sabotage you know
how to eliminate self-sabotage you know
how to eliminate self-sabotage you know when I talk to people about succeeding
when I talk to people about succeeding
when I talk to people about succeeding in their lives really making their goals
in their lives really making their goals
in their lives really making their goals and dreams a reality invariably they say
and dreams a reality invariably they say
and dreams a reality invariably they say you know I really go for it but just
you know I really go for it but just
you know I really go for it but just somehow manage to screw things up for
somehow manage to screw things up for
somehow manage to screw things up for myself just what I’m about to really
myself just what I’m about to really
myself just what I’m about to really make things happen all of a sudden
make things happen all of a sudden
make things happen all of a sudden whammo I don’t show up for a key meeting
whammo I don’t show up for a key meeting
whammo I don’t show up for a key meeting or I say the wrong thing or I treat
or I say the wrong thing or I treat
or I say the wrong thing or I treat somebody mean or I just don’t follow
somebody mean or I just don’t follow
somebody mean or I just don’t follow through and I don’t understand it I
through and I don’t understand it I
through and I don’t understand it I don’t know why I keep sabotaging myself
don’t know why I keep sabotaging myself
don’t know why I keep sabotaging myself in this way hey sabotage only comes for
in this way hey sabotage only comes for
in this way hey sabotage only comes for one reason and we said this over and
one reason and we said this over and
one reason and we said this over and over again and we’re gonna keep saying
over again and we’re gonna keep saying
over again and we’re gonna keep saying it because it is the foundation to
it because it is the foundation to
it because it is the foundation to understanding human behavior if you’re
understanding human behavior if you’re
understanding human behavior if you’re sabotaging yourself it means you’re
sabotaging yourself it means you’re
sabotaging yourself it means you’re stopping yourself from following through
stopping yourself from following through
stopping yourself from following through right why would you do that take a wild
right why would you do that take a wild
right why would you do that take a wild guess because you associate more pain to
guess because you associate more pain to
guess because you associate more pain to following through you’re sabotaging
following through you’re sabotaging
following through you’re sabotaging yourself as a way of stopping yourself
yourself as a way of stopping yourself
yourself as a way of stopping yourself from doing something that you think on
from doing something that you think on
from doing something that you think on some level is gonna create a lot of pain
some level is gonna create a lot of pain
some level is gonna create a lot of pain in your life now some people think
in your life now some people think
in your life now some people think succeeding is gonna create pain it’s
succeeding is gonna create pain it’s
succeeding is gonna create pain it’s gonna make sure they feel alone or
gonna make sure they feel alone or
gonna make sure they feel alone or separate from other people remember
separate from other people remember
separate from other people remember we’ve talked about this so as they start
we’ve talked about this so as they start
we’ve talked about this so as they start to get close to succeeding
to get close to succeeding
to get close to succeeding wham-o they sabotage why cuz their brain
wham-o they sabotage why cuz their brain
wham-o they sabotage why cuz their brain notices that hey the more I succeed
notices that hey the more I succeed
notices that hey the more I succeed people around me don’t seem to get too
people around me don’t seem to get too
people around me don’t seem to get too jazzed about it when I fail they go oh
jazzed about it when I fail they go oh
jazzed about it when I fail they go oh come here gosh let me talk to you how’s
come here gosh let me talk to you how’s
come here gosh let me talk to you how’s it going but when they succeed they go
it going but when they succeed they go
it going but when they succeed they go yeah easy for you buddy
yeah easy for you buddy
yeah easy for you buddy well that kind of conditioning no wonder
well that kind of conditioning no wonder
well that kind of conditioning no wonder people sabotage we’ve got to take
people sabotage we’ve got to take
people sabotage we’ve got to take control back in a way we take control
control back in a way we take control
control back in a way we take control back again
back again
back again as we’ve done over the last two tapes of
as we’ve done over the last two tapes of
as we’ve done over the last two tapes of conditioning ourselves is to change our
conditioning ourselves is to change our
conditioning ourselves is to change our associations to the thing that we’re
associations to the thing that we’re
associations to the thing that we’re sabotaging now let me bring up another
sabotaging now let me bring up another
sabotaging now let me bring up another point that I think is equally maybe even
point that I think is equally maybe even
point that I think is equally maybe even more important that is this a lot of us
more important that is this a lot of us
more important that is this a lot of us jump to conclusions about sabotage you
jump to conclusions about sabotage you
jump to conclusions about sabotage you know a lot of people say well gosh you
know a lot of people say well gosh you
know a lot of people say well gosh you know I just keep sabotaging my success
know I just keep sabotaging my success
know I just keep sabotaging my success and when I say to them is are you
and when I say to them is are you
and when I say to them is are you sabotaging your success or are you just
sabotaging your success or are you just
sabotaging your success or are you just doing stupid things what I mean by that
doing stupid things what I mean by that
doing stupid things what I mean by that is not everything you do that takes away
is not everything you do that takes away
is not everything you do that takes away from your possibility of succeeding as a
from your possibility of succeeding as a
from your possibility of succeeding as a result of self sabotage sometimes you
result of self sabotage sometimes you
result of self sabotage sometimes you just make poor decisions and you don’t
just make poor decisions and you don’t
just make poor decisions and you don’t want to start making up in your head
want to start making up in your head
want to start making up in your head that there’s this giant pattern
that there’s this giant pattern
that there’s this giant pattern dominating your life and a lot of people
dominating your life and a lot of people
dominating your life and a lot of people do that
do that
do that for example this woman in a seminar
for example this woman in a seminar
for example this woman in a seminar recently stood up and she said well gosh
recently stood up and she said well gosh
recently stood up and she said well gosh I just sabotage myself all the time I
I just sabotage myself all the time I
I just sabotage myself all the time I said well what do you mean she said well
said well what do you mean she said well
said well what do you mean she said well you know like the other day she said I
you know like the other day she said I
you know like the other day she said I was late for work for the second time I
was late for work for the second time I
was late for work for the second time I said well what does that mean she goes
said well what does that mean she goes
said well what does that mean she goes well I was late and that screws things
well I was late and that screws things
well I was late and that screws things up I must be sabotaging myself I saw
up I must be sabotaging myself I saw
up I must be sabotaging myself I saw maybe it just got caught up and what you
maybe it just got caught up and what you
maybe it just got caught up and what you were doing she goes no I think I
were doing she goes no I think I
were doing she goes no I think I sabotage myself I said well why else she
sabotage myself I said well why else she
sabotage myself I said well why else she said well because not only was I late
said well because not only was I late
said well because not only was I late but also I forgot some of my things at
but also I forgot some of my things at
but also I forgot some of my things at home so I wasn’t just late I left my
home so I wasn’t just late I left my
home so I wasn’t just late I left my books at home so I couldn’t have conduct
books at home so I couldn’t have conduct
books at home so I couldn’t have conduct the appropriate meeting I know are
the appropriate meeting I know are
the appropriate meeting I know are sabotaging I said well how often does
sabotaging I said well how often does
sabotaging I said well how often does this happen she goes well I don’t know
this happen she goes well I don’t know
this happen she goes well I don’t know maybe once or twice a month I said well
maybe once or twice a month I said well
maybe once or twice a month I said well maybe ma’am you’re not self sabotaging
maybe ma’am you’re not self sabotaging
maybe ma’am you’re not self sabotaging maybe you’re just not paying attention I
maybe you’re just not paying attention I
maybe you’re just not paying attention I mean so be careful about generating this
mean so be careful about generating this
mean so be careful about generating this as a generalization in your mind does
as a generalization in your mind does
as a generalization in your mind does that make sense don’t get caught up and
that make sense don’t get caught up and
that make sense don’t get caught up and creating a belief system when maybe
creating a belief system when maybe
creating a belief system when maybe something’s not there on the other hand
something’s not there on the other hand
something’s not there on the other hand if you do have a pattern realize that
if you do have a pattern realize that
if you do have a pattern realize that any pattern you have including self
any pattern you have including self
any pattern you have including self sabotage still comes back to one thing
sabotage still comes back to one thing
sabotage still comes back to one thing human beings no matter what we’re doing
human beings no matter what we’re doing
human beings no matter what we’re doing including sabotaging ourselves we do it
including sabotaging ourselves we do it
including sabotaging ourselves we do it for a positive intent I want you to get
for a positive intent I want you to get
for a positive intent I want you to get that anything we do we do for a positive
that anything we do we do for a positive
that anything we do we do for a positive intent for example if you smoke
intent for example if you smoke
intent for example if you smoke cigarettes you’re not doing it to try
cigarettes you’re not doing it to try
cigarettes you’re not doing it to try and create cancer in your body and
and create cancer in your body and
and create cancer in your body and destroy yourself that’s not the intent
destroy yourself that’s not the intent
destroy yourself that’s not the intent the intent is your brain long ago linked
the intent is your brain long ago linked
the intent is your brain long ago linked up hey if I’m bored or if I’m frustrated
up hey if I’m bored or if I’m frustrated
up hey if I’m bored or if I’m frustrated or if I’m feeling some kind of pain of
or if I’m feeling some kind of pain of
or if I’m feeling some kind of pain of some sort that this is a way to distract
some sort that this is a way to distract
some sort that this is a way to distract myself this is literally a way to get
myself this is literally a way to get
myself this is literally a way to get rid of the pain
rid of the pain
rid of the pain and create some pleasure that’s what
and create some pleasure that’s what
and create some pleasure that’s what your brain is learn to do so the intent
your brain is learn to do so the intent
your brain is learn to do so the intent was smoking is not to try and sabotage
was smoking is not to try and sabotage
was smoking is not to try and sabotage you to sabotage the physical sabotage
you to sabotage the physical sabotage
you to sabotage the physical sabotage that obviously cigarettes create for us
that obviously cigarettes create for us
that obviously cigarettes create for us is not about creating sabotage it’s
is not about creating sabotage it’s
is not about creating sabotage it’s about creating pleasure and avoiding
about creating pleasure and avoiding
about creating pleasure and avoiding pain you follow me we do the same thing
pain you follow me we do the same thing
pain you follow me we do the same thing with alcohol we do the same thing of use
with alcohol we do the same thing of use
with alcohol we do the same thing of use drugs you do the same thing if you watch
drugs you do the same thing if you watch
drugs you do the same thing if you watch TV too much you do the same thing if you
TV too much you do the same thing if you
TV too much you do the same thing if you don’t show up for meetings there is
don’t show up for meetings there is
don’t show up for meetings there is always a positive intent your brain is
always a positive intent your brain is
always a positive intent your brain is trying to do something that’s good for
trying to do something that’s good for
trying to do something that’s good for you in the form of avoiding pain and
you in the form of avoiding pain and
you in the form of avoiding pain and getting pleasure so what’s the challenge
getting pleasure so what’s the challenge
getting pleasure so what’s the challenge well the challenge is in our lives we
well the challenge is in our lives we
well the challenge is in our lives we many times sabotage ourselves because
many times sabotage ourselves because
many times sabotage ourselves because we’ve got this approach avoidance thing
we’ve got this approach avoidance thing
we’ve got this approach avoidance thing you’ve heard me talk about so much in
you’ve heard me talk about so much in
you’ve heard me talk about so much in these tapes where we have mixed neural
these tapes where we have mixed neural
these tapes where we have mixed neural associations where we sabotage a
associations where we sabotage a
associations where we sabotage a relationship why because on the one side
relationship why because on the one side
relationship why because on the one side remember we’ve linked pleasure if I get
remember we’ve linked pleasure if I get
remember we’ve linked pleasure if I get a relationship it’s gonna be so great
a relationship it’s gonna be so great
a relationship it’s gonna be so great others personal loves me and I can be
others personal loves me and I can be
others personal loves me and I can be with this person and we can share so
with this person and we can share so
with this person and we can share so much of life together and yet on the
much of life together and yet on the
much of life together and yet on the other hand we’ve had experiences where
other hand we’ve had experiences where
other hand we’ve had experiences where it’s meant pain and so our brain fries
it’s meant pain and so our brain fries
it’s meant pain and so our brain fries we start to go in the relationship it
we start to go in the relationship it
we start to go in the relationship it seems good and then all of a sudden our
seems good and then all of a sudden our
seems good and then all of a sudden our brain goes oh oh but that might mean
brain goes oh oh but that might mean
brain goes oh oh but that might mean pain and also we get these mixed
pain and also we get these mixed
pain and also we get these mixed sensations or a brain doesn’t know is it
sensations or a brain doesn’t know is it
sensations or a brain doesn’t know is it gonna mean pain or is it gonna be in
gonna mean pain or is it gonna be in
gonna mean pain or is it gonna be in pleasure when our brain doesn’t know it
pleasure when our brain doesn’t know it
pleasure when our brain doesn’t know it stops everything it tries to stop the
stops everything it tries to stop the
stops everything it tries to stop the process of progress does that make sense
process of progress does that make sense
process of progress does that make sense I give you a classic example I was
I give you a classic example I was
I give you a classic example I was reading in a book of an example of how
reading in a book of an example of how
reading in a book of an example of how our associations can drive us crazy and
our associations can drive us crazy and
our associations can drive us crazy and what it talked about was an experiment
what it talked about was an experiment
what it talked about was an experiment that was done with rhesus monkeys where
that was done with rhesus monkeys where
that was done with rhesus monkeys where they put them in a special cage and what
they put them in a special cage and what
they put them in a special cage and what they did is in the cage they put LED
they did is in the cage they put LED
they did is in the cage they put LED yellow and green squares well after
yellow and green squares well after
yellow and green squares well after several days the experimenter set it up
several days the experimenter set it up
several days the experimenter set it up so that the red squares in the cage gave
so that the red squares in the cage gave
so that the red squares in the cage gave off intermittent shocks that will cause
off intermittent shocks that will cause
off intermittent shocks that will cause the monkey immediate pain well you can
the monkey immediate pain well you can
the monkey immediate pain well you can imagine the monkey became pretty anxious
imagine the monkey became pretty anxious
imagine the monkey became pretty anxious and pretty soon and learned to avoid the
and pretty soon and learned to avoid the
and pretty soon and learned to avoid the red squares in almost any cost
red squares in almost any cost
red squares in almost any cost well next the experiment had caused the
well next the experiment had caused the
well next the experiment had caused the red and the yellow squares to give off
red and the yellow squares to give off
red and the yellow squares to give off intermittent shocks and the monkey began
intermittent shocks and the monkey began
intermittent shocks and the monkey began to act as if he was a manic depressive
to act as if he was a manic depressive
to act as if he was a manic depressive why because no matter where he went he
why because no matter where he went he
why because no matter where he went he seemed to get pain no matter what he
seemed to get pain no matter what he
seemed to get pain no matter what he tried he tried we thought would work
tried he tried we thought would work
tried he tried we thought would work tried but he didn’t work he’s got pain
tried but he didn’t work he’s got pain
tried but he didn’t work he’s got pain he started alternate between hyper
he started alternate between hyper
he started alternate between hyper anxiety and depression and withdrawal
anxiety and depression and withdrawal
anxiety and depression and withdrawal the monkey soon learned of
the monkey soon learned of
the monkey soon learned of the red and the yellow squares and then
the red and the yellow squares and then
the red and the yellow squares and then all the squares were electrified well
all the squares were electrified well
all the squares were electrified well the little monkey began to bite itself
the little monkey began to bite itself
the little monkey began to bite itself to beat its head against the bars to
to beat its head against the bars to
to beat its head against the bars to defecate on itself you might say little
defecate on itself you might say little
defecate on itself you might say little monkey been driven crazy now that’s a
monkey been driven crazy now that’s a
monkey been driven crazy now that’s a horrible example and I have absolute
horrible example and I have absolute
horrible example and I have absolute contempt for that kind of abuse of
contempt for that kind of abuse of
contempt for that kind of abuse of animals or people but what I also want
animals or people but what I also want
animals or people but what I also want to point out is that this is exactly
to point out is that this is exactly
to point out is that this is exactly what some people do to each other this
what some people do to each other this
what some people do to each other this is exactly what some people do on their
is exactly what some people do on their
is exactly what some people do on their own head and some people create this
own head and some people create this
own head and some people create this experimental cage in their brain where
experimental cage in their brain where
experimental cage in their brain where they literally begin to link pain to
they literally begin to link pain to
they literally begin to link pain to everything in life we are the ones that
everything in life we are the ones that
everything in life we are the ones that create the connections though we’re the
create the connections though we’re the
create the connections though we’re the ones that establish the shocks because
ones that establish the shocks because
ones that establish the shocks because no matter what happens in your life what
no matter what happens in your life what
no matter what happens in your life what you associate to things is your choice
you associate to things is your choice
you associate to things is your choice and at least after this program it is
and at least after this program it is
and at least after this program it is you don’t have to be at the effect if
you don’t have to be at the effect if
you don’t have to be at the effect if you notice that you’ve begun to wire to
you notice that you’ve begun to wire to
you notice that you’ve begun to wire to relationships a red square called pain
relationships a red square called pain
relationships a red square called pain you can get rid of it because you can
you can get rid of it because you can
you can get rid of it because you can know that that is a generalization not
know that that is a generalization not
know that that is a generalization not all relationships equal pain and so
all relationships equal pain and so
all relationships equal pain and so you’ve got to eliminate those negative
you’ve got to eliminate those negative
you’ve got to eliminate those negative associations otherwise you create your
associations otherwise you create your
associations otherwise you create your own experimental box and you pay the
own experimental box and you pay the
own experimental box and you pay the ultimate price that never needs to
ultimate price that never needs to
ultimate price that never needs to happen to you you have the skills in
happen to you you have the skills in
happen to you you have the skills in this program and if you’re not sure
this program and if you’re not sure
this program and if you’re not sure about them listen to a tape again and
about them listen to a tape again and
about them listen to a tape again and apply them you can take those
apply them you can take those
apply them you can take those experiences that were painful and use
experiences that were painful and use
experiences that were painful and use the erasure technique and destroy it so
the erasure technique and destroy it so
the erasure technique and destroy it so you don’t ever associate pain again to a
you don’t ever associate pain again to a
you don’t ever associate pain again to a relationship maybe you can even get it
relationship maybe you can even get it
relationship maybe you can even get it where it’s somewhat humorous or you’ve
where it’s somewhat humorous or you’ve
where it’s somewhat humorous or you’ve at least learned something or you can
at least learned something or you can
at least learned something or you can ask yourself better questions and say
ask yourself better questions and say
ask yourself better questions and say okay it may have felt painful then but
okay it may have felt painful then but
okay it may have felt painful then but that was only one relationship and what
that was only one relationship and what
that was only one relationship and what did I learn so I won’t have pain in the
did I learn so I won’t have pain in the
did I learn so I won’t have pain in the future it’s not all red squares are
future it’s not all red squares are
future it’s not all red squares are painful if that one was and what can I
painful if that one was and what can I
painful if that one was and what can I learn from it so the next red square is
learn from it so the next red square is
learn from it so the next red square is pleasurable or so I can rewire the red
pleasurable or so I can rewire the red
pleasurable or so I can rewire the red square so it supports me I just finished
square so it supports me I just finished
square so it supports me I just finished doing a date with destiny seminar this
doing a date with destiny seminar this
doing a date with destiny seminar this last weekend before I did this taping
last weekend before I did this taping
last weekend before I did this taping with you and the interesting thing
with you and the interesting thing
with you and the interesting thing happened is a man walked up to me and he
happened is a man walked up to me and he
happened is a man walked up to me and he said mr. Robbins I think I should tell
said mr. Robbins I think I should tell
said mr. Robbins I think I should tell you
you
you that I’m into self-sabotage I said oh
that I’m into self-sabotage I said oh
that I’m into self-sabotage I said oh really that sounds pretty exciting is it
really that sounds pretty exciting is it
really that sounds pretty exciting is it what I said what am i doing I just
what I said what am i doing I just
what I said what am i doing I just interrupted his pattern a little bit
interrupted his pattern a little bit
interrupted his pattern a little bit start to break it up he said well no I’m
start to break it up he said well no I’m
start to break it up he said well no I’m serious I said well I can see you’re
serious I said well I can see you’re
serious I said well I can see you’re very serious I said well what do you
very serious I said well what do you
very serious I said well what do you mean he said well for the last few years
mean he said well for the last few years
mean he said well for the last few years I’ve been working very hard at getting
I’ve been working very hard at getting
I’ve been working very hard at getting out of my body I said getting out of
out of my body I said getting out of
out of my body I said getting out of your body he said yes I said what do you
your body he said yes I said what do you
your body he said yes I said what do you mean he said well in the last six months
mean he said well in the last six months
mean he said well in the last six months I’ve been in three car accidents I said
I’ve been in three car accidents I said
I’ve been in three car accidents I said well that’s pretty amazing he’s sitting
well that’s pretty amazing he’s sitting
well that’s pretty amazing he’s sitting you know what else I said what he said
you know what else I said what he said
you know what else I said what he said I’ve been in the hospital four or five
I’ve been in the hospital four or five
I’ve been in the hospital four or five times for fainting spells I’ve also
times for fainting spells I’ve also
times for fainting spells I’ve also fallen off a ladder I also fell when I
fallen off a ladder I also fell when I
fallen off a ladder I also fell when I was exercising and I said well I said
was exercising and I said well I said
was exercising and I said well I said how do you know that that means you’re
how do you know that that means you’re
how do you know that that means you’re trying to get out of your body I said I
trying to get out of your body I said I
trying to get out of your body I said I don’t agree he said what do you mean I
don’t agree he said what do you mean I
don’t agree he said what do you mean I said listen if you want to get out of
said listen if you want to get out of
said listen if you want to get out of your body you would have pulled that off
your body you would have pulled that off
your body you would have pulled that off a long time ago I mean that’s pretty
a long time ago I mean that’s pretty
a long time ago I mean that’s pretty easy I mean all you need is a good gun
easy I mean all you need is a good gun
easy I mean all you need is a good gun or you know nice nice big knife from you
or you know nice nice big knife from you
or you know nice nice big knife from you could do it quickly I mean if you really
could do it quickly I mean if you really
could do it quickly I mean if you really were committed to getting out of your
were committed to getting out of your
were committed to getting out of your body who had done that a long time ago
body who had done that a long time ago
body who had done that a long time ago obviously this self-sabotage you’re
obviously this self-sabotage you’re
obviously this self-sabotage you’re talking about has a positive intent what
talking about has a positive intent what
talking about has a positive intent what is it you’re trying to get out of this
is it you’re trying to get out of this
is it you’re trying to get out of this behavior he said well I don’t know I
behavior he said well I don’t know I
behavior he said well I don’t know I said well if you didn’t know he said I
said well if you didn’t know he said I
said well if you didn’t know he said I don’t know I guess maybe I just want to
don’t know I guess maybe I just want to
don’t know I guess maybe I just want to know that people love me
know that people love me
know that people love me I said hmm interesting he said god I
I said hmm interesting he said god I
I said hmm interesting he said god I never even realized that till just now I
never even realized that till just now I
never even realized that till just now I said see people on savage that you know
said see people on savage that you know
said see people on savage that you know trying to kill yourself that’s absurd
trying to kill yourself that’s absurd
trying to kill yourself that’s absurd the bottom line is you want to feel
the bottom line is you want to feel
the bottom line is you want to feel loved and I bet just like the example I
loved and I bet just like the example I
loved and I bet just like the example I talked about with you earlier in these
talked about with you earlier in these
talked about with you earlier in these tapes with jackknife when we talked
tapes with jackknife when we talked
tapes with jackknife when we talked about that guy who slammed his hand
about that guy who slammed his hand
about that guy who slammed his hand through the glass and was bleeding and
through the glass and was bleeding and
through the glass and was bleeding and the woman who was rejecting him all
the woman who was rejecting him all
the woman who was rejecting him all sudden is making love to him I said a
sudden is making love to him I said a
sudden is making love to him I said a long time ago I told him that story and
long time ago I told him that story and
long time ago I told him that story and I said you know a long time ago you
I said you know a long time ago you
I said you know a long time ago you obviously linked up that if you get
obviously linked up that if you get
obviously linked up that if you get yourself hurt and get in the hospital
yourself hurt and get in the hospital
yourself hurt and get in the hospital especially you got these people to come
especially you got these people to come
especially you got these people to come and tell you how much they love you and
and tell you how much they love you and
and tell you how much they love you and be with you and be worried about you but
be with you and be worried about you but
be with you and be worried about you but I got to tell you something that isn’t
I got to tell you something that isn’t
I got to tell you something that isn’t love that’s obligation he looked at me
love that’s obligation he looked at me
love that’s obligation he looked at me kind of funny I said that’s what it is
kind of funny I said that’s what it is
kind of funny I said that’s what it is it’s obligation it’s pain they don’t
it’s obligation it’s pain they don’t
it’s obligation it’s pain they don’t want to come see you they feel like they
want to come see you they feel like they
want to come see you they feel like they have to and they’re guilty I said
have to and they’re guilty I said
have to and they’re guilty I said they’re not giving you love in fact a
they’re not giving you love in fact a
they’re not giving you love in fact a lot of those people probably hate you
lot of those people probably hate you
lot of those people probably hate you because they do that well you talk about
because they do that well you talk about
because they do that well you talk about interrupting his pattern started to D
interrupting his pattern started to D
interrupting his pattern started to D focus his eyes stare I look inside
focus his eyes stare I look inside
focus his eyes stare I look inside what am i doing I’m getting him to link
what am i doing I’m getting him to link
what am i doing I’m getting him to link what
what
what Payne to his present pattern so his
Payne to his present pattern so his
Payne to his present pattern so his brain will want to change it I said
brain will want to change it I said
brain will want to change it I said listen if you want love there are much
listen if you want love there are much
listen if you want love there are much better ways and you’re much more
better ways and you’re much more
better ways and you’re much more intelligent person this you don’t have
intelligent person this you don’t have
intelligent person this you don’t have to sabotage him this way you could get
to sabotage him this way you could get
to sabotage him this way you could get it just bite you know the best way to
it just bite you know the best way to
it just bite you know the best way to get love give it see be loving to people
get love give it see be loving to people
get love give it see be loving to people give them so much love that they have to
give them so much love that they have to
give them so much love that they have to give you love back I said there’s a law
give you love back I said there’s a law
give you love back I said there’s a law in life it’s called reciprocation what
in life it’s called reciprocation what
in life it’s called reciprocation what you put out people feel like they got to
you put out people feel like they got to
you put out people feel like they got to give it back I said some people stay in
give it back I said some people stay in
give it back I said some people stay in relationships with people that they like
relationships with people that they like
relationships with people that they like but don’t love and the reason is they
but don’t love and the reason is they
but don’t love and the reason is they feel stuck as the other person who loves
feel stuck as the other person who loves
feel stuck as the other person who loves them so much that they just oh they
them so much that they just oh they
them so much that they just oh they can’t get out they give love back I said
can’t get out they give love back I said
can’t get out they give love back I said listen if you really want love start
listen if you really want love start
listen if you really want love start pouring it out so deeply and so
pouring it out so deeply and so
pouring it out so deeply and so powerfully to so many people it’ll come
powerfully to so many people it’ll come
powerfully to so many people it’ll come back to enfold and he looked around I
back to enfold and he looked around I
back to enfold and he looked around I said and if you do that you have no pain
said and if you do that you have no pain
said and if you do that you have no pain and you have lots of pleasure you do the
and you have lots of pleasure you do the
and you have lots of pleasure you do the other one you keep breaking body parts
other one you keep breaking body parts
other one you keep breaking body parts people come they’re obligated they think
people come they’re obligated they think
people come they’re obligated they think God would have schmuck how many more
God would have schmuck how many more
God would have schmuck how many more times is he gonna quit get in a car
times is he gonna quit get in a car
times is he gonna quit get in a car accident what is he stupid but they
accident what is he stupid but they
accident what is he stupid but they wouldn’t say that doofus I did this over
wouldn’t say that doofus I did this over
wouldn’t say that doofus I did this over and over again until I conditioned him
and over again until I conditioned him
and over again until I conditioned him to link the new pattern I said to him as
to link the new pattern I said to him as
to link the new pattern I said to him as well look if you were expressing love
well look if you were expressing love
well look if you were expressing love while you’re expressing it what are you
while you’re expressing it what are you
while you’re expressing it what are you feeling they said Wow
feeling they said Wow
feeling they said Wow I so that’s interesting so you mean you
I so that’s interesting so you mean you
I so that’s interesting so you mean you could get what you want the minute you
could get what you want the minute you
could get what you want the minute you give it his brain went wow what a
give it his brain went wow what a
give it his brain went wow what a concept
concept
concept here’s a whole new way now will this
here’s a whole new way now will this
here’s a whole new way now will this will help him to change his whole life
will help him to change his whole life
will help him to change his whole life well he believes it will we’ll know in
well he believes it will we’ll know in
well he believes it will we’ll know in six months if he hasn’t had too many
six months if he hasn’t had too many
six months if he hasn’t had too many more accidents the pot of my unless he’s
more accidents the pot of my unless he’s
more accidents the pot of my unless he’s just like blind or something and that’s
just like blind or something and that’s
just like blind or something and that’s part of the problem the point is this
part of the problem the point is this
part of the problem the point is this any pattern of self-sabotage comes out
any pattern of self-sabotage comes out
any pattern of self-sabotage comes out of a positive intent do you hear me on
of a positive intent do you hear me on
of a positive intent do you hear me on this we’re always trying to get
this we’re always trying to get
this we’re always trying to get something that’s good for us even people
something that’s good for us even people
something that’s good for us even people that commit suicide do it for a positive
that commit suicide do it for a positive
that commit suicide do it for a positive intent in their brains mind their brain
intent in their brains mind their brain
intent in their brains mind their brain says hey suicide being dead would be
says hey suicide being dead would be
says hey suicide being dead would be less painful than being alive which I
less painful than being alive which I
less painful than being alive which I have a hard time personally believing
have a hard time personally believing
have a hard time personally believing but in the moment people who believe
but in the moment people who believe
but in the moment people who believe that commit suicide most people never
that commit suicide most people never
that commit suicide most people never commit suicide because killing
commit suicide because killing
commit suicide because killing themselves is just too painful so what
themselves is just too painful so what
themselves is just too painful so what do they do they just beat themselves up
do they do they just beat themselves up
do they do they just beat themselves up a lot you don’t need to do either one
a lot you don’t need to do either one
a lot you don’t need to do either one you can free yourself from self-sabotage
you can free yourself from self-sabotage
you can free yourself from self-sabotage right now by knowing from this day
right now by knowing from this day
right now by knowing from this day forward that if you ever start to
forward that if you ever start to
forward that if you ever start to sabotage yourself 1 don’t jump to
sabotage yourself 1 don’t jump to
sabotage yourself 1 don’t jump to conclusions and assume that because
conclusions and assume that because
conclusions and assume that because you’ve done some
you’ve done some
you’ve done some a few times and it didn’t work out last
a few times and it didn’t work out last
a few times and it didn’t work out last minute you screwed something up that
minute you screwed something up that
minute you screwed something up that it’s the specter called self-sabotage
it’s the specter called self-sabotage
it’s the specter called self-sabotage that’s coming to find you try another
that’s coming to find you try another
that’s coming to find you try another approach
approach
approach maybe it’s you’re just not paying
maybe it’s you’re just not paying
maybe it’s you’re just not paying attention maybe you’re not focusing
attention maybe you’re not focusing
attention maybe you’re not focusing maybe it’s got some poor habits you know
maybe it’s got some poor habits you know
maybe it’s got some poor habits you know it may not be a self-sabotage pattern so
it may not be a self-sabotage pattern so
it may not be a self-sabotage pattern so don’t jump to that conclusion for just
don’t jump to that conclusion for just
don’t jump to that conclusion for just bad habits refocus and decide what you
bad habits refocus and decide what you
bad habits refocus and decide what you do want to accomplish and to if it
do want to accomplish and to if it
do want to accomplish and to if it clearly is a pattern where you are
clearly is a pattern where you are
clearly is a pattern where you are subconsciously sabotaging yourself
subconsciously sabotaging yourself
subconsciously sabotaging yourself screwing things up
screwing things up
screwing things up hey get excited don’t get upset say hey
hey get excited don’t get upset say hey
hey get excited don’t get upset say hey look my brain is doing what it does best
look my brain is doing what it does best
look my brain is doing what it does best it thinks it’s keeping me out of pain
it thinks it’s keeping me out of pain
it thinks it’s keeping me out of pain and give me some pleasure but I just got
and give me some pleasure but I just got
and give me some pleasure but I just got to teach my brain a better pattern
to teach my brain a better pattern
to teach my brain a better pattern that’s all so what’s the intent and
that’s all so what’s the intent and
that’s all so what’s the intent and that’s how you eliminate self-sabotage
that’s how you eliminate self-sabotage
that’s how you eliminate self-sabotage so let’s go through the steps real
so let’s go through the steps real
so let’s go through the steps real quickly one identify a behavior that’s
quickly one identify a behavior that’s
quickly one identify a behavior that’s keeping you from getting your goals
keeping you from getting your goals
keeping you from getting your goals something that’s stopping you were
something that’s stopping you were
something that’s stopping you were holding you back first you got
holding you back first you got
holding you back first you got identified that stepping into 1 2 once
identified that stepping into 1 2 once
identified that stepping into 1 2 once you’ve identified it ask yourself what
you’ve identified it ask yourself what
you’ve identified it ask yourself what is the positive intent here what is my
is the positive intent here what is my
is the positive intent here what is my brain trying to give me so for example
brain trying to give me so for example
brain trying to give me so for example if you know you’re about to go up to
if you know you’re about to go up to
if you know you’re about to go up to somebody and ask him for a date and then
somebody and ask him for a date and then
somebody and ask him for a date and then all of a sudden you shut down and you
all of a sudden you shut down and you
all of a sudden you shut down and you can’t even talk what’s the positive
can’t even talk what’s the positive
can’t even talk what’s the positive intent well my guess would be that your
intent well my guess would be that your
intent well my guess would be that your brain is trying to protect you from
brain is trying to protect you from
brain is trying to protect you from being rejected it’s saying well if he
being rejected it’s saying well if he
being rejected it’s saying well if he doesn’t say anything can’t be rejected
doesn’t say anything can’t be rejected
doesn’t say anything can’t be rejected rejection is pain I don’t want pain does
rejection is pain I don’t want pain does
rejection is pain I don’t want pain does that make sense
that make sense
that make sense so that’s why you can’t think in that
so that’s why you can’t think in that
so that’s why you can’t think in that moment but see you got to teach your
moment but see you got to teach your
moment but see you got to teach your brain otherwise you got to go in once
brain otherwise you got to go in once
brain otherwise you got to go in once you find out that what the positive
you find out that what the positive
you find out that what the positive intent did you go well it’s trying to
intent did you go well it’s trying to
intent did you go well it’s trying to protect me from rejection then you go to
protect me from rejection then you go to
protect me from rejection then you go to step 3 get some leverage on yourself so
step 3 get some leverage on yourself so
step 3 get some leverage on yourself so that you can make the change you know
that you can make the change you know
that you can make the change you know how to do that we’ve done it over and
how to do that we’ve done it over and
how to do that we’ve done it over and over again that is teach your brain but
over again that is teach your brain but
over again that is teach your brain but hey if I don’t change this thing I know
hey if I don’t change this thing I know
hey if I don’t change this thing I know you’re trying to help me out of your
you’re trying to help me out of your
you’re trying to help me out of your brain I know you’re trying to keep me
brain I know you’re trying to keep me
brain I know you’re trying to keep me from the pain of rejection but by me not
from the pain of rejection but by me not
from the pain of rejection but by me not going up and expressing how much I’m
going up and expressing how much I’m
going up and expressing how much I’m attracted it’s costing me relationships
attracted it’s costing me relationships
attracted it’s costing me relationships that could give me a lot more pleasure
that could give me a lot more pleasure
that could give me a lot more pleasure it’s a little bitty pain but not being a
it’s a little bitty pain but not being a
it’s a little bitty pain but not being a relationship is big pain I gotta explain
relationship is big pain I gotta explain
relationship is big pain I gotta explain this to your brain you gotta have a
this to your brain you gotta have a
this to your brain you gotta have a little conversation in your head the way
little conversation in your head the way
little conversation in your head the way to do it is on paper sit down and write
to do it is on paper sit down and write
to do it is on paper sit down and write down all the pain you’re gonna get if
down all the pain you’re gonna get if
down all the pain you’re gonna get if you don’t change this pattern and all
you don’t change this pattern and all
you don’t change this pattern and all the pleasures you’ll get by making the
the pleasures you’ll get by making the
the pleasures you’ll get by making the pattern work real simple step 4
pattern work real simple step 4
pattern work real simple step 4 interrupt the pattern and there are lots
interrupt the pattern and there are lots
interrupt the pattern and there are lots of ways to do that we’ve talked about
of ways to do that we’ve talked about
of ways to do that we’ve talked about many the simplest one that we’ve used
many the simplest one that we’ve used
many the simplest one that we’ve used and
and
and last day or two of course is the eraser
last day or two of course is the eraser
last day or two of course is the eraser technique so how do we use it well
technique so how do we use it well
technique so how do we use it well see yourself beginning to go into a
see yourself beginning to go into a
see yourself beginning to go into a situation where you’re sabotaging
situation where you’re sabotaging
situation where you’re sabotaging yourself another would see yourself
yourself another would see yourself
yourself another would see yourself start to approach let’s say an
start to approach let’s say an
start to approach let’s say an attractive person and you you see
attractive person and you you see
attractive person and you you see yourself start to choke up only this
yourself start to choke up only this
yourself start to choke up only this time watch it happen in scramblin be
time watch it happen in scramblin be
time watch it happen in scramblin be outraged it’s the key to interrupting a
outraged it’s the key to interrupting a
outraged it’s the key to interrupting a pattern is to do something your brain
pattern is to do something your brain
pattern is to do something your brain would never ever expect and you look
would never ever expect and you look
would never ever expect and you look rapidly over and over and over and over
rapidly over and over and over and over
rapidly over and over and over and over again what that does is totally fry the
again what that does is totally fry the
again what that does is totally fry the old pattern that used to stop you
old pattern that used to stop you
old pattern that used to stop you and of course Step five then is install
and of course Step five then is install
and of course Step five then is install a new pattern condition yourself to have
a new pattern condition yourself to have
a new pattern condition yourself to have new feelings what do you do see yourself
new feelings what do you do see yourself
new feelings what do you do see yourself over and over going up and making the
over and over going up and making the
over and over going up and making the connection with this person and feeling
connection with this person and feeling
connection with this person and feeling the pleasure that comes from that so you
the pleasure that comes from that so you
the pleasure that comes from that so you clearly teach your brain pain comes from
clearly teach your brain pain comes from
clearly teach your brain pain comes from not doing it pleasure comes from doing
not doing it pleasure comes from doing
not doing it pleasure comes from doing it and that old pattern I can’t run
it and that old pattern I can’t run
it and that old pattern I can’t run anymore I’ve forgotten what the heck it
anymore I’ve forgotten what the heck it
anymore I’ve forgotten what the heck it is I scrambled my brain simple humorous
is I scrambled my brain simple humorous
is I scrambled my brain simple humorous basic way to change and eliminate
basic way to change and eliminate
basic way to change and eliminate self-sabotage something you can easily
self-sabotage something you can easily
self-sabotage something you can easily do I want to make one of the point and
do I want to make one of the point and
do I want to make one of the point and that is some of the most successful
that is some of the most successful
that is some of the most successful people have patterns of self-sabotage so
people have patterns of self-sabotage so
people have patterns of self-sabotage so remember if you find yourself doing
remember if you find yourself doing
remember if you find yourself doing something that doesn’t seem to be
something that doesn’t seem to be
something that doesn’t seem to be supporting you in the long term remember
supporting you in the long term remember
supporting you in the long term remember at some level your brain thinks it’s
at some level your brain thinks it’s
at some level your brain thinks it’s supporting you at least in the short
supporting you at least in the short
supporting you at least in the short term that’s why it’s doing it don’t feel
term that’s why it’s doing it don’t feel
term that’s why it’s doing it don’t feel bad about a no go oh gosh Here I am this
bad about a no go oh gosh Here I am this
bad about a no go oh gosh Here I am this failure some of most successful people
failure some of most successful people
failure some of most successful people that I’ve interviewed and worked with
that I’ve interviewed and worked with
that I’ve interviewed and worked with have had self-sabotage it’s just a
have had self-sabotage it’s just a
have had self-sabotage it’s just a pattern we once in a while get you can
pattern we once in a while get you can
pattern we once in a while get you can just change it now it’s very easy so
just change it now it’s very easy so
just change it now it’s very easy so here’s your assignment pull out your
here’s your assignment pull out your
here’s your assignment pull out your success journal and before you turn the
success journal and before you turn the
success journal and before you turn the tape over just identify do you have a
tape over just identify do you have a
tape over just identify do you have a place in your life where you have a
place in your life where you have a
place in your life where you have a tendency and by the way that’s all this
tendency and by the way that’s all this
tendency and by the way that’s all this self-sabotage stuff yes we don’t want to
self-sabotage stuff yes we don’t want to
self-sabotage stuff yes we don’t want to make it into a thing it’s not a thing
make it into a thing it’s not a thing
make it into a thing it’s not a thing it’s just a tendency it’s just a pattern
it’s just a tendency it’s just a pattern
it’s just a tendency it’s just a pattern that once in a while you run so is there
that once in a while you run so is there
that once in a while you run so is there a place in your life where you have a
a place in your life where you have a
a place in your life where you have a tendency to start to sabotage things
tendency to start to sabotage things
tendency to start to sabotage things when it gets to good for example
when it gets to good for example
when it gets to good for example relationship gets to a certain level and
relationship gets to a certain level and
relationship gets to a certain level and your brain goes uh-oh if I get too
your brain goes uh-oh if I get too
your brain goes uh-oh if I get too connected if I love this person too much
connected if I love this person too much
connected if I love this person too much what if they leave me oh my gosh then I
what if they leave me oh my gosh then I
what if they leave me oh my gosh then I have pain so I better sabotage it first
have pain so I better sabotage it first
have pain so I better sabotage it first you understand the kind of thing I’m
you understand the kind of thing I’m
you understand the kind of thing I’m talking about here so identify if
talking about here so identify if
talking about here so identify if there’s a tendency some place that’s
there’s a tendency some place that’s
there’s a tendency some place that’s number one to don’t feel bad about it
number one to don’t feel bad about it
number one to don’t feel bad about it instead feel good get excited saying my
instead feel good get excited saying my
instead feel good get excited saying my brain is awesome my brain here is doing
brain is awesome my brain here is doing
brain is awesome my brain here is doing a good job of what it believes it needs
a good job of what it believes it needs
a good job of what it believes it needs to do to help me to avoid pain and gain
to do to help me to avoid pain and gain
to do to help me to avoid pain and gain pleasure so feel good about your brain
pleasure so feel good about your brain
pleasure so feel good about your brain it means it’s doing its job
it means it’s doing its job
it means it’s doing its job three get some leverage though to make a
three get some leverage though to make a
three get some leverage though to make a change get your brain to associate and
change get your brain to associate and
change get your brain to associate and teach your brain by writing down here’s
teach your brain by writing down here’s
teach your brain by writing down here’s all the things I miss out on because of
all the things I miss out on because of
all the things I miss out on because of this tendency and really get your brain
this tendency and really get your brain
this tendency and really get your brain to see that there’s major pain in
to see that there’s major pain in
to see that there’s major pain in sabotaging and make sure your brain also
sabotaging and make sure your brain also
sabotaging and make sure your brain also says make a list here’s all the pleasure
says make a list here’s all the pleasure
says make a list here’s all the pleasure I get by making a change so your brain
I get by making a change so your brain
I get by making a change so your brain has got both the stick and the carrot
has got both the stick and the carrot
has got both the stick and the carrot it’s got leverage to want to make the
it’s got leverage to want to make the
it’s got leverage to want to make the shift for then what you need to do is
shift for then what you need to do is
shift for then what you need to do is now simply interrupt the pattern and the
now simply interrupt the pattern and the
now simply interrupt the pattern and the interrupt the pattern the resilient ways
interrupt the pattern the resilient ways
interrupt the pattern the resilient ways to do it again but use the erase your
to do it again but use the erase your
to do it again but use the erase your technique us since we that’s what we’ve
technique us since we that’s what we’ve
technique us since we that’s what we’ve been using for the last two days real
been using for the last two days real
been using for the last two days real simple process think about the sabotage
simple process think about the sabotage
simple process think about the sabotage you’ve done and make it humorous run
you’ve done and make it humorous run
you’ve done and make it humorous run those kinds of scenarios over in your
those kinds of scenarios over in your
those kinds of scenarios over in your head and turn them into cartoons back
head and turn them into cartoons back
head and turn them into cartoons back and forth back and forth back and forth
and forth back and forth back and forth
and forth back and forth back and forth until when your brain things of it it
until when your brain things of it it
until when your brain things of it it kind of laughs and sees that this is
kind of laughs and sees that this is
kind of laughs and sees that this is ridiculous where it doesn’t run the
ridiculous where it doesn’t run the
ridiculous where it doesn’t run the pattern the same way anymore
pattern the same way anymore
pattern the same way anymore and finally five rehearse achieving the
and finally five rehearse achieving the
and finally five rehearse achieving the result you want without the
result you want without the
result you want without the self-sabotage in other words rehearse
self-sabotage in other words rehearse
self-sabotage in other words rehearse achieving the success you want and make
achieving the success you want and make
achieving the success you want and make sure you feel the pleasure of succeeding
sure you feel the pleasure of succeeding
sure you feel the pleasure of succeeding and do it over and over again till your
and do it over and over again till your
and do it over and over again till your brain links hey this really works this
brain links hey this really works this
brain links hey this really works this is really gonna last this is something
is really gonna last this is something
is really gonna last this is something that I really want in my life and the
that I really want in my life and the
that I really want in my life and the self-sabotage pattern or tendency will
self-sabotage pattern or tendency will
self-sabotage pattern or tendency will disappear so do this and we’ll talk
disappear so do this and we’ll talk
disappear so do this and we’ll talk about how to create unstoppable
about how to create unstoppable
about how to create unstoppable self-confidence
creating unstoppable self-confidence
creating unstoppable self-confidence self-confidence it’s something people
self-confidence it’s something people
self-confidence it’s something people talk about all the time when they say
talk about all the time when they say
talk about all the time when they say why they’re not succeeding over and over
why they’re not succeeding over and over
why they’re not succeeding over and over I hear people say I just don’t have
I hear people say I just don’t have
I hear people say I just don’t have enough confidence
enough confidence
enough confidence listen confidence is not something you
listen confidence is not something you
listen confidence is not something you have it’s something you create and you
have it’s something you create and you
have it’s something you create and you can create it in any moment in time a
can create it in any moment in time a
can create it in any moment in time a sense of confidence is nothing but a
sense of confidence is nothing but a
sense of confidence is nothing but a sense of power within yourself a sense
sense of power within yourself a sense
sense of power within yourself a sense of certainty that you can pull something
of certainty that you can pull something
of certainty that you can pull something off and you can create that feeling
off and you can create that feeling
off and you can create that feeling literally in a moment it’s not something
literally in a moment it’s not something
literally in a moment it’s not something that you live with there’s no one that
that you live with there’s no one that
that you live with there’s no one that I’ve ever met that no matter what
I’ve ever met that no matter what
I’ve ever met that no matter what situation they’re in is always confident
situation they’re in is always confident
situation they’re in is always confident everybody gets knocked off kilter at
everybody gets knocked off kilter at
everybody gets knocked off kilter at times the key is can you turn the
times the key is can you turn the
times the key is can you turn the confidence on when you need it so you
confidence on when you need it so you
confidence on when you need it so you can get the most out of yourself does
can get the most out of yourself does
can get the most out of yourself does that make sense so far so you’ve got to
that make sense so far so you’ve got to
that make sense so far so you’ve got to remember that feeling confident is
remember that feeling confident is
remember that feeling confident is nothing but a state of mind and you can
nothing but a state of mind and you can
nothing but a state of mind and you can change and create any state you want at
change and create any state you want at
change and create any state you want at any moment in time no matter what’s
any moment in time no matter what’s
any moment in time no matter what’s going on around you let me give you some
going on around you let me give you some
going on around you let me give you some specific examples there are three
specific examples there are three
specific examples there are three primary ways that you can create
primary ways that you can create
primary ways that you can create self-confidence at any moment in time to
self-confidence at any moment in time to
self-confidence at any moment in time to get the most out of yourself and produce
get the most out of yourself and produce
get the most out of yourself and produce the results you really want approach
the results you really want approach
the results you really want approach number one you’re familiar with it’s
number one you’re familiar with it’s
number one you’re familiar with it’s called physiology you’ve got to remember
called physiology you’ve got to remember
called physiology you’ve got to remember that any feeling you’ve ever had in your
that any feeling you’ve ever had in your
that any feeling you’ve ever had in your body whether it be fear anxiety concern
body whether it be fear anxiety concern
body whether it be fear anxiety concern depression frustration or ecstasy power
depression frustration or ecstasy power
depression frustration or ecstasy power unstoppable ‘ti confidence success those
unstoppable ‘ti confidence success those
unstoppable ‘ti confidence success those emotions any emotion you feel comes from
emotions any emotion you feel comes from
emotions any emotion you feel comes from the way you use your physical body the
the way you use your physical body the
the way you use your physical body the only way you can feel anything is by the
only way you can feel anything is by the
only way you can feel anything is by the way you move the way you breathe your
way you move the way you breathe your
way you move the way you breathe your facial expressions so if you’re not
facial expressions so if you’re not
facial expressions so if you’re not feeling confident you don’t have to
feeling confident you don’t have to
feeling confident you don’t have to intellectually try and pump yourself up
intellectually try and pump yourself up
intellectually try and pump yourself up because it doesn’t always work
because it doesn’t always work
because it doesn’t always work I’m sure you’ve tried it time to go well
I’m sure you’ve tried it time to go well
I’m sure you’ve tried it time to go well I need to be confident I know I should
I need to be confident I know I should
I need to be confident I know I should be confident but you’re still not there
be confident but you’re still not there
be confident but you’re still not there let me tell you the quickest way to get
let me tell you the quickest way to get
let me tell you the quickest way to get confident is to change your physiology
confident is to change your physiology
confident is to change your physiology radically listen in our seminars around
radically listen in our seminars around
radically listen in our seminars around the country those unleash the power
the country those unleash the power
the country those unleash the power within programs we take people through a
within programs we take people through a
within programs we take people through a first evening we call fear into power
first evening we call fear into power
first evening we call fear into power and it’s an experience we get you to
and it’s an experience we get you to
and it’s an experience we get you to change your conditioning and feel
change your conditioning and feel
change your conditioning and feel totally confident in an area you
totally confident in an area you
totally confident in an area you normally totally afraid of so at the
normally totally afraid of so at the
normally totally afraid of so at the broadcast site we use a fire walk
broadcast site we use a fire walk
broadcast site we use a fire walk experience where everyone walks across
experience where everyone walks across
experience where everyone walks across the fire between 1,200 and 2,000 degrees
the fire between 1,200 and 2,000 degrees
the fire between 1,200 and 2,000 degrees burning hot coal
burning hot coal
burning hot coal and in the theaters we have people
and in the theaters we have people
and in the theaters we have people actually learn how to break through wood
actually learn how to break through wood
actually learn how to break through wood karate style and they do in about 15
karate style and they do in about 15
karate style and they do in about 15 minutes
minutes
minutes and it requires not only confidence as
and it requires not only confidence as
and it requires not only confidence as you might guess but competence to do
you might guess but competence to do
you might guess but competence to do something that most people take two or
something that most people take two or
something that most people take two or three years to learn how to do in a few
three years to learn how to do in a few
three years to learn how to do in a few minutes now the purpose of this is to
minutes now the purpose of this is to
minutes now the purpose of this is to get people in a state of being totally
get people in a state of being totally
get people in a state of being totally strong a confident even though they were
strong a confident even though they were
strong a confident even though they were totally afraid lacking confidence only
totally afraid lacking confidence only
totally afraid lacking confidence only moments before let me tell you something
moments before let me tell you something
moments before let me tell you something to get yourself across a bed of burning
to get yourself across a bed of burning
to get yourself across a bed of burning hot coals or to smash through some wood
hot coals or to smash through some wood
hot coals or to smash through some wood even though you might be tiny and small
even though you might be tiny and small
even though you might be tiny and small but what is much bigger than you’ve ever
but what is much bigger than you’ve ever
but what is much bigger than you’ve ever done before I got to tell you something
done before I got to tell you something
done before I got to tell you something to do that you got to make a major
to do that you got to make a major
to do that you got to make a major change in your state major now let me
change in your state major now let me
change in your state major now let me tell you we do that the number one way
tell you we do that the number one way
tell you we do that the number one way we do this is we get people to move
we do this is we get people to move
we do this is we get people to move their bodies or the level of intensity
their bodies or the level of intensity
their bodies or the level of intensity and power that they probably never
and power that they probably never
and power that they probably never experienced before remember earlier in
experienced before remember earlier in
experienced before remember earlier in these tapes I said to you that emotion
these tapes I said to you that emotion
these tapes I said to you that emotion is created by motion the way you move
is created by motion the way you move
is created by motion the way you move your body physically the way you
your body physically the way you
your body physically the way you breathed your facial expressions
breathed your facial expressions
breathed your facial expressions instantly affects your emotional state
instantly affects your emotional state
instantly affects your emotional state the way you feel and the way you think
the way you feel and the way you think
the way you feel and the way you think so if you need confidence you must move
so if you need confidence you must move
so if you need confidence you must move in a confident way you must literally
in a confident way you must literally
in a confident way you must literally put yourself at level 10 or above
put yourself at level 10 or above
put yourself at level 10 or above remember those conversations so what I
remember those conversations so what I
remember those conversations so what I do with people is literally I’ll take
do with people is literally I’ll take
do with people is literally I’ll take somebody who comes up to the fire and
somebody who comes up to the fire and
somebody who comes up to the fire and they go oh gosh I really don’t think I
they go oh gosh I really don’t think I
they go oh gosh I really don’t think I could do this and I say and I couldn’t
could do this and I say and I couldn’t
could do this and I say and I couldn’t do it either if I talk like you right
do it either if I talk like you right
do it either if I talk like you right now stand up breathe strong take a huge
now stand up breathe strong take a huge
now stand up breathe strong take a huge deep breath in blow it out hard what I
deep breath in blow it out hard what I
deep breath in blow it out hard what I want you to say the word yes and then go
want you to say the word yes and then go
want you to say the word yes and then go yes is it no no say yes and I have him
yes is it no no say yes and I have him
yes is it no no say yes and I have him yelling I go yes say it again yes and
yelling I go yes say it again yes and
yelling I go yes say it again yes and pretty soon they feel incredibly strong
pretty soon they feel incredibly strong
pretty soon they feel incredibly strong and I say walk and I go okay and it’s
and I say walk and I go okay and it’s
and I say walk and I go okay and it’s like instantly a moment ago they were
like instantly a moment ago they were
like instantly a moment ago they were totally afraid now they are the
totally afraid now they are the
totally afraid now they are the confidence to do it the only difference
confidence to do it the only difference
confidence to do it the only difference was changing their state of mind and
was changing their state of mind and
was changing their state of mind and emotion by changing the way they were
emotion by changing the way they were
emotion by changing the way they were using their body but I do it radically
using their body but I do it radically
using their body but I do it radically major explosive changes in other words
major explosive changes in other words
major explosive changes in other words if I was gonna make a gesture I wouldn’t
if I was gonna make a gesture I wouldn’t
if I was gonna make a gesture I wouldn’t just like reach my hand out toward you
just like reach my hand out toward you
just like reach my hand out toward you I’d snap it out there that’s the kind of
I’d snap it out there that’s the kind of
I’d snap it out there that’s the kind of state of confidence I’m talking about
state of confidence I’m talking about
state of confidence I’m talking about are you following me in other words
are you following me in other words
are you following me in other words you’ve got to move deliberately as if
you’ve got to move deliberately as if
you’ve got to move deliberately as if you are absolutely totally in control
you are absolutely totally in control
you are absolutely totally in control you know you can create any result you
you know you can create any result you
you know you can create any result you want if you meet someone who’s confident
want if you meet someone who’s confident
want if you meet someone who’s confident you know it before they open their mouth
you know it before they open their mouth
you know it before they open their mouth don’t you can’t you tell by the way they
don’t you can’t you tell by the way they
don’t you can’t you tell by the way they move by the way they speak listen what
move by the way they speak listen what
move by the way they speak listen what if
if
if when you turn these tapes on I said well
when you turn these tapes on I said well
when you turn these tapes on I said well I want to thank you for listening
I want to thank you for listening
I want to thank you for listening I’m 20 Robbins and want to share with
I’m 20 Robbins and want to share with
I’m 20 Robbins and want to share with you over the next 30 days how you could
you over the next 30 days how you could
you over the next 30 days how you could have well you know absolutely total you
have well you know absolutely total you
have well you know absolutely total you can go get rid of this guy what am i
can go get rid of this guy what am i
can go get rid of this guy what am i doing what’s going on here who is this
doing what’s going on here who is this
doing what’s going on here who is this guy’s he on drugs what’s the deal see
guy’s he on drugs what’s the deal see
guy’s he on drugs what’s the deal see the bottom line is I communicate rapidly
the bottom line is I communicate rapidly
the bottom line is I communicate rapidly because I’m confident is that I’m
because I’m confident is that I’m
because I’m confident is that I’m competent know confident that’s what I’m
competent know confident that’s what I’m
competent know confident that’s what I’m talking about hopefully I’m competent
talking about hopefully I’m competent
talking about hopefully I’m competent too but the bottom line is I’m just
too but the bottom line is I’m just
too but the bottom line is I’m just letting it go out of that state of
letting it go out of that state of
letting it go out of that state of confidence though ideas pop up this
confidence though ideas pop up this
confidence though ideas pop up this whole set of tapes have been designed to
whole set of tapes have been designed to
whole set of tapes have been designed to help you get results without limits I
help you get results without limits I
help you get results without limits I didn’t sit here and say okay no I’m
didn’t sit here and say okay no I’m
didn’t sit here and say okay no I’m going to say this I’m gonna put it in
going to say this I’m gonna put it in
going to say this I’m gonna put it in this order I want you and I have a
this order I want you and I have a
this order I want you and I have a relationship that moves you this whole
relationship that moves you this whole
relationship that moves you this whole set of programs comes from my ability to
set of programs comes from my ability to
set of programs comes from my ability to say I’m confident I know I can reach
say I’m confident I know I can reach
say I’m confident I know I can reach this person if I didn’t believe that you
this person if I didn’t believe that you
this person if I didn’t believe that you and I couldn’t have this conversation
and I couldn’t have this conversation
and I couldn’t have this conversation right now
right now
right now but sometimes I don’t feel confident
but sometimes I don’t feel confident
but sometimes I don’t feel confident sometimes I don’t feel like I know what
sometimes I don’t feel like I know what
sometimes I don’t feel like I know what I’m gonna say next have you ever been
I’m gonna say next have you ever been
I’m gonna say next have you ever been there what I do at that time is act as
there what I do at that time is act as
there what I do at that time is act as if I know what I’m doing which is a
if I know what I’m doing which is a
if I know what I’m doing which is a useful approach now you might say well
useful approach now you might say well
useful approach now you might say well you’re teaching people to be confident
you’re teaching people to be confident
you’re teaching people to be confident but not confident I Got News for you if
but not confident I Got News for you if
but not confident I Got News for you if you’re confident enough you can develop
you’re confident enough you can develop
you’re confident enough you can develop the competence but if you’re competent
the competence but if you’re competent
the competence but if you’re competent and you don’t have confidence you’ll
and you don’t have confidence you’ll
and you don’t have confidence you’ll never succeed there are many competent
never succeed there are many competent
never succeed there are many competent people who could accomplish incredible
people who could accomplish incredible
people who could accomplish incredible results but they’re missing the
results but they’re missing the
results but they’re missing the confidence am I suggesting to you to be
confidence am I suggesting to you to be
confidence am I suggesting to you to be foolhardy know what I’m suggesting to
foolhardy know what I’m suggesting to
foolhardy know what I’m suggesting to you is learn how to turn on the
you is learn how to turn on the
you is learn how to turn on the confidence rapidly use enough of it to
confidence rapidly use enough of it to
confidence rapidly use enough of it to learn what you need to know to be
learn what you need to know to be
learn what you need to know to be competent and effective and produce the
competent and effective and produce the
competent and effective and produce the results but you’d be surprised how much
results but you’d be surprised how much
results but you’d be surprised how much more you know then you realize if you
more you know then you realize if you
more you know then you realize if you really get yourself in the right state
really get yourself in the right state
really get yourself in the right state of mind does that make sense
of mind does that make sense
of mind does that make sense try it try moving your body in a
try it try moving your body in a
try it try moving your body in a confident way that try it right now
confident way that try it right now
confident way that try it right now please stand up again if you’re in the
please stand up again if you’re in the
please stand up again if you’re in the car it’ll be a little bit more difficult
car it’ll be a little bit more difficult
car it’ll be a little bit more difficult oh no no don’t sit back down some of you
oh no no don’t sit back down some of you
oh no no don’t sit back down some of you started to stand up and you’re sat back
started to stand up and you’re sat back
started to stand up and you’re sat back now don’t do that I’m there I’m watching
now don’t do that I’m there I’m watching
now don’t do that I’m there I’m watching I’m telling you stand up
I’m telling you stand up
I’m telling you stand up what I want you to do is just try
what I want you to do is just try
what I want you to do is just try something stand the way you be standing
something stand the way you be standing
something stand the way you be standing if you fell unstoppably confident breed
if you fell unstoppably confident breed
if you fell unstoppably confident breed the way be breathing if you felt
the way be breathing if you felt
the way be breathing if you felt unstoppably confident really go for it
unstoppably confident really go for it
unstoppably confident really go for it put the gun of expression on your face
put the gun of expression on your face
put the gun of expression on your face like you’d have if you were unstoppably
like you’d have if you were unstoppably
like you’d have if you were unstoppably confident and make some gestures
confident and make some gestures
confident and make some gestures actually move your hands out with some
actually move your hands out with some
actually move your hands out with some powers if you’re trying to make a point
powers if you’re trying to make a point
powers if you’re trying to make a point with real power and what you know that
with real power and what you know that
with real power and what you know that what you’re gonna say is gonna be
what you’re gonna say is gonna be
what you’re gonna say is gonna be effective and just notice how that feels
effective and just notice how that feels
effective and just notice how that feels say something say yes and the tone of
say something say yes and the tone of
say something say yes and the tone of voice is somebody who is totally
voice is somebody who is totally
voice is somebody who is totally confident don’t lose yes with some power
confident don’t lose yes with some power
confident don’t lose yes with some power and just feel that feels in your body
and just feel that feels in your body
and just feel that feels in your body get a sense of it turn on more intensity
get a sense of it turn on more intensity
get a sense of it turn on more intensity than you would normally use when another
than you would normally use when another
than you would normally use when another person just feel it in your body so you
person just feel it in your body so you
person just feel it in your body so you feel what it’s like you want to be able
feel what it’s like you want to be able
feel what it’s like you want to be able to turn it on just by turning your body
to turn it on just by turning your body
to turn it on just by turning your body on this is critical with this as a power
on this is critical with this as a power
on this is critical with this as a power you can go from being afraid to strong
you can go from being afraid to strong
you can go from being afraid to strong in a matter of moments
in a matter of moments
in a matter of moments now try something really stupid and
now try something really stupid and
now try something really stupid and silly while you’re standing there I’d
silly while you’re standing there I’d
silly while you’re standing there I’d like you to walk around your room and
like you to walk around your room and
like you to walk around your room and the way I’d like you to do that is I
the way I’d like you to do that is I
the way I’d like you to do that is I want you to imagine there’s a cape
want you to imagine there’s a cape
want you to imagine there’s a cape shooting off the back of your back I’m
shooting off the back of your back I’m
shooting off the back of your back I’m gonna have this call we call this a cape
gonna have this call we call this a cape
gonna have this call we call this a cape walk now if nothing else has felt stupid
walk now if nothing else has felt stupid
walk now if nothing else has felt stupid up until now this one is guaranteed to
up until now this one is guaranteed to
up until now this one is guaranteed to assist you in this process what I want
assist you in this process what I want
assist you in this process what I want you to do is stand up pretend there’s a
you to do is stand up pretend there’s a
you to do is stand up pretend there’s a cape back there shoulders are back and I
cape back there shoulders are back and I
cape back there shoulders are back and I want you to walk around just walk around
want you to walk around just walk around
want you to walk around just walk around a circle but like you got this cape
a circle but like you got this cape
a circle but like you got this cape flowing back there with a sense of pride
flowing back there with a sense of pride
flowing back there with a sense of pride and power they go I’m not gonna do this
and power they go I’m not gonna do this
and power they go I’m not gonna do this listen only those who are truly secure
listen only those who are truly secure
listen only those who are truly secure can participate in this exercise go for
can participate in this exercise go for
can participate in this exercise go for it try and come on walk around and just
it try and come on walk around and just
it try and come on walk around and just notice it it feels like seriously walk
notice it it feels like seriously walk
notice it it feels like seriously walk around and knows how it feels to have a
around and knows how it feels to have a
around and knows how it feels to have a cape on your back and from that state
cape on your back and from that state
cape on your back and from that state even though it seems humorous try it
even though it seems humorous try it
even though it seems humorous try it right now why are you listening to me
right now why are you listening to me
right now why are you listening to me walk around and feel that feels like
walk around and feel that feels like
walk around and feel that feels like there this cape flowing off your back
there this cape flowing off your back
there this cape flowing off your back there and notice what happens in terms
there and notice what happens in terms
there and notice what happens in terms of your confidence even though you may
of your confidence even though you may
of your confidence even though you may be laughing do you feel a little
be laughing do you feel a little
be laughing do you feel a little stronger
stronger
stronger are you more upright you feel more alive
are you more upright you feel more alive
are you more upright you feel more alive just know this you can sit back down now
just know this you can sit back down now
just know this you can sit back down now don’t sit on your cape
don’t sit on your cape
don’t sit on your cape bottom line is this if you are making
bottom line is this if you are making
bottom line is this if you are making gestures with certainty if you’re moving
gestures with certainty if you’re moving
gestures with certainty if you’re moving with certainty with some acceleration
with certainty with some acceleration
with certainty with some acceleration with some power if you speak with that
with some power if you speak with that
with some power if you speak with that kind of tempo you will feel confident no
kind of tempo you will feel confident no
kind of tempo you will feel confident no matter how you’re feeling a few moments
matter how you’re feeling a few moments
matter how you’re feeling a few moments ago if you want to feel like you have a
ago if you want to feel like you have a
ago if you want to feel like you have a lack of confidence move not only slowly
lack of confidence move not only slowly
lack of confidence move not only slowly because slowly could still be confident
because slowly could still be confident
because slowly could still be confident move slowly but Moo
move slowly but Moo
move slowly but Moo with hesitation speak with hesitation
with hesitation speak with hesitation
with hesitation speak with hesitation and within a short period of time you
and within a short period of time you
and within a short period of time you can cause yourself to not only feel
can cause yourself to not only feel
can cause yourself to not only feel bored with yourself but also to actually
bored with yourself but also to actually
bored with yourself but also to actually feel like you can’t accomplish anything
feel like you can’t accomplish anything
feel like you can’t accomplish anything in essence remember this using your
in essence remember this using your
in essence remember this using your physical body effectively can put you in
physical body effectively can put you in
physical body effectively can put you in a state of confidence no matter what was
a state of confidence no matter what was
a state of confidence no matter what was happening around you no matter how
happening around you no matter how
happening around you no matter how intense the situation no matter how
intense the situation no matter how
intense the situation no matter how scary no matter how difficult you always
scary no matter how difficult you always
scary no matter how difficult you always have that resource
have that resource
have that resource don’t ever say to yourself again one of
don’t ever say to yourself again one of
don’t ever say to yourself again one of the dudes break out of that Jail if you
the dudes break out of that Jail if you
the dudes break out of that Jail if you don’t feel like you have confidence
don’t feel like you have confidence
don’t feel like you have confidence create it right now it’s not a thing
create it right now it’s not a thing
create it right now it’s not a thing that somebody gave you years ago it’s
that somebody gave you years ago it’s
that somebody gave you years ago it’s not something you missed out on it’s
not something you missed out on it’s
not something you missed out on it’s something you create by the way you
something you create by the way you
something you create by the way you speak by the way you move by the way you
speak by the way you move by the way you
speak by the way you move by the way you gesture that’s one here’s number two
gesture that’s one here’s number two
gesture that’s one here’s number two control your mental focus remember what
control your mental focus remember what
control your mental focus remember what you focus on is gonna determine how you
you focus on is gonna determine how you
you focus on is gonna determine how you feel so if you focus constantly on how
feel so if you focus constantly on how
feel so if you focus constantly on how things might not work out and you look
things might not work out and you look
things might not work out and you look at in your brain all the possibilities
at in your brain all the possibilities
at in your brain all the possibilities of well what this doesn’t work or what
of well what this doesn’t work or what
of well what this doesn’t work or what if that doesn’t happen if that’s your
if that doesn’t happen if that’s your
if that doesn’t happen if that’s your mental focus of course you’re gonna lack
mental focus of course you’re gonna lack
mental focus of course you’re gonna lack confidence
confidence
confidence remember we experience whatever we focus
remember we experience whatever we focus
remember we experience whatever we focus on so if you’re focusing on how things
on so if you’re focusing on how things
on so if you’re focusing on how things won’t work you’re gonna feel the pain
won’t work you’re gonna feel the pain
won’t work you’re gonna feel the pain that you associate to that you’re gonna
that you associate to that you’re gonna
that you associate to that you’re gonna create a tremendous amount of doubt and
create a tremendous amount of doubt and
create a tremendous amount of doubt and then it usually becomes a
then it usually becomes a
then it usually becomes a self-fulfilling prophecy you don’t get
self-fulfilling prophecy you don’t get
self-fulfilling prophecy you don’t get what you want let me give you a kind of
what you want let me give you a kind of
what you want let me give you a kind of a simple example I’d like you to try
a simple example I’d like you to try
a simple example I’d like you to try something please listen and please do
something please listen and please do
something please listen and please do this what I want you to do is think of
this what I want you to do is think of
this what I want you to do is think of something you really want to have happen
something you really want to have happen
something you really want to have happen in your future something like to have or
in your future something like to have or
in your future something like to have or do or be and what I’d like you to do is
do or be and what I’d like you to do is
do or be and what I’d like you to do is hope hope that you’ll get this to happen
hope hope that you’ll get this to happen
hope hope that you’ll get this to happen in your life okay try it
in your life okay try it
in your life okay try it think of something you really want in
think of something you really want in
think of something you really want in your life something you really want to
your life something you really want to
your life something you really want to have happen and I hope it’ll happen
have happen and I hope it’ll happen
have happen and I hope it’ll happen notice how it feels when you hope it’ll
notice how it feels when you hope it’ll
notice how it feels when you hope it’ll happen
mamie knows what you say to yourself and
mamie knows what you say to yourself and you’ll hope something will happen now
you’ll hope something will happen now
you’ll hope something will happen now when I want you to do is get out of that
when I want you to do is get out of that
when I want you to do is get out of that state completely get out stay for a
state completely get out stay for a
state completely get out stay for a second and now let’s have you think
second and now let’s have you think
second and now let’s have you think about the same thing you want to have
about the same thing you want to have
about the same thing you want to have happen in your life but this time I want
happen in your life but this time I want
happen in your life but this time I want you to expect that it will happen
you to expect that it will happen
you to expect that it will happen absolutely totally expect it know it
absolutely totally expect it know it
absolutely totally expect it know it okay and when you know it’s gonna happen
okay and when you know it’s gonna happen
okay and when you know it’s gonna happen I want you to notice what happens to the
I want you to notice what happens to the
I want you to notice what happens to the pictures in your mind as you think about
pictures in your mind as you think about
pictures in your mind as you think about it what’s different when you notice the
it what’s different when you notice the
it what’s different when you notice the difference in your body absolutely
difference in your body absolutely
difference in your body absolutely expect it will happen you expect this
expect it will happen you expect this
expect it will happen you expect this will occur you absolutely know it now I
will occur you absolutely know it now I
will occur you absolutely know it now I got a question for you is there a
got a question for you is there a
got a question for you is there a difference in how you feel in your body
difference in how you feel in your body
difference in how you feel in your body first of all and I think you’ll find the
first of all and I think you’ll find the
first of all and I think you’ll find the answer is yes in addition is there a
answer is yes in addition is there a
answer is yes in addition is there a difference in even how you visualize
difference in even how you visualize
difference in even how you visualize these two things in your mind
these two things in your mind
these two things in your mind there are several distinctions that I
there are several distinctions that I
there are several distinctions that I make usually when I ask people what the
make usually when I ask people what the
make usually when I ask people what the difference is between they’re hoping and
difference is between they’re hoping and
difference is between they’re hoping and they’re expecting invariably on number
they’re expecting invariably on number
they’re expecting invariably on number one of distinction is people tell me
one of distinction is people tell me
one of distinction is people tell me things like well I noticed that when I
things like well I noticed that when I
things like well I noticed that when I was hoping that the picture was dim or
was hoping that the picture was dim or
was hoping that the picture was dim or it was dark it was gray or his black and
it was dark it was gray or his black and
it was dark it was gray or his black and white or or it was two pictures I saw
white or or it was two pictures I saw
white or or it was two pictures I saw myself succeeding but I also saw the
myself succeeding but I also saw the
myself succeeding but I also saw the possibility of failing verses when I
possibility of failing verses when I
possibility of failing verses when I expected I saw just one picture I saw it
expected I saw just one picture I saw it
expected I saw just one picture I saw it happening interesting when you focus on
happening interesting when you focus on
happening interesting when you focus on it just happening you feel confident
it just happening you feel confident
it just happening you feel confident when you focus on it might happen or it
when you focus on it might happen or it
when you focus on it might happen or it might not happen you don’t feel so
might not happen you don’t feel so
might not happen you don’t feel so confident is that fair to say also when
confident is that fair to say also when
confident is that fair to say also when people focus on things that they’re
people focus on things that they’re
people focus on things that they’re expecting many times they put it in
expecting many times they put it in
expecting many times they put it in color giving that commonly comes up is
color giving that commonly comes up is
color giving that commonly comes up is people say things like well when I was
people say things like well when I was
people say things like well when I was hoping I felt kind of passive and when I
hoping I felt kind of passive and when I
hoping I felt kind of passive and when I was expecting I felt active I felt like
was expecting I felt active I felt like
was expecting I felt active I felt like I needed to do something interesting was
I needed to do something interesting was
I needed to do something interesting was that true for you the reason is whatever
that true for you the reason is whatever
that true for you the reason is whatever we focus on we get so if you’re focusing
we focus on we get so if you’re focusing
we focus on we get so if you’re focusing on two possibilities your brain is
on two possibilities your brain is
on two possibilities your brain is getting different neural associations
getting different neural associations
getting different neural associations it’s going could be painful could be
it’s going could be painful could be
it’s going could be painful could be pleasurable your brain doesn’t know what
pleasurable your brain doesn’t know what
pleasurable your brain doesn’t know what to do it doesn’t feel confident but when
to do it doesn’t feel confident but when
to do it doesn’t feel confident but when you expect and focus on one result you
you expect and focus on one result you
you expect and focus on one result you say this is what it is I’m going to
say this is what it is I’m going to
say this is what it is I’m going to accomplish this I expect it immediately
accomplish this I expect it immediately
accomplish this I expect it immediately your level of self confidence goes up
your level of self confidence goes up
your level of self confidence goes up and you feel active immediately because
and you feel active immediately because
and you feel active immediately because your brain says hey if I do this I can
your brain says hey if I do this I can
your brain says hey if I do this I can get some pleasure in my life does that
get some pleasure in my life does that
get some pleasure in my life does that make sense that’s the process we’re
make sense that’s the process we’re
make sense that’s the process we’re talking about we must control our focus
talking about we must control our focus
talking about we must control our focus and one way to do it of course is to
and one way to do it of course is to
and one way to do it of course is to control our focus by controlling the
control our focus by controlling the
control our focus by controlling the questions we ask ourselves invariably
questions we ask ourselves invariably
questions we ask ourselves invariably people who have a lot of doubt ask
people who have a lot of doubt ask
people who have a lot of doubt ask questions are created they say things
questions are created they say things
questions are created they say things like well could I really get this done I
like well could I really get this done I
like well could I really get this done I wonder or god I wonder if this will get
wonder or god I wonder if this will get
wonder or god I wonder if this will get screwed up too versus coming from the
screwed up too versus coming from the
screwed up too versus coming from the place of saying how can I get this done
place of saying how can I get this done
place of saying how can I get this done or better what’s the best way I can get
or better what’s the best way I can get
or better what’s the best way I can get this done see when something comes up
this done see when something comes up
this done see when something comes up for me if I want to be confident I’ll
for me if I want to be confident I’ll
for me if I want to be confident I’ll say gosh do you think I can really pull
say gosh do you think I can really pull
say gosh do you think I can really pull this off ask myself what’s the best way
this off ask myself what’s the best way
this off ask myself what’s the best way to get this done and enjoy the process
to get this done and enjoy the process
to get this done and enjoy the process now by doing that listen to the
now by doing that listen to the
now by doing that listen to the presupposition there the presupposition
presupposition there the presupposition
presupposition there the presupposition is my mind is gonna focus on how to get
is my mind is gonna focus on how to get
is my mind is gonna focus on how to get it done I’m gonna start expecting it’s
it done I’m gonna start expecting it’s
it done I’m gonna start expecting it’s gonna get done I’m gonna feel confident
gonna get done I’m gonna feel confident
gonna get done I’m gonna feel confident versus saying will it work or will it
versus saying will it work or will it
versus saying will it work or will it not in which case I start focusing on
not in which case I start focusing on
not in which case I start focusing on two different possibilities and I lose
two different possibilities and I lose
two different possibilities and I lose my confidence they follow me
my confidence they follow me
my confidence they follow me good now third way that we can control
good now third way that we can control
good now third way that we can control our focus is just to change our core
our focus is just to change our core
our focus is just to change our core beliefs we’ve already talked about how
beliefs we’ve already talked about how
beliefs we’ve already talked about how to do this over and over again if you
to do this over and over again if you
to do this over and over again if you walk around in life believing that the
walk around in life believing that the
walk around in life believing that the only way you can feel confident is if
only way you can feel confident is if
only way you can feel confident is if you’ve already accomplished something
you’ve already accomplished something
you’ve already accomplished something you got a problem you’re limiting
you got a problem you’re limiting
you got a problem you’re limiting yourself to the number of things you can
yourself to the number of things you can
yourself to the number of things you can ever feel confident about and succeed in
ever feel confident about and succeed in
ever feel confident about and succeed in other words some people say well how can
other words some people say well how can
other words some people say well how can I be confident when I’ve never done it
I be confident when I’ve never done it
I be confident when I’ve never done it before
before
before listen I feel confident all kinds of
listen I feel confident all kinds of
listen I feel confident all kinds of things I’ve never done before you say
things I’ve never done before you say
things I’ve never done before you say well that’s because you’re a screwed up
well that’s because you’re a screwed up
well that’s because you’re a screwed up no that’s not why it is it’s because I
no that’s not why it is it’s because I
no that’s not why it is it’s because I come from a belief system that says this
come from a belief system that says this
come from a belief system that says this that if I can imagine it I can achieve
that if I can imagine it I can achieve
that if I can imagine it I can achieve it so if I can even imagine it I know I
it so if I can even imagine it I know I
it so if I can even imagine it I know I can achieve it and that allows me to be
can achieve it and that allows me to be
can achieve it and that allows me to be confident plus I have a belief system
confident plus I have a belief system
confident plus I have a belief system that says if I’m committed there’s
that says if I’m committed there’s
that says if I’m committed there’s always a way to make it work
always a way to make it work
always a way to make it work and no matter how tough the situation is
and no matter how tough the situation is
and no matter how tough the situation is if I don’t know how to make it work
if I don’t know how to make it work
if I don’t know how to make it work somebody else does and I can get their
somebody else does and I can get their
somebody else does and I can get their help
help
help so I come from that place and that
so I come from that place and that
so I come from that place and that allows me to be confident I know I can
allows me to be confident I know I can
allows me to be confident I know I can get help I know if I’m committed there’s
get help I know if I’m committed there’s
get help I know if I’m committed there’s a way to do it and I know that anything
a way to do it and I know that anything
a way to do it and I know that anything in the past I’ve really been able to
in the past I’ve really been able to
in the past I’ve really been able to imagine accomplishing and finding a role
imagine accomplishing and finding a role
imagine accomplishing and finding a role model for I can’t accomplish
model for I can’t accomplish
model for I can’t accomplish hey listen everything you do now you
hey listen everything you do now you
hey listen everything you do now you once weren’t good at everything you do
once weren’t good at everything you do
once weren’t good at everything you do now there was a time when you had not
now there was a time when you had not
now there was a time when you had not done it why wait to get confident
done it why wait to get confident
done it why wait to get confident besides that I know I can be confident
besides that I know I can be confident
besides that I know I can be confident about what I’m about to begin because I
about what I’m about to begin because I
about what I’m about to begin because I know look if it doesn’t work out I’ll
know look if it doesn’t work out I’ll
know look if it doesn’t work out I’ll learn something and that makes me feel
learn something and that makes me feel
learn something and that makes me feel confident because what that learning
confident because what that learning
confident because what that learning will allow me to be better in the future
will allow me to be better in the future
will allow me to be better in the future in other words set yourself up to be
in other words set yourself up to be
in other words set yourself up to be able to be confident again I’m not
able to be confident again I’m not
able to be confident again I’m not suggesting me foolhardy I’m just telling
suggesting me foolhardy I’m just telling
suggesting me foolhardy I’m just telling you how to turn confidence on when you
you how to turn confidence on when you
you how to turn confidence on when you need
need
need and most the time you do need it so a
and most the time you do need it so a
and most the time you do need it so a key question a lot of people ask me is
key question a lot of people ask me is
key question a lot of people ask me is well how can I create that level of
well how can I create that level of
well how can I create that level of belief I understand I can change my body
belief I understand I can change my body
belief I understand I can change my body but how can I create that belief so I
but how can I create that belief so I
but how can I create that belief so I wouldn’t have to work at it well there’s
wouldn’t have to work at it well there’s
wouldn’t have to work at it well there’s a simple process that I teach people I
a simple process that I teach people I
a simple process that I teach people I call it my success cycle and it for me
call it my success cycle and it for me
call it my success cycle and it for me is my way of explaining why people who
is my way of explaining why people who
is my way of explaining why people who succeed seem to continue to succeed and
succeed seem to continue to succeed and
succeed seem to continue to succeed and get even stronger and people who fail
get even stronger and people who fail
get even stronger and people who fail seem to go down a downward spiral why do
seem to go down a downward spiral why do
seem to go down a downward spiral why do the rich get richer and the poor get
the rich get richer and the poor get
the rich get richer and the poor get poorer
poorer
poorer not just term in terms of rich or poor
not just term in terms of rich or poor
not just term in terms of rich or poor financially but rich meaning mental
financially but rich meaning mental
financially but rich meaning mental emotional social spiritual intellectual
emotional social spiritual intellectual
emotional social spiritual intellectual physiological and financial I put a copy
physiological and financial I put a copy
physiological and financial I put a copy of the drawing of my success cycle there
of the drawing of my success cycle there
of the drawing of my success cycle there on your summary now if you take a look
on your summary now if you take a look
on your summary now if you take a look at it you’ll see that there are four
at it you’ll see that there are four
at it you’ll see that there are four elements that I think affect the quality
elements that I think affect the quality
elements that I think affect the quality of our lives and I’ve got them
of our lives and I’ve got them
of our lives and I’ve got them represented there by those four boxes up
represented there by those four boxes up
represented there by those four boxes up in the top left hand corner there you
in the top left hand corner there you
in the top left hand corner there you should see the word potential what’s the
should see the word potential what’s the
should see the word potential what’s the potential of any human being I
potential of any human being I
potential of any human being I personally believe it absolutely is
personally believe it absolutely is
personally believe it absolutely is unlimited none of us even come close to
unlimited none of us even come close to
unlimited none of us even come close to scratching our real potential the second
scratching our real potential the second
scratching our real potential the second element that affects human performance
element that affects human performance
element that affects human performance is our actions up there in the Box in
is our actions up there in the Box in
is our actions up there in the Box in the right hand corner the third element
the right hand corner the third element
the right hand corner the third element that affects performance are the actual
that affects performance are the actual
that affects performance are the actual results that we’ve gotten in other words
results that we’ve gotten in other words
results that we’ve gotten in other words what’s the impact of our present actions
what’s the impact of our present actions
what’s the impact of our present actions and potential being utilized and finally
and potential being utilized and finally
and potential being utilized and finally the fourth element that affects
the fourth element that affects
the fourth element that affects performance is our beliefs and you’ll
performance is our beliefs and you’ll
performance is our beliefs and you’ll see that down in the left hand corner in
see that down in the left hand corner in
see that down in the left hand corner in that box and you notice that all these
that box and you notice that all these
that box and you notice that all these boxes have arrows that connect them and
boxes have arrows that connect them and
boxes have arrows that connect them and they’re all pointing in a particular
they’re all pointing in a particular
they’re all pointing in a particular direction going clockwise as if this was
direction going clockwise as if this was
direction going clockwise as if this was a continuous cycle how does it work well
a continuous cycle how does it work well
a continuous cycle how does it work well number one what’s the potential of any
number one what’s the potential of any
number one what’s the potential of any human being again unlimited but do most
human being again unlimited but do most
human being again unlimited but do most people’s results in life that bottom
people’s results in life that bottom
people’s results in life that bottom right hand corner box and most people’s
right hand corner box and most people’s
right hand corner box and most people’s results reflect that level of potential
results reflect that level of potential
results reflect that level of potential I would say no way what’s the problem
I would say no way what’s the problem
I would say no way what’s the problem you might say oh I see what is Tony it’s
you might say oh I see what is Tony it’s
you might say oh I see what is Tony it’s that second box at the top they don’t
that second box at the top they don’t
that second box at the top they don’t take enough what action I think that’s
take enough what action I think that’s
take enough what action I think that’s true in many cases but that’s not the
true in many cases but that’s not the
true in many cases but that’s not the only problem there are a lot of people
only problem there are a lot of people
only problem there are a lot of people who go out there and take a lot of
who go out there and take a lot of
who go out there and take a lot of action and still get lousy results why
action and still get lousy results why
action and still get lousy results why action by itself is great but it is not
action by itself is great but it is not
action by itself is great but it is not enough hey if you’re in sales and you go
enough hey if you’re in sales and you go
enough hey if you’re in sales and you go out make a hundred cold calls because
out make a hundred cold calls because
out make a hundred cold calls because you’re doing lousy but you go out win a
you’re doing lousy but you go out win a
you’re doing lousy but you go out win a state of mind we don’t expect
state of mind we don’t expect
state of mind we don’t expect gonna buy and you turn to people and say
gonna buy and you turn to people and say
gonna buy and you turn to people and say things like you wouldn’t want to buy
things like you wouldn’t want to buy
things like you wouldn’t want to buy anything from me would you maybe you
anything from me would you maybe you
anything from me would you maybe you don’t say that verbally but maybe your
don’t say that verbally but maybe your
don’t say that verbally but maybe your face says that because you don’t expect
face says that because you don’t expect
face says that because you don’t expect them to is that gonna affect your result
them to is that gonna affect your result
them to is that gonna affect your result you better believe it’s going to you’re
you better believe it’s going to you’re
you better believe it’s going to you’re gonna get lousy results in other words
gonna get lousy results in other words
gonna get lousy results in other words success starts with our beliefs if you
success starts with our beliefs if you
success starts with our beliefs if you look at that bottom left hand box that
look at that bottom left hand box that
look at that bottom left hand box that is the core of your performance think
is the core of your performance think
is the core of your performance think about it
about it
about it see the potential is there but if for
see the potential is there but if for
see the potential is there but if for some reason you start out with some
some reason you start out with some
some reason you start out with some learning beliefs like well I don’t have
learning beliefs like well I don’t have
learning beliefs like well I don’t have that much self-confidence anyway or I
that much self-confidence anyway or I
that much self-confidence anyway or I don’t have the background or I’ve never
don’t have the background or I’ve never
don’t have the background or I’ve never done this before so I probably won’t
done this before so I probably won’t
done this before so I probably won’t succeed anyway if you have that belief
succeed anyway if you have that belief
succeed anyway if you have that belief are you likely to tap a lot of your
are you likely to tap a lot of your
are you likely to tap a lot of your potential highly unlikely now if you
potential highly unlikely now if you
potential highly unlikely now if you don’t think you’re gonna succeed you’re
don’t think you’re gonna succeed you’re
don’t think you’re gonna succeed you’re not using much potential are you likely
not using much potential are you likely
not using much potential are you likely to take massive action
to take massive action
to take massive action hardly now when you tap a little bit of
hardly now when you tap a little bit of
hardly now when you tap a little bit of potential and you only take a little bit
potential and you only take a little bit
potential and you only take a little bit of action what kind of results do you
of action what kind of results do you
of action what kind of results do you get a little bit of results if any now
get a little bit of results if any now
get a little bit of results if any now what does that do to your brain in your
what does that do to your brain in your
what does that do to your brain in your beliefs your brain goes see I told you
beliefs your brain goes see I told you
beliefs your brain goes see I told you so now you have this reinforcing belief
so now you have this reinforcing belief
so now you have this reinforcing belief pattern because it points back to that
pattern because it points back to that
pattern because it points back to that experience so what happens you have even
experience so what happens you have even
experience so what happens you have even less belief it’s happy even less
less belief it’s happy even less
less belief it’s happy even less potential you take even less action if
potential you take even less action if
potential you take even less action if that’s possible you get even worse
that’s possible you get even worse
that’s possible you get even worse results and now you’re truly locked into
results and now you’re truly locked into
results and now you’re truly locked into the downward spiral to the point where
the downward spiral to the point where
the downward spiral to the point where now you start looking at how can you do
now you start looking at how can you do
now you start looking at how can you do the very least to get by that’s called
the very least to get by that’s called
the very least to get by that’s called death rattle to personal success the
death rattle to personal success the
death rattle to personal success the opposite is also true – sometimes people
opposite is also true – sometimes people
opposite is also true – sometimes people have an experience in life where for
have an experience in life where for
have an experience in life where for some reason they get a result or
some reason they get a result or
some reason they get a result or something happens and they begin to
something happens and they begin to
something happens and they begin to absolutely believe not just hope but
absolutely believe not just hope but
absolutely believe not just hope but know that they can accomplish something
know that they can accomplish something
know that they can accomplish something when that happens whether it because you
when that happens whether it because you
when that happens whether it because you changed your body or you had a new
changed your body or you had a new
changed your body or you had a new experience you’re gonna tap a lot more
experience you’re gonna tap a lot more
experience you’re gonna tap a lot more potential when you know you’re gonna
potential when you know you’re gonna
potential when you know you’re gonna succeed aren’t you and therefore you’re
succeed aren’t you and therefore you’re
succeed aren’t you and therefore you’re gonna probably take a lot more action
gonna probably take a lot more action
gonna probably take a lot more action knowing you’re gonna succeed you’re
knowing you’re gonna succeed you’re
knowing you’re gonna succeed you’re inspired you’re gonna go for it when you
inspired you’re gonna go for it when you
inspired you’re gonna go for it when you take a lot of action and use a lot of
take a lot of action and use a lot of
take a lot of action and use a lot of your potential what kind of results you
your potential what kind of results you
your potential what kind of results you get usually great results when you get
get usually great results when you get
get usually great results when you get great results what does that need your
great results what does that need your
great results what does that need your belief your brain goes mmm see I told
belief your brain goes mmm see I told
belief your brain goes mmm see I told you you would succeed and sure enough
you you would succeed and sure enough
you you would succeed and sure enough now your beliefs even stronger so what
now your beliefs even stronger so what
now your beliefs even stronger so what do you do you tap even more potential
do you do you tap even more potential
do you do you tap even more potential you take massive action and you get even
you take massive action and you get even
you take massive action and you get even greater results what happens your
greater results what happens your
greater results what happens your believes even stronger and now you’re in
believes even stronger and now you’re in
believes even stronger and now you’re in that success
that success
that success Michael you’re in that place well you
Michael you’re in that place well you
Michael you’re in that place well you literally have momentum that drives you
literally have momentum that drives you
literally have momentum that drives you to a whole new level
to a whole new level
to a whole new level that’s how beliefs are formed you might
that’s how beliefs are formed you might
that’s how beliefs are formed you might say well how can I get results though
say well how can I get results though
say well how can I get results though what do I do if I’m on the downward
what do I do if I’m on the downward
what do I do if I’m on the downward spiral
spiral
spiral well you don’t change your potential
well you don’t change your potential
well you don’t change your potential that’s always there you don’t just take
that’s always there you don’t just take
that’s always there you don’t just take action although that’s a great first
action although that’s a great first
action although that’s a great first step you’ve got to change your beliefs
step you’ve got to change your beliefs
step you’ve got to change your beliefs and that one of the easiest ways to do
and that one of the easiest ways to do
and that one of the easiest ways to do that is change your results in advance
that is change your results in advance
that is change your results in advance you might say what do you mean well let
you might say what do you mean well let
you might say what do you mean well let me give you an example would you please
me give you an example would you please
me give you an example would you please stop what you’re doing right now and do
stop what you’re doing right now and do
stop what you’re doing right now and do this exercise with me change your focus
this exercise with me change your focus
this exercise with me change your focus and pay a hundred percent attention
and pay a hundred percent attention
and pay a hundred percent attention you’re gonna like this here’s what I’m
you’re gonna like this here’s what I’m
you’re gonna like this here’s what I’m gonna do please stand up just for a
gonna do please stand up just for a
gonna do please stand up just for a moment come on stand up there come on
moment come on stand up there come on
moment come on stand up there come on and what I’d like you to do is put your
and what I’d like you to do is put your
and what I’d like you to do is put your feet together so they’re pointing
feet together so they’re pointing
feet together so they’re pointing straight ahead then what I want you to
straight ahead then what I want you to
straight ahead then what I want you to do is just take your right arm and bring
do is just take your right arm and bring
do is just take your right arm and bring it straight out in front of you and
it straight out in front of you and
it straight out in front of you and point your right index finger directly
point your right index finger directly
point your right index finger directly in front of you so you’re pointing
in front of you so you’re pointing
in front of you so you’re pointing straight ahead when I say now what I’d
straight ahead when I say now what I’d
straight ahead when I say now what I’d like you to do is turn clockwise as far
like you to do is turn clockwise as far
like you to do is turn clockwise as far as you can comfortably without
as you can comfortably without
as you can comfortably without stretching yourself or pushing yourself
stretching yourself or pushing yourself
stretching yourself or pushing yourself or really hurting yourself okay ready go
or really hurting yourself okay ready go
or really hurting yourself okay ready go ahead and turn clockwise now as far as
ahead and turn clockwise now as far as
ahead and turn clockwise now as far as you can and just notice where you end up
you can and just notice where you end up
you can and just notice where you end up good now come back again okay drop your
good now come back again okay drop your
good now come back again okay drop your right arm close your eyes and what I
right arm close your eyes and what I
right arm close your eyes and what I want to do is something really simple
want to do is something really simple
want to do is something really simple some simple neuro societal conditioning
some simple neuro societal conditioning
some simple neuro societal conditioning now it’s gonna be simpler than anything
now it’s gonna be simpler than anything
now it’s gonna be simpler than anything we’ve done so far all I want you to do
we’ve done so far all I want you to do
we’ve done so far all I want you to do is imagine that you’re bringing your
is imagine that you’re bringing your
is imagine that you’re bringing your right arm back up again and I want you
right arm back up again and I want you
right arm back up again and I want you to imagine it so vividly that you
to imagine it so vividly that you
to imagine it so vividly that you actually feel as if and see your hand
actually feel as if and see your hand
actually feel as if and see your hand coming up in front of you straight out
coming up in front of you straight out
coming up in front of you straight out pointing in front of you again in other
pointing in front of you again in other
pointing in front of you again in other words don’t actually do it but make it
words don’t actually do it but make it
words don’t actually do it but make it so real that it feels as if it’s
so real that it feels as if it’s
so real that it feels as if it’s happening and you can see it occurring
happening and you can see it occurring
happening and you can see it occurring then in your mind’s eye see and feel
then in your mind’s eye see and feel
then in your mind’s eye see and feel yourself turning clockwise again only
yourself turning clockwise again only
yourself turning clockwise again only this time going twice as far and make it
this time going twice as far and make it
this time going twice as far and make it effortless and expect to enjoy it good
effortless and expect to enjoy it good
effortless and expect to enjoy it good and then come back around in your mind
and then come back around in your mind
and then come back around in your mind and again in your mind see and feel your
and again in your mind see and feel your
and again in your mind see and feel your arm coming up in front of you with your
arm coming up in front of you with your
arm coming up in front of you with your finger pointing straight ahead and when
finger pointing straight ahead and when
finger pointing straight ahead and when I say now turn clockwise and see and
I say now turn clockwise and see and
I say now turn clockwise and see and feel no don’t actually do it but make it
feel no don’t actually do it but make it
feel no don’t actually do it but make it so real it feels like it’s happening see
so real it feels like it’s happening see
so real it feels like it’s happening see and feel yourself again turning and this
and feel yourself again turning and this
and feel yourself again turning and this time going three times as far as you did
time going three times as far as you did
time going three times as far as you did the first time
the first time
the first time excellent and now do it a third time do
excellent and now do it a third time do
excellent and now do it a third time do it very rapidly and feel and expect
it very rapidly and feel and expect
it very rapidly and feel and expect yourself to go almost four times as far
yourself to go almost four times as far
yourself to go almost four times as far will you turn almost all the way around
will you turn almost all the way around
will you turn almost all the way around very good now open your eyes bring your
very good now open your eyes bring your
very good now open your eyes bring your right arm back up physically this time
right arm back up physically this time
right arm back up physically this time with your finger pointing straight ahead
with your finger pointing straight ahead
with your finger pointing straight ahead and when I say now turn clockwise and go
and when I say now turn clockwise and go
and when I say now turn clockwise and go as far as you can without hurting
as far as you can without hurting
as far as you can without hurting yourself and watch how much further you
yourself and watch how much further you
yourself and watch how much further you go this time go for it if you’re like
go this time go for it if you’re like
go this time go for it if you’re like most people you’ve gone much further in
most people you’ve gone much further in
most people you’ve gone much further in fact the average person goes at least
fact the average person goes at least
fact the average person goes at least 1/3 further than they did before so I
1/3 further than they did before so I
1/3 further than they did before so I got a question for you go ahead and have
got a question for you go ahead and have
got a question for you go ahead and have a seat
a seat
a seat my question is this what happened here
my question is this what happened here
my question is this what happened here did your potential change no you always
did your potential change no you always
did your potential change no you always had the potential to turn that form did
had the potential to turn that form did
had the potential to turn that form did you like make major changes in your
you like make major changes in your
you like make major changes in your actions no way you didn’t make it major
actions no way you didn’t make it major
actions no way you didn’t make it major changes in your actions but your results
changes in your actions but your results
changes in your actions but your results did change
did change
did change why because by reversing in your mind
why because by reversing in your mind
why because by reversing in your mind over and over again you conditioned your
over and over again you conditioned your
over and over again you conditioned your mind to believe to feel certain then it
mind to believe to feel certain then it
mind to believe to feel certain then it could go much further you created an
could go much further you created an
could go much further you created an association in your nervous system it
association in your nervous system it
association in your nervous system it said this will feel good and I can go
said this will feel good and I can go
said this will feel good and I can go further and now you’ve gone much further
further and now you’ve gone much further
further and now you’ve gone much further in fact if you did it again you could go
in fact if you did it again you could go
in fact if you did it again you could go even further again so this is a perfect
even further again so this is a perfect
even further again so this is a perfect metaphor for what has to happen in life
metaphor for what has to happen in life
metaphor for what has to happen in life if you want to succeed you need to
if you want to succeed you need to
if you want to succeed you need to rehearse over and over succeeding until
rehearse over and over succeeding until
rehearse over and over succeeding until it’s so real for you your brain begins
it’s so real for you your brain begins
it’s so real for you your brain begins to believe it now you’ll tap or
to believe it now you’ll tap or
to believe it now you’ll tap or potential you’ll take better action in
potential you’ll take better action in
potential you’ll take better action in real life you’ll get better results then
real life you’ll get better results then
real life you’ll get better results then we’ll reinforce your belief and now
we’ll reinforce your belief and now
we’ll reinforce your belief and now you’re off and running does this make
you’re off and running does this make
you’re off and running does this make sense this is the way to create lifelong
sense this is the way to create lifelong
sense this is the way to create lifelong unstoppable self-confidence this is what
unstoppable self-confidence this is what
unstoppable self-confidence this is what I did for myself because I was on the
I did for myself because I was on the
I did for myself because I was on the downward spiral all I did was create the
downward spiral all I did was create the
downward spiral all I did was create the results in my head so vividly I began to
results in my head so vividly I began to
results in my head so vividly I began to believe them when I believed them I
believe them when I believed them I
believe them when I believed them I tapped more potential I took more action
tapped more potential I took more action
tapped more potential I took more action I started to get those real results in
I started to get those real results in
I started to get those real results in my life emotionally economically and my
my life emotionally economically and my
my life emotionally economically and my relationships and virtually every area
relationships and virtually every area
relationships and virtually every area of my life and let me leave you with two
of my life and let me leave you with two
of my life and let me leave you with two more things on confidence one if you
more things on confidence one if you
more things on confidence one if you really want to be confident know what
really want to be confident know what
really want to be confident know what causes people to lack in it focusing too
causes people to lack in it focusing too
causes people to lack in it focusing too much on yourself and not enough on other
much on yourself and not enough on other
much on yourself and not enough on other people will guarantee that you’ll lack
people will guarantee that you’ll lack
people will guarantee that you’ll lack confidence what do I mean I mean some
confidence what do I mean I mean some
confidence what do I mean I mean some people lack confidence because they pick
people lack confidence because they pick
people lack confidence because they pick themselves apart they spend all day
themselves apart they spend all day
themselves apart they spend all day every day
every day
every day analyzing themselves why did I do this
analyzing themselves why did I do this
analyzing themselves why did I do this why don’t I do that how come I never
why don’t I do that how come I never
why don’t I do that how come I never accomplish these things they ask lousy
accomplish these things they ask lousy
accomplish these things they ask lousy questions they get lousy answers and
questions they get lousy answers and
questions they get lousy answers and they create a tremendous amount of
they create a tremendous amount of
they create a tremendous amount of self-doubt you won’t have more
self-doubt you won’t have more
self-doubt you won’t have more confidence stop analyzing yourself so
confidence stop analyzing yourself so
confidence stop analyzing yourself so much and focus on other people and how
much and focus on other people and how
much and focus on other people and how you can contribute to them and as you
you can contribute to them and as you
you can contribute to them and as you start giving to other people you’ll feel
start giving to other people you’ll feel
start giving to other people you’ll feel more confident about what you can even
more confident about what you can even
more confident about what you can even do for yourself that makes sense
do for yourself that makes sense
do for yourself that makes sense and finally this you can feel confident
and finally this you can feel confident
and finally this you can feel confident if all you do is remember some of the
if all you do is remember some of the
if all you do is remember some of the things you’ve accomplished in your life
things you’ve accomplished in your life
things you’ve accomplished in your life you are a successful competent person
you are a successful competent person
you are a successful competent person you’ve done a lot of things in your life
you’ve done a lot of things in your life
you’ve done a lot of things in your life extremely well no matter who you are
extremely well no matter who you are
extremely well no matter who you are what your background is there are things
what your background is there are things
what your background is there are things in this world that you are really good
in this world that you are really good
in this world that you are really good at things you’ve really accomplished in
at things you’ve really accomplished in
at things you’ve really accomplished in your life that you’ve got to be proud of
your life that you’ve got to be proud of
your life that you’ve got to be proud of every human being I meet I know is my
every human being I meet I know is my
every human being I meet I know is my superior because I know all of us in
superior because I know all of us in
superior because I know all of us in life have focused our attention on
life have focused our attention on
life have focused our attention on various things and whatever you focused
various things and whatever you focused
various things and whatever you focused on a lot you’re good at and every human
on a lot you’re good at and every human
on a lot you’re good at and every human being I meet in my life I know that I’m
being I meet in my life I know that I’m
being I meet in my life I know that I’m superior to in some way as well that
superior to in some way as well that
superior to in some way as well that makes me feel confident as well knowing
makes me feel confident as well knowing
makes me feel confident as well knowing I can learn from other people and that I
I can learn from other people and that I
I can learn from other people and that I can give – so in order to help yourself
can give – so in order to help yourself
can give – so in order to help yourself really have reasons to feel confident
really have reasons to feel confident
really have reasons to feel confident not just put yourself in state but to
not just put yourself in state but to
not just put yourself in state but to feel like you got reasons all you’ve got
feel like you got reasons all you’ve got
feel like you got reasons all you’ve got to do is manage your memories better
to do is manage your memories better
to do is manage your memories better pull out some of your memories of tough
pull out some of your memories of tough
pull out some of your memories of tough situations in your life well you didn’t
situations in your life well you didn’t
situations in your life well you didn’t think you could pull it off but you
think you could pull it off but you
think you could pull it off but you turned it around you have some of those
turned it around you have some of those
turned it around you have some of those don’t you situations where you think I
don’t you situations where you think I
don’t you situations where you think I can never figure a way to pull this off
can never figure a way to pull this off
can never figure a way to pull this off and yet you did you need to remember
and yet you did you need to remember
and yet you did you need to remember more of those and less of the times and
more of those and less of the times and
more of those and less of the times and you felt overwhelmed what I want you to
you felt overwhelmed what I want you to
you felt overwhelmed what I want you to do is take out your success journal and
do is take out your success journal and
do is take out your success journal and your assignment for DES is simple I want
your assignment for DES is simple I want
your assignment for DES is simple I want you to come up with five of your
you to come up with five of your
you to come up with five of your greatest successes in life things where
greatest successes in life things where
greatest successes in life things where you’ve really turned it on maybe some
you’ve really turned it on maybe some
you’ve really turned it on maybe some situations where it looked really dark
situations where it looked really dark
situations where it looked really dark looked really difficult and you didn’t
looked really difficult and you didn’t
looked really difficult and you didn’t know how you’re gonna pull it off but
know how you’re gonna pull it off but
know how you’re gonna pull it off but you did and all I want you to do is
you did and all I want you to do is
you did and all I want you to do is write down a paragraph or so about each
write down a paragraph or so about each
write down a paragraph or so about each one of those in other words pull out of
one of those in other words pull out of
one of those in other words pull out of your memory files some of the references
your memory files some of the references
your memory files some of the references that can show you that you deserve to be
that can show you that you deserve to be
that can show you that you deserve to be confident that you’re competent and
confident that you’re competent and
confident that you’re competent and confident that you can make things
confident that you can make things
confident that you can make things happen even in the toughest of times and
happen even in the toughest of times and
happen even in the toughest of times and use those examples to remind yourself in
use those examples to remind yourself in
use those examples to remind yourself in the future that whatever’s going on you
the future that whatever’s going on you
the future that whatever’s going on you can find a way do that today and have
can find a way do that today and have
can find a way do that today and have some fun filtering through your memories
some fun filtering through your memories
some fun filtering through your memories and picking five of your favorites
and picking five of your favorites
and picking five of your favorites [Music]
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