what I believe nation it’s Evan my one word is believe and I believe in people
word is believe and I believe in people
word is believe and I believe in people more than they believe in themselves and
more than they believe in themselves and
more than they believe in themselves and my sincere hope is that if you see in
my sincere hope is that if you see in
my sincere hope is that if you see in yourself what I see in you you’ll be
yourself what I see in you you’ll be
yourself what I see in you you’ll be able to change the planet I started to
able to change the planet I started to
able to change the planet I started to believe life series to help us learn a
believe life series to help us learn a
believe life series to help us learn a little bit more about ourselves grow
little bit more about ourselves grow
little bit more about ourselves grow personally and ideally bring some of
personally and ideally bring some of
personally and ideally bring some of what we learned about ourselves to our
what we learned about ourselves to our
what we learned about ourselves to our business to have more success so today
business to have more success so today
business to have more success so today we’re going to learn how to gain
we’re going to learn how to gain
we’re going to learn how to gain confidence rule number three is my
confidence rule number three is my
confidence rule number three is my personal favorite and I’d love to know
personal favorite and I’d love to know
personal favorite and I’d love to know which one you guys like the best also as
which one you guys like the best also as
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I don’t know if you’d agree with me on
I don’t know if you’d agree with me on this but in many ways one of the key
this but in many ways one of the key
this but in many ways one of the key factors to legendary success isn’t your
factors to legendary success isn’t your
factors to legendary success isn’t your natural ability it’s not whether you
natural ability it’s not whether you
natural ability it’s not whether you have the right product it’s not whether
have the right product it’s not whether
have the right product it’s not whether you’re in the right field it’s not
you’re in the right field it’s not
you’re in the right field it’s not whether you’ve had a blessed background
whether you’ve had a blessed background
whether you’ve had a blessed background it’s not whether you have the right IQ I
it’s not whether you have the right IQ I
it’s not whether you have the right IQ I want you to really think about and
want you to really think about and
want you to really think about and deconstruct and play with maybe later
deconstruct and play with maybe later
deconstruct and play with maybe later tonight in your journal I want you to
tonight in your journal I want you to
tonight in your journal I want you to deconstruct this idea of confidence and
deconstruct this idea of confidence and
deconstruct this idea of confidence and it seems like a very simple word but
it seems like a very simple word but
it seems like a very simple word but just think about it in your own life
just think about it in your own life
just think about it in your own life when you have confidence or we could
when you have confidence or we could
when you have confidence or we could even call it fire when you have that
even call it fire when you have that
even call it fire when you have that fire within you that’s confidence that
fire within you that’s confidence that
fire within you that’s confidence that interior bravery you almost have this
interior bravery you almost have this
interior bravery you almost have this power to do whatever it takes to get
power to do whatever it takes to get
power to do whatever it takes to get your brave vision done you see in this
your brave vision done you see in this
your brave vision done you see in this world it’s not about you know in many
world it’s not about you know in many
world it’s not about you know in many ways your strategy in your business or
ways your strategy in your business or
ways your strategy in your business or your ability in your life it’s about
your ability in your life it’s about
your ability in your life it’s about this thing called confidence and we have
this thing called confidence and we have
this thing called confidence and we have all had these times in our lives when we
all had these times in our lives when we
all had these times in our lives when we are full of confidence and what other
are full of confidence and what other
are full of confidence and what other people see is a problem we simply do see
people see is a problem we simply do see
people see is a problem we simply do see as an opportunity other people see it as
as an opportunity other people see it as
as an opportunity other people see it as a stumbling block block or a wall and we
a stumbling block block or a wall and we
a stumbling block block or a wall and we see it as a stepping stone or this
see it as a stepping stone or this
see it as a stepping stone or this solution it’s a confidence is something
solution it’s a confidence is something
solution it’s a confidence is something that you really want to wire in
that you really want to wire in
that you really want to wire in confidence is something you really want
confidence is something you really want
confidence is something you really want to develop confidence is a practice
to develop confidence is a practice
to develop confidence is a practice confidence is a muscle and like any
confidence is a muscle and like any
confidence is a muscle and like any muscle the more you focus on it and
muscle the more you focus on it and
muscle the more you focus on it and practice it and train it the stronger
practice it and train it the stronger
practice it and train it the stronger your confidence is going to grow and I
your confidence is going to grow and I
your confidence is going to grow and I just have to say it again when you are
just have to say it again when you are
just have to say it again when you are at a place in your life when there is an
at a place in your life when there is an
at a place in your life when there is an ongoing steady state stream of
ongoing steady state stream of
ongoing steady state stream of confidence moving through your mindsets
confidence moving through your mindsets
confidence moving through your mindsets moving through your heart set you do the
moving through your heart set you do the
moving through your heart set you do the heroic in your business and you achieve
heroic in your business and you achieve
heroic in your business and you achieve the remarkable in your life
algorithm secret number one is eliminate
algorithm secret number one is eliminate negative people from your life
negative people from your life
negative people from your life negativity is more contagious than crabs
negativity is more contagious than crabs
negativity is more contagious than crabs when you surround yourself or have
when you surround yourself or have
when you surround yourself or have negative little cancerous people in your
negative little cancerous people in your
negative little cancerous people in your life they directly impact your
life they directly impact your
life they directly impact your confidence in a negative way negative
confidence in a negative way negative
confidence in a negative way negative nasty people nasty not like good nasty
nasty people nasty not like good nasty
nasty people nasty not like good nasty bad nasty as in like get the freak away
bad nasty as in like get the freak away
bad nasty as in like get the freak away from me I want nothing to do with you
from me I want nothing to do with you
from me I want nothing to do with you now here’s the issue when I say a just
now here’s the issue when I say a just
now here’s the issue when I say a just get rid of negative people it’s like
get rid of negative people it’s like
get rid of negative people it’s like poof they’re going right wrong because a
poof they’re going right wrong because a
poof they’re going right wrong because a lot of times we have these negative
lot of times we have these negative
lot of times we have these negative people or these energy vampires all
people or these energy vampires all
people or these energy vampires all around us they might be at work they
around us they might be at work they
around us they might be at work they might be at school they might actually
might be at school they might actually
might be at school they might actually even be related to us does this mean
even be related to us does this mean
even be related to us does this mean that you may need to find a new job
that you may need to find a new job
that you may need to find a new job yeah maybe a new relationship quite
yeah maybe a new relationship quite
yeah maybe a new relationship quite possibly is it going to suck for a
possibly is it going to suck for a
possibly is it going to suck for a little while now yes in the long run is
little while now yes in the long run is
little while now yes in the long run is it going to pay off big-time
it going to pay off big-time
it going to pay off big-time in terms of your confidence yes
in terms of your confidence yes
in terms of your confidence yes psychologists often thought the
psychologists often thought the
psychologists often thought the cognitive competence as you become more
cognitive competence as you become more
cognitive competence as you become more competent in something you learn how to
competent in something you learn how to
competent in something you learn how to do it you’re more confident in doing as
do it you’re more confident in doing as
do it you’re more confident in doing as you’ve learned how to ride a bike and
you’ve learned how to ride a bike and
you’ve learned how to ride a bike and you rode the bike more and more and more
you rode the bike more and more and more
you rode the bike more and more and more you became more skilled at it you
you became more skilled at it you
you became more skilled at it you develop more confidence in your ability
develop more confidence in your ability
develop more confidence in your ability to ride the bike any area of your life
to ride the bike any area of your life
to ride the bike any area of your life you’re going to go into the for the
you’re going to go into the for the
you’re going to go into the for the first time be okay with being uncertain
first time be okay with being uncertain
first time be okay with being uncertain be okay with being uncomfortable be okay
be okay with being uncomfortable be okay
be okay with being uncomfortable be okay with not knowing how it’s going to turn
with not knowing how it’s going to turn
with not knowing how it’s going to turn out cuz it’s your first time but stumble
out cuz it’s your first time but stumble
out cuz it’s your first time but stumble into it anyway because they you stumble
into it anyway because they you stumble
into it anyway because they you stumble into it you develop skills you develop
into it you develop skills you develop
into it you develop skills you develop comfort with it and then suddenly one
comfort with it and then suddenly one
comfort with it and then suddenly one day you wake up say I’m pretty confident
day you wake up say I’m pretty confident
day you wake up say I’m pretty confident doing this nothing changed in who you
doing this nothing changed in who you
doing this nothing changed in who you are what changes your level of
are what changes your level of
are what changes your level of competency knowledge skill and ability
competency knowledge skill and ability
competency knowledge skill and ability that’s a competency is knowledge skill
that’s a competency is knowledge skill
that’s a competency is knowledge skill ability of talent and so when we finally
ability of talent and so when we finally
ability of talent and so when we finally realized oh wow I just need to learn a
realized oh wow I just need to learn a
realized oh wow I just need to learn a little bit more hair I’ll be more
little bit more hair I’ll be more
little bit more hair I’ll be more confident I just need to apply this a
confident I just need to apply this a
confident I just need to apply this a little bit more here I’ll be more
little bit more here I’ll be more
little bit more here I’ll be more confident as you develop skills and
confident as you develop skills and
confident as you develop skills and abilities in your life in your unique
abilities in your life in your unique
abilities in your life in your unique areas you become more confident study
areas you become more confident study
areas you become more confident study the alchemy now here’s what I mean by
the alchemy now here’s what I mean by
the alchemy now here’s what I mean by that what happens to most people in life
that what happens to most people in life
that what happens to most people in life especially the victims is they reach a
especially the victims is they reach a
especially the victims is they reach a part of their life you know a difficult
part of their life you know a difficult
part of their life you know a difficult time and they call it failure I mean
time and they call it failure I mean
time and they call it failure I mean even delay
even delay
even delay bullying a setback is a failure trigger
bullying a setback is a failure trigger
bullying a setback is a failure trigger something into your mindset to release
something into your mindset to release
something into your mindset to release cortisol the fear hormone which blocks
cortisol the fear hormone which blocks
cortisol the fear hormone which blocks your best performance and so you want to
your best performance and so you want to
your best performance and so you want to see yourself and you want to study the
see yourself and you want to study the
see yourself and you want to study the alchemy which is where other people are
alchemy which is where other people are
alchemy which is where other people are seeing a failure or setback or even a
seeing a failure or setback or even a
seeing a failure or setback or even a little problem you want to look for the
little problem you want to look for the
little problem you want to look for the gold you want to train your brain so you
gold you want to train your brain so you
gold you want to train your brain so you have a dominant belief it just becomes
have a dominant belief it just becomes
have a dominant belief it just becomes automatic because you’ve practiced it so
automatic because you’ve practiced it so
automatic because you’ve practiced it so much where when someone says there’s a
much where when someone says there’s a
much where when someone says there’s a problem or there’s a wall or there’s a
problem or there’s a wall or there’s a
problem or there’s a wall or there’s a failure you literally see the alchemy to
failure you literally see the alchemy to
failure you literally see the alchemy to turn the lead into gold maybe you’re
turn the lead into gold maybe you’re
turn the lead into gold maybe you’re going through a divorce maybe you’re
going through a divorce maybe you’re
going through a divorce maybe you’re going through an illness a lot of people
going through an illness a lot of people
going through an illness a lot of people who watch this podcasts are going
who watch this podcasts are going
who watch this podcasts are going through difficulties or outright
through difficulties or outright
through difficulties or outright tragedies but you want to practice
tragedies but you want to practice
tragedies but you want to practice seeing the setback or the dark time as
seeing the setback or the dark time as
seeing the setback or the dark time as fuel to leverage your growth and so on
fuel to leverage your growth and so on
fuel to leverage your growth and so on this first point about study the alchemy
this first point about study the alchemy
this first point about study the alchemy no matter what you’re going through in
no matter what you’re going through in
no matter what you’re going through in your life whether it’s a large
your life whether it’s a large
your life whether it’s a large difficulty or a small setback you want
difficulty or a small setback you want
difficulty or a small setback you want to ask yourself how can I use what I’m
to ask yourself how can I use what I’m
to ask yourself how can I use what I’m going through as fuel for my growth you
going through as fuel for my growth you
going through as fuel for my growth you want to ask yourself what is the
want to ask yourself what is the
want to ask yourself what is the gorgeous opportunity hidden inside this
gorgeous opportunity hidden inside this
gorgeous opportunity hidden inside this so-called problem I mean and if you look
so-called problem I mean and if you look
so-called problem I mean and if you look at the mass of humanity they really
at the mass of humanity they really
at the mass of humanity they really train their brains to focus on problems
train their brains to focus on problems
train their brains to focus on problems right the hit a wall and they just
right the hit a wall and they just
right the hit a wall and they just because of their belief system they
because of their belief system they
because of their belief system they don’t know it because most people are
don’t know it because most people are
don’t know it because most people are not really that aware of their belief
not really that aware of their belief
not really that aware of their belief systems so they blame it on the world
systems so they blame it on the world
systems so they blame it on the world they blame it on the supplier they blame
they blame it on the supplier they blame
they blame it on the supplier they blame it on the teammate they blame it on
it on the teammate they blame it on
it on the teammate they blame it on their husband or wife they blame it on
their husband or wife they blame it on
their husband or wife they blame it on their childhoods versus understanding
their childhoods versus understanding
their childhoods versus understanding our daily performance reflects our
our daily performance reflects our
our daily performance reflects our deepest beliefs and so if you are
deepest beliefs and so if you are
deepest beliefs and so if you are experiencing some kind of setback
experiencing some kind of setback
experiencing some kind of setback whether its large or tiny you want to
whether its large or tiny you want to
whether its large or tiny you want to train your brain to see the treasure
train your brain to see the treasure
train your brain to see the treasure within the lead but if you want to
within the lead but if you want to
within the lead but if you want to convey honest confidence that inspires
convey honest confidence that inspires
convey honest confidence that inspires people make sure you can back it up as
people make sure you can back it up as
people make sure you can back it up as much confidence as Ali hadn’t as much as
much confidence as Ali hadn’t as much as
much confidence as Ali hadn’t as much as he showed he was just as good in the
he showed he was just as good in the
he showed he was just as good in the ring but that wasn’t everything that all
ring but that wasn’t everything that all
ring but that wasn’t everything that all he had he was also a dominant force
he had he was also a dominant force
he had he was also a dominant force in every interaction watch here how he
in every interaction watch here how he
in every interaction watch here how he completely ignores the reporter telling
completely ignores the reporter telling
completely ignores the reporter telling him that he’s and pretty and delivers
him that he’s and pretty and delivers
him that he’s and pretty and delivers one of his most iconic lines oh you’re
one of his most iconic lines oh you’re
one of his most iconic lines oh you’re not the world this kind of interaction
not the world this kind of interaction
not the world this kind of interaction might look insignificant but it happens
might look insignificant but it happens
might look insignificant but it happens all the time and it is very important it
all the time and it is very important it
all the time and it is very important it is a clash of frames we talked about
is a clash of frames we talked about
is a clash of frames we talked about this before in different videos on
this before in different videos on
this before in different videos on Tyrion if you want to check that out but
Tyrion if you want to check that out but
Tyrion if you want to check that out but right here Ali’s frame says that he
right here Ali’s frame says that he
right here Ali’s frame says that he should be doing the talking the
should be doing the talking the
should be doing the talking the reporters frame says that Ali should
reporters frame says that Ali should
reporters frame says that Ali should listen because he’s asking questions
listen because he’s asking questions
listen because he’s asking questions those two frames collide and Ali as
those two frames collide and Ali as
those two frames collide and Ali as always comes out on top the winner of
always comes out on top the winner of
always comes out on top the winner of any frame collision is going to be the
any frame collision is going to be the
any frame collision is going to be the person who believes their frame more but
person who believes their frame more but
person who believes their frame more but watch here to see the subtleties of how
watch here to see the subtleties of how
watch here to see the subtleties of how that is communicated and I want you to
that is communicated and I want you to
that is communicated and I want you to pay attention to three things first how
pay attention to three things first how
pay attention to three things first how Ali doesn’t look at the reporter but the
Ali doesn’t look at the reporter but the
Ali doesn’t look at the reporter but the reporter looks at him second how Ali
reporter looks at him second how Ali
reporter looks at him second how Ali doesn’t respond to what the reporter
doesn’t respond to what the reporter
doesn’t respond to what the reporter says but the reporter responds to him
says but the reporter responds to him
says but the reporter responds to him and third how the reporter tries to
and third how the reporter tries to
and third how the reporter tries to physically pull Ali towards him but Ali
physically pull Ali towards him but Ali
physically pull Ali towards him but Ali doesn’t budge that’s what about eight
doesn’t budge that’s what about eight
doesn’t budge that’s what about eight seconds which is as long as it takes for
seconds which is as long as it takes for
seconds which is as long as it takes for there to be a winner in a frame game
there to be a winner in a frame game
there to be a winner in a frame game these short little frame collisions
these short little frame collisions
these short little frame collisions happen all the time throughout your day
happen all the time throughout your day
happen all the time throughout your day in tons of different ways and what’s
in tons of different ways and what’s
in tons of different ways and what’s remarkable is that from what I can tell
remarkable is that from what I can tell
remarkable is that from what I can tell Muhammad Ali
Muhammad Ali
Muhammad Ali always stayed firmly rooted in his own
always stayed firmly rooted in his own
always stayed firmly rooted in his own frame when we see that kind of
frame when we see that kind of
frame when we see that kind of conviction we can’t help but be drawn to
conviction we can’t help but be drawn to
conviction we can’t help but be drawn to it here’s just another little example
it here’s just another little example
it here’s just another little example that you might relate to when two people
that you might relate to when two people
that you might relate to when two people go to give different styles of
go to give different styles of
go to give different styles of handshakes watch how Ali maintains his
handshakes watch how Ali maintains his
handshakes watch how Ali maintains his frame
you
you [Applause]
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[Music] Oh II isn’t trying to be a jerk in fact
Oh II isn’t trying to be a jerk in fact
Oh II isn’t trying to be a jerk in fact he was very playful throughout this
he was very playful throughout this
he was very playful throughout this interview but he has grown accustomed to
interview but he has grown accustomed to
interview but he has grown accustomed to setting the tone of the interaction pay
setting the tone of the interaction pay
setting the tone of the interaction pay attention in your own life in subtle
attention in your own life in subtle
attention in your own life in subtle little ways who do you make adjustments
little ways who do you make adjustments
little ways who do you make adjustments for and who do you stick to your guns
for and who do you stick to your guns
for and who do you stick to your guns with that’s a pretty clear indication of
with that’s a pretty clear indication of
with that’s a pretty clear indication of who the leader is in any sort of
who the leader is in any sort of
who the leader is in any sort of relationship now there is no problem
relationship now there is no problem
relationship now there is no problem with taking a follower role sometimes
with taking a follower role sometimes
with taking a follower role sometimes but in certain situations like sales
but in certain situations like sales
but in certain situations like sales pitches interviews even dates you are
pitches interviews even dates you are
pitches interviews even dates you are usually going to benefit from being the
usually going to benefit from being the
usually going to benefit from being the leader so those frame games become very
leader so those frame games become very
leader so those frame games become very important ally was so confident had such
important ally was so confident had such
important ally was so confident had such a strong frame that he seemingly had no
a strong frame that he seemingly had no
a strong frame that he seemingly had no fear of being honest that might not seem
fear of being honest that might not seem
fear of being honest that might not seem like a big deal but most people are
like a big deal but most people are
like a big deal but most people are extremely afraid of what others would
extremely afraid of what others would
extremely afraid of what others would think of them if they were totally real
think of them if they were totally real
think of them if they were totally real I’m a social psychologist I study
I’m a social psychologist I study
I’m a social psychologist I study prejudice and I teach at a competitive
prejudice and I teach at a competitive
prejudice and I teach at a competitive business school so it was inevitable
business school so it was inevitable
business school so it was inevitable that I would become interested in power
that I would become interested in power
that I would become interested in power dynamics I became especially interested
dynamics I became especially interested
dynamics I became especially interested in nonverbal expressions of power and
in nonverbal expressions of power and
in nonverbal expressions of power and dominance and what our nonverbal
dominance and what our nonverbal
dominance and what our nonverbal expressions of power and dominance well
expressions of power and dominance well
expressions of power and dominance well this is what they are so in the animal
this is what they are so in the animal
this is what they are so in the animal kingdom they are about expanding so you
kingdom they are about expanding so you
kingdom they are about expanding so you make yourself big you stretch out you
make yourself big you stretch out you
make yourself big you stretch out you take up space you’re basically opening
take up space you’re basically opening
take up space you’re basically opening it up it’s about opening up and this is
it up it’s about opening up and this is
it up it’s about opening up and this is true across the animal kingdom it’s not
true across the animal kingdom it’s not
true across the animal kingdom it’s not just limited to primates and humans do
just limited to primates and humans do
just limited to primates and humans do the same thing so they do this both when
the same thing so they do this both when
the same thing so they do this both when they when they have power sort of
they when they have power sort of
they when they have power sort of chronically and also when they’re
chronically and also when they’re
chronically and also when they’re feeling powerful in the moment and this
feeling powerful in the moment and this
feeling powerful in the moment and this one is especially interesting because it
one is especially interesting because it
one is especially interesting because it really shows us how universal and old
really shows us how universal and old
really shows us how universal and old these expressions of power are this
these expressions of power are this
these expressions of power are this expression which is known as Pride
expression which is known as Pride
expression which is known as Pride jessica tracy has studied she shows that
jessica tracy has studied she shows that
jessica tracy has studied she shows that people who are born with sight and
people who are born with sight and
people who are born with sight and people who are congenitally blind do
people who are congenitally blind do
people who are congenitally blind do this when they win at a physical
this when they win at a physical
this when they win at a physical competition so when they cross the
competition so when they cross the
competition so when they cross the finish line and they won it doesn’t
finish line and they won it doesn’t
finish line and they won it doesn’t matter if they’ve never seen anyone do
matter if they’ve never seen anyone do
matter if they’ve never seen anyone do it they do this so the arms up in the V
it they do this so the arms up in the V
it they do this so the arms up in the V the chin is slightly lifted what are we
the chin is slightly lifted what are we
the chin is slightly lifted what are we doing we feel powerless we do exactly
doing we feel powerless we do exactly
doing we feel powerless we do exactly the opposite we close up we wrap
the opposite we close up we wrap
the opposite we close up we wrap ourselves up we make ourselves small we
ourselves up we make ourselves small we
ourselves up we make ourselves small we don’t want to bump into the person next
don’t want to bump into the person next
don’t want to bump into the person next to us
to us
to us so again both animals and humans do the
so again both animals and humans do the
so again both animals and humans do the same thing and this is what happens when
same thing and this is what happens when
same thing and this is what happens when you put together high and low power so
you put together high and low power so
you put together high and low power so what we tend to do when it comes to
what we tend to do when it comes to
what we tend to do when it comes to power is that we complement the others
power is that we complement the others
power is that we complement the others nonverbals so someone’s being really
nonverbals so someone’s being really
nonverbals so someone’s being really powerful with us we tend to make
powerful with us we tend to make
powerful with us we tend to make ourselves smaller we don’t mirror them
ourselves smaller we don’t mirror them
ourselves smaller we don’t mirror them we do the opposite of them so we know
we do the opposite of them so we know
we do the opposite of them so we know that our nonverbals govern how other
that our nonverbals govern how other
that our nonverbals govern how other people think and feel about us there’s a
people think and feel about us there’s a
people think and feel about us there’s a lot of evidence but our question really
lot of evidence but our question really
lot of evidence but our question really was do our don verbals govern how we
was do our don verbals govern how we
was do our don verbals govern how we think and feel about ourselves there’s
think and feel about ourselves there’s
think and feel about ourselves there’s some evidence that they do so for
some evidence that they do so for
some evidence that they do so for example when we we smile when we feel
example when we we smile when we feel
example when we we smile when we feel happy but also when we’re forced to
happy but also when we’re forced to
happy but also when we’re forced to smile by holding a pen in our teeth like
smile by holding a pen in our teeth like
smile by holding a pen in our teeth like this it makes us feel happy so it goes
this it makes us feel happy so it goes
this it makes us feel happy so it goes both ways when it comes to power it also
both ways when it comes to power it also
both ways when it comes to power it also goes both ways so when you when you feel
goes both ways so when you when you feel
goes both ways so when you when you feel powerful you’re more likely to do this
powerful you’re more likely to do this
powerful you’re more likely to do this but it’s also possible that when you
but it’s also possible that when you
but it’s also possible that when you when you pretend to be powerful you are
when you pretend to be powerful you are
when you pretend to be powerful you are more likely to you actually feel
more likely to you actually feel
more likely to you actually feel powerful we decided to bring people into
powerful we decided to bring people into
powerful we decided to bring people into the lab and run a little experiment and
the lab and run a little experiment and
the lab and run a little experiment and these people adopted for two minutes
these people adopted for two minutes
these people adopted for two minutes either high power poses or low power
either high power poses or low power
either high power poses or low power poses and I’m just going to show you
poses and I’m just going to show you
poses and I’m just going to show you five of the poses although they took on
five of the poses although they took on
five of the poses although they took on only two so here’s one a couple more
only two so here’s one a couple more
only two so here’s one a couple more this one has been dubbed the Wonder
this one has been dubbed the Wonder
this one has been dubbed the Wonder Woman by the media here a couple more so
Woman by the media here a couple more so
Woman by the media here a couple more so you can be standing or you can be
you can be standing or you can be
you can be standing or you can be sitting and here are the low power poses
sitting and here are the low power poses
sitting and here are the low power poses so you’re folding up you’re making
so you’re folding up you’re making
so you’re folding up you’re making yourself small this one is very
yourself small this one is very
yourself small this one is very low-power when you’re touching your neck
low-power when you’re touching your neck
low-power when you’re touching your neck you’re really kind of protecting
you’re really kind of protecting
you’re really kind of protecting yourself so this is what happens they
yourself so this is what happens they
yourself so this is what happens they come in they spit into a vial we for two
come in they spit into a vial we for two
come in they spit into a vial we for two minutes say you need to do this or this
minutes say you need to do this or this
minutes say you need to do this or this they don’t look at pictures of the poses
they don’t look at pictures of the poses
they don’t look at pictures of the poses we don’t want to prime them with a
we don’t want to prime them with a
we don’t want to prime them with a concept of power we want them to be
concept of power we want them to be
concept of power we want them to be feeling power right so two minutes they
feeling power right so two minutes they
feeling power right so two minutes they do this we then ask them how powerful do
do this we then ask them how powerful do
do this we then ask them how powerful do you feel on a series of items and then
you feel on a series of items and then
you feel on a series of items and then we give them an opportunity to gamble
we give them an opportunity to gamble
we give them an opportunity to gamble and then we take another saliva sample
and then we take another saliva sample
and then we take another saliva sample that’s it that’s the whole experiment so
that’s it that’s the whole experiment so
that’s it that’s the whole experiment so this is what we find risk tolerance
this is what we find risk tolerance
this is what we find risk tolerance which is a gambling
which is a gambling
which is a gambling what we find is that when you’re not
what we find is that when you’re not
what we find is that when you’re not when the hot when you’re in a high power
when the hot when you’re in a high power
when the hot when you’re in a high power post condition
post condition
post condition 86% of you will gamble when you’re in
86% of you will gamble when you’re in
86% of you will gamble when you’re in the low-power postcondition only sixty
the low-power postcondition only sixty
the low-power postcondition only sixty percent and that’s a pretty whopping
percent and that’s a pretty whopping
percent and that’s a pretty whopping significant difference here’s what we
significant difference here’s what we
significant difference here’s what we find on testosterone from their baseline
find on testosterone from their baseline
find on testosterone from their baseline when they come in high-power people
when they come in high-power people
when they come in high-power people experience about a twenty percent
experience about a twenty percent
experience about a twenty percent increase and low-power people experience
increase and low-power people experience
increase and low-power people experience about a ten percent decrease
about a ten percent decrease
about a ten percent decrease so again two minutes and you get these
so again two minutes and you get these
so again two minutes and you get these changes here’s what you get on cortisol
changes here’s what you get on cortisol
changes here’s what you get on cortisol high-power people experience about a 25%
high-power people experience about a 25%
high-power people experience about a 25% decrease and the low-power people
decrease and the low-power people
decrease and the low-power people experience about a 15% increase so two
experience about a 15% increase so two
experience about a 15% increase so two minutes lead to these hormonal changes
minutes lead to these hormonal changes
minutes lead to these hormonal changes that configure your brain to basically
that configure your brain to basically
that configure your brain to basically be either assertive confident and
be either assertive confident and
be either assertive confident and comfortable or really stress reactive
comfortable or really stress reactive
comfortable or really stress reactive and you know feeling sort of shut down
and you know feeling sort of shut down
and you know feeling sort of shut down and we’ve all had that feeling right so
and we’ve all had that feeling right so
and we’ve all had that feeling right so it seems that our nonverbals do govern
it seems that our nonverbals do govern
it seems that our nonverbals do govern how we think and feel about ourselves so
how we think and feel about ourselves so
how we think and feel about ourselves so it’s not just others but it’s also
it’s not just others but it’s also
it’s not just others but it’s also ourselves also our bodies change our
ourselves also our bodies change our
ourselves also our bodies change our minds but the next question of course is
minds but the next question of course is
minds but the next question of course is can power posing for a few minutes
can power posing for a few minutes
can power posing for a few minutes really change your life in meaningful
really change your life in meaningful
really change your life in meaningful ways so this is in the lab it’s this
ways so this is in the lab it’s this
ways so this is in the lab it’s this little task you know it’s just a couple
little task you know it’s just a couple
little task you know it’s just a couple of minutes you know where can you
of minutes you know where can you
of minutes you know where can you actually apply this which we cared about
actually apply this which we cared about
actually apply this which we cared about of course and so we think it’s really
of course and so we think it’s really
of course and so we think it’s really what what what matters and where you
what what what matters and where you
what what what matters and where you want to use this is evaluative
want to use this is evaluative
want to use this is evaluative situations like social threat situations
situations like social threat situations
situations like social threat situations where are you being evaluated either by
where are you being evaluated either by
where are you being evaluated either by your friends like four teenagers at the
your friends like four teenagers at the
your friends like four teenagers at the lunchroom table it could be you know for
lunchroom table it could be you know for
lunchroom table it could be you know for some people of speaking at a school
some people of speaking at a school
some people of speaking at a school board meeting it might be giving a pitch
board meeting it might be giving a pitch
board meeting it might be giving a pitch or giving a talk like this or doing a
or giving a talk like this or doing a
or giving a talk like this or doing a job interview we decided that the one
job interview we decided that the one
job interview we decided that the one that most people could relate to because
that most people could relate to because
that most people could relate to because most people had been through was the job
most people had been through was the job
most people had been through was the job interview so we published these these
interview so we published these these
interview so we published these these findings and the media are all over and
findings and the media are all over and
findings and the media are all over and they say okay so this is what you do
they say okay so this is what you do
they say okay so this is what you do when you go in for the job interview
when you go in for the job interview
when you go in for the job interview right
right
right you know so we’ve fortified and said oh
you know so we’ve fortified and said oh
you know so we’ve fortified and said oh my god no no no that’s not what we meant
my god no no no that’s not what we meant
my god no no no that’s not what we meant at all for a numerous reasons no no no
at all for a numerous reasons no no no
at all for a numerous reasons no no no don’t do that again this is not about
don’t do that again this is not about
don’t do that again this is not about you talking to other people if you
you talking to other people if you
you talking to other people if you talking to yourself what do you do
talking to yourself what do you do
talking to yourself what do you do before you go into a job interview you
before you go into a job interview you
before you go into a job interview you do this right you’re sitting down you’re
do this right you’re sitting down you’re
do this right you’re sitting down you’re looking at your iPhone or your Android
looking at your iPhone or your Android
looking at your iPhone or your Android not trying to leave anyone out you are
not trying to leave anyone out you are
not trying to leave anyone out you are you know you’re looking at your notes
you know you’re looking at your notes
you know you’re looking at your notes you’re hunting up making yourself small
you’re hunting up making yourself small
you’re hunting up making yourself small when really what you should be doing
when really what you should be doing
when really what you should be doing maybe is this like in the bathroom right
maybe is this like in the bathroom right
maybe is this like in the bathroom right do that find two minutes so that’s what
do that find two minutes so that’s what
do that find two minutes so that’s what we want to test okay so we bring people
we want to test okay so we bring people
we want to test okay so we bring people into a lab and they do a couple they do
into a lab and they do a couple they do
into a lab and they do a couple they do either high or low power poses again
either high or low power poses again
either high or low power poses again they go through a very stressful job
they go through a very stressful job
they go through a very stressful job interview it’s five minutes long they
interview it’s five minutes long they
interview it’s five minutes long they are being recorded they’re being judged
are being recorded they’re being judged
are being recorded they’re being judged also and the judges are trained to give
also and the judges are trained to give
also and the judges are trained to give no nonverbal feedback so they look like
no nonverbal feedback so they look like
no nonverbal feedback so they look like this like imagine this is the person
this like imagine this is the person
this like imagine this is the person interviewing you so for five minutes
interviewing you so for five minutes
interviewing you so for five minutes nothing and this is worse than being
nothing and this is worse than being
nothing and this is worse than being heckled people Kapus it’s what Maryann
heckled people Kapus it’s what Maryann
heckled people Kapus it’s what Maryann LaFrance calls standing in social
LaFrance calls standing in social
LaFrance calls standing in social quicksand so this really spikes your
quicksand so this really spikes your
quicksand so this really spikes your cortisol so this is the job interview we
cortisol so this is the job interview we
cortisol so this is the job interview we put them through because we really
put them through because we really
put them through because we really wanted to see what happened we then have
wanted to see what happened we then have
wanted to see what happened we then have these coders look at these tapes four of
these coders look at these tapes four of
these coders look at these tapes four of them they’re blind to the hypothesis
them they’re blind to the hypothesis
them they’re blind to the hypothesis they’re blind to the conditions they
they’re blind to the conditions they
they’re blind to the conditions they have no idea who’s been posing in what
have no idea who’s been posing in what
have no idea who’s been posing in what pose and they they end up looking at
pose and they they end up looking at
pose and they they end up looking at these sets of tapes and they say oh we
these sets of tapes and they say oh we
these sets of tapes and they say oh we want to hire these people all the
want to hire these people all the
want to hire these people all the high-powered posers we don’t want to
high-powered posers we don’t want to
high-powered posers we don’t want to hire these people we also evaluate these
hire these people we also evaluate these
hire these people we also evaluate these people much more positively overall but
people much more positively overall but
people much more positively overall but what’s driving it it’s not about the
what’s driving it it’s not about the
what’s driving it it’s not about the content of the speech it’s about the
content of the speech it’s about the
content of the speech it’s about the presence that they’re bringing to the
presence that they’re bringing to the
presence that they’re bringing to the speech we also because we rate them on
speech we also because we rate them on
speech we also because we rate them on all these variables related to sort of
all these variables related to sort of
all these variables related to sort of confidence like how well-structured is
confidence like how well-structured is
confidence like how well-structured is the speech how good is it what are their
the speech how good is it what are their
the speech how good is it what are their qualifications no effect on those things
qualifications no effect on those things
qualifications no effect on those things this is what’s affected these kinds of
this is what’s affected these kinds of
this is what’s affected these kinds of things people are bringing their true
things people are bringing their true
things people are bringing their true selves basically they’re bringing
selves basically they’re bringing
selves basically they’re bringing themselves they bring their ideas that
themselves they bring their ideas that
themselves they bring their ideas that as themselves with no you know residue
as themselves with no you know residue
as themselves with no you know residue over them so this is what’s driving the
over them so this is what’s driving the
over them so this is what’s driving the effect or media mediating the effect so
effect or media mediating the effect so
effect or media mediating the effect so when I tell people about this that our
when I tell people about this that our
when I tell people about this that our bodies change our minds and our minds
bodies change our minds and our minds
bodies change our minds and our minds can change our behavior and our behavior
can change our behavior and our behavior
can change our behavior and our behavior can change your outcomes
can change your outcomes
can change your outcomes say to me I don’t if you’ll speak right
say to me I don’t if you’ll speak right
say to me I don’t if you’ll speak right so I said fake it till you make it
so I said fake it till you make it
so I said fake it till you make it like I don’t it’s not me like I don’t
like I don’t it’s not me like I don’t
like I don’t it’s not me like I don’t want to get there and then still feel
want to get there and then still feel
want to get there and then still feel like a fraud I don’t want to feel like
like a fraud I don’t want to feel like
like a fraud I don’t want to feel like an impostor I don’t want to get there
an impostor I don’t want to get there
an impostor I don’t want to get there only to feel like I’m not supposed to be
only to feel like I’m not supposed to be
only to feel like I’m not supposed to be here and that really resonated with me
here and that really resonated with me
here and that really resonated with me because I want to tell you a little
because I want to tell you a little
because I want to tell you a little story about being an imposter and
story about being an imposter and
story about being an imposter and feeling like I’m not supposed to be here
feeling like I’m not supposed to be here
feeling like I’m not supposed to be here when I was 19 I was in a really bad car
when I was 19 I was in a really bad car
when I was 19 I was in a really bad car accident I was thrown out of a car
accident I was thrown out of a car
accident I was thrown out of a car rolled several times I was thrown from
rolled several times I was thrown from
rolled several times I was thrown from the car and I woke up in a head injury
the car and I woke up in a head injury
the car and I woke up in a head injury rehab Ward and I had been withdrawn from
rehab Ward and I had been withdrawn from
rehab Ward and I had been withdrawn from college and I learned that my IQ had
college and I learned that my IQ had
college and I learned that my IQ had dropped by two standard deviations which
dropped by two standard deviations which
dropped by two standard deviations which was very traumatic a numeric you because
was very traumatic a numeric you because
was very traumatic a numeric you because I had identified with being smart and I
I had identified with being smart and I
I had identified with being smart and I had been called gifted as a child
had been called gifted as a child
had been called gifted as a child so I’m taken out of college I keep
so I’m taken out of college I keep
so I’m taken out of college I keep trying to go back they say you’re not
trying to go back they say you’re not
trying to go back they say you’re not going to finish college like just you
going to finish college like just you
going to finish college like just you know there are other things for you to
know there are other things for you to
know there are other things for you to do but that’s not going to work out for
do but that’s not going to work out for
do but that’s not going to work out for you so I really struggled with this and
you so I really struggled with this and
you so I really struggled with this and I have to say having your identity taken
I have to say having your identity taken
I have to say having your identity taken from you your core identity and if for
from you your core identity and if for
from you your core identity and if for me it was being smart having it taken
me it was being smart having it taken
me it was being smart having it taken from you there’s nothing that leaves you
from you there’s nothing that leaves you
from you there’s nothing that leaves you feeling more powerless than that so I
feeling more powerless than that so I
feeling more powerless than that so I felt entirely powerless I worked and
felt entirely powerless I worked and
felt entirely powerless I worked and worked and worked and I got lucky and
worked and worked and I got lucky and
worked and worked and I got lucky and worked and got lucky and worked
worked and got lucky and worked
worked and got lucky and worked eventually I graduated from college took
eventually I graduated from college took
eventually I graduated from college took me four years longer than my peers and I
me four years longer than my peers and I
me four years longer than my peers and I convinced someone by my angel advisor
convinced someone by my angel advisor
convinced someone by my angel advisor Susan Fiske to take me on and so I ended
Susan Fiske to take me on and so I ended
Susan Fiske to take me on and so I ended up at Princeton and I was like I am not
up at Princeton and I was like I am not
up at Princeton and I was like I am not supposed to be here I am an imposter and
supposed to be here I am an imposter and
supposed to be here I am an imposter and the night before my first year talking
the night before my first year talking
the night before my first year talking the first year talk at Princeton is a
the first year talk at Princeton is a
the first year talk at Princeton is a 20-minute talk to 20 people that’s it I
20-minute talk to 20 people that’s it I
20-minute talk to 20 people that’s it I was so afraid of being found out the
was so afraid of being found out the
was so afraid of being found out the next day that I called her and said I’m
next day that I called her and said I’m
next day that I called her and said I’m quitting she was like you are not
quitting she was like you are not
quitting she was like you are not quitting because I took a gamble on you
quitting because I took a gamble on you
quitting because I took a gamble on you and you’re saying you’re going to stay
and you’re saying you’re going to stay
and you’re saying you’re going to stay and this is what you’re going to do
and this is what you’re going to do
and this is what you’re going to do you’re going to fake it you’re going to
you’re going to fake it you’re going to
you’re going to fake it you’re going to take you’re going to do every toss that
take you’re going to do every toss that
take you’re going to do every toss that you ever get asked to do you’re just
you ever get asked to do you’re just
you ever get asked to do you’re just going to do it and do it and do it even
going to do it and do it and do it even
going to do it and do it and do it even if you’re terrified and just paralyzed
if you’re terrified and just paralyzed
if you’re terrified and just paralyzed and having an out-of-body experience
and having an out-of-body experience
and having an out-of-body experience until you have this moment where you say
until you have this moment where you say
until you have this moment where you say oh my gosh I’m doing it like I have
oh my gosh I’m doing it like I have
oh my gosh I’m doing it like I have become this I am actually doing this
become this I am actually doing this
become this I am actually doing this so that
so that
so that I did five years in grad school a few
I did five years in grad school a few
I did five years in grad school a few years you know at Northwestern I moved
years you know at Northwestern I moved
years you know at Northwestern I moved to Harvard I’m in Harvard I’m not really
to Harvard I’m in Harvard I’m not really
to Harvard I’m in Harvard I’m not really thinking about it anymore but for a long
thinking about it anymore but for a long
thinking about it anymore but for a long time I had been thinking not supposed to
time I had been thinking not supposed to
time I had been thinking not supposed to be here not supposed to be here so the
be here not supposed to be here so the
be here not supposed to be here so the end of my first year at Harvard a
end of my first year at Harvard a
end of my first year at Harvard a student who had not talked in class the
student who had not talked in class the
student who had not talked in class the entire semester who I had said look you
entire semester who I had said look you
entire semester who I had said look you got to participate or else you’re going
got to participate or else you’re going
got to participate or else you’re going to fail came into my office I really
to fail came into my office I really
to fail came into my office I really didn’t know her at all and she said she
didn’t know her at all and she said she
didn’t know her at all and she said she came in totally defeated and she said
came in totally defeated and she said
came in totally defeated and she said I’m not supposed to be here and that was
I’m not supposed to be here and that was
I’m not supposed to be here and that was the moment for me because two things
the moment for me because two things
the moment for me because two things happened one was that I realized oh my
happened one was that I realized oh my
happened one was that I realized oh my gosh I don’t feel like that anymore
gosh I don’t feel like that anymore
gosh I don’t feel like that anymore you know I don’t feel that anymore but
you know I don’t feel that anymore but
you know I don’t feel that anymore but she does and I get that feeling and the
she does and I get that feeling and the
she does and I get that feeling and the second one she is supposed to be here
second one she is supposed to be here
second one she is supposed to be here like she can fake it she can become it
like she can fake it she can become it
like she can fake it she can become it so I was like yes you are you are
so I was like yes you are you are
so I was like yes you are you are supposed to be here and tomorrow you’re
supposed to be here and tomorrow you’re
supposed to be here and tomorrow you’re going to fake it you’re going to make
going to fake it you’re going to make
going to fake it you’re going to make you so powerful and you know
and look at that go we’re going to go
and look at that go we’re going to go out of the classroom and you are going
out of the classroom and you are going
out of the classroom and you are going to give the best comment ever you know
to give the best comment ever you know
to give the best comment ever you know and she gave the best comment ever and
and she gave the best comment ever and
and she gave the best comment ever and people turned on they’re like oh my god
people turned on they’re like oh my god
people turned on they’re like oh my god I didn’t even notice her sitting there
I didn’t even notice her sitting there
I didn’t even notice her sitting there you know she comes back three months
you know she comes back three months
you know she comes back three months later and I realized that she had not
later and I realized that she had not
later and I realized that she had not just faked it till she made it she had
just faked it till she made it she had
just faked it till she made it she had actually faked it till she became it so
actually faked it till she became it so
actually faked it till she became it so she had changed and so I I want to say
she had changed and so I I want to say
she had changed and so I I want to say to you don’t fake it till you make it
to you don’t fake it till you make it
to you don’t fake it till you make it fake it till you become it you know it’s
fake it till you become it you know it’s
fake it till you become it you know it’s not do it enough until you actually
not do it enough until you actually
not do it enough until you actually become it and internalize the last thing
become it and internalize the last thing
become it and internalize the last thing I’m going to leave you with is this tiny
I’m going to leave you with is this tiny
I’m going to leave you with is this tiny tweaks can lead to big changes so this
tweaks can lead to big changes so this
tweaks can lead to big changes so this is two minutes two minutes two minutes
is two minutes two minutes two minutes
is two minutes two minutes two minutes two minutes before you go into the next
two minutes before you go into the next
two minutes before you go into the next stressful evaluative situation for two
stressful evaluative situation for two
stressful evaluative situation for two minutes try doing this in the elevator
minutes try doing this in the elevator
minutes try doing this in the elevator in a bathroom stall at your desk behind
in a bathroom stall at your desk behind
in a bathroom stall at your desk behind closed doors that’s what you want to do
closed doors that’s what you want to do
closed doors that’s what you want to do get configure your brain to cope the
get configure your brain to cope the
get configure your brain to cope the best in that situation get your
best in that situation get your
best in that situation get your testosterone up get your cortisol down
testosterone up get your cortisol down
testosterone up get your cortisol down don’t leave that situation feeling like
don’t leave that situation feeling like
don’t leave that situation feeling like oh I didn’t show them Who I am
oh I didn’t show them Who I am
oh I didn’t show them Who I am leave that situation feeling like I
leave that situation feeling like I
leave that situation feeling like I really feel like I got to say Who I am
really feel like I got to say Who I am
really feel like I got to say Who I am and show Who I am so I want to ask you
and show Who I am so I want to ask you
and show Who I am so I want to ask you first you know
first you know
first you know both to try power posing and also I want
both to try power posing and also I want
both to try power posing and also I want to ask you to share this science because
to ask you to share this science because
to ask you to share this science because this is simple I don’t have ego involved
this is simple I don’t have ego involved
this is simple I don’t have ego involved in this give it away like share it with
in this give it away like share it with
in this give it away like share it with people because the people who can use it
people because the people who can use it
people because the people who can use it the most of the ones with no resources
the most of the ones with no resources
the most of the ones with no resources and no technology and no status and no
and no technology and no status and no
and no technology and no status and no power give it to them because they can
power give it to them because they can
power give it to them because they can do it in private they need their bodies
do it in private they need their bodies
do it in private they need their bodies privacy and two minutes and it can
privacy and two minutes and it can
privacy and two minutes and it can significantly change the outcomes of
significantly change the outcomes of
significantly change the outcomes of their life
thank you guys so much for watching I’d
thank you guys so much for watching I’d love to know what did you think what did
love to know what did you think what did
love to know what did you think what did you learn from this video that you’re
you learn from this video that you’re
you learn from this video that you’re going to apply immediately somehow to
going to apply immediately somehow to
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enjoyed the book thank you guys again
enjoyed the book thank you guys again for watching I believe in you I hope you
for watching I believe in you I hope you
for watching I believe in you I hope you continue to believe in yourself and
continue to believe in yourself and
continue to believe in yourself and whatever your one word is much love
whatever your one word is much love
whatever your one word is much love peace it
and our weaker selves think that success
and our weaker selves think that success in life is being happy happy happy
in life is being happy happy happy
in life is being happy happy happy always being in the sunshine always
always being in the sunshine always
always being in the sunshine always being successful and society has sold us
being successful and society has sold us
being successful and society has sold us a bill of goods that if we’re not
a bill of goods that if we’re not
a bill of goods that if we’re not successful and we’re not on our games
successful and we’re not on our games
successful and we’re not on our games and if we’re not waking up happy and if
and if we’re not waking up happy and if
and if we’re not waking up happy and if we’re not full of joy and if we’re not
we’re not full of joy and if we’re not
we’re not full of joy and if we’re not feeling all this confidence there is
feeling all this confidence there is
feeling all this confidence there is something that is wrong and we need love
something that is wrong and we need love
something that is wrong and we need love and respect this could be one of the
and respect this could be one of the
and respect this could be one of the most important things I share with you
most important things I share with you
most important things I share with you in this podcast that is just your ego
in this podcast that is just your ego
in this podcast that is just your ego screaming and that’s why I say flow of
screaming and that’s why I say flow of
screaming and that’s why I say flow of the seasons a life beautifully lived is
the seasons a life beautifully lived is
the seasons a life beautifully lived is a series of seasons a legendary producer
a series of seasons a legendary producer
a series of seasons a legendary producer is not always at the top of the mountain
is not always at the top of the mountain
is not always at the top of the mountain and so stop resisting I encourage you
and so stop resisting I encourage you
and so stop resisting I encourage you stop resisting the natural flow of epic
stop resisting the natural flow of epic
stop resisting the natural flow of epic performance stop resisting the natural
performance stop resisting the natural
performance stop resisting the natural seasons of life you see and so what
seasons of life you see and so what
seasons of life you see and so what happens is when you stop struggling and
happens is when you stop struggling and
happens is when you stop struggling and you learn again it’s a muscle but you
you learn again it’s a muscle but you
you learn again it’s a muscle but you just learn to relax with life when you
just learn to relax with life when you
just learn to relax with life when you simply understand part of living a
simply understand part of living a
simply understand part of living a legendary business life and part of
legendary business life and part of
legendary business life and part of living a rare air personal life means
living a rare air personal life means
living a rare air personal life means you’re going to have seasons of
you’re going to have seasons of
you’re going to have seasons of so-called success in society maybe it’s
so-called success in society maybe it’s
so-called success in society maybe it’s making a lot of money being really
making a lot of money being really
making a lot of money being really productive being at the top of your game
productive being at the top of your game
productive being at the top of your game to receiving the accolades of peers
to receiving the accolades of peers
to receiving the accolades of peers feeling you are nailing your your your
feeling you are nailing your your your
feeling you are nailing your your your goals and your ambitions and your KPIs
goals and your ambitions and your KPIs
goals and your ambitions and your KPIs or key performance indicators and you’re
or key performance indicators and you’re
or key performance indicators and you’re gonna have two seasons where you’re
gonna have two seasons where you’re
gonna have two seasons where you’re confused seasons where you feel
confused seasons where you feel
confused seasons where you feel heartbroken these seasons where you feel
heartbroken these seasons where you feel
heartbroken these seasons where you feel depleted seasons where you are
depleted seasons where you are
depleted seasons where you are struggling and the more you learn to
struggling and the more you learn to
struggling and the more you learn to relax into every season the more you
relax into every season the more you
relax into every season the more you will generate this internal power which
will generate this internal power which
will generate this internal power which I call confidence secret number two
I call confidence secret number two
I call confidence secret number two compliment others how does it feel
compliment others how does it feel
compliment others how does it feel getting a compliment
getting a compliment
getting a compliment exactly it feels incredible it also
exactly it feels incredible it also
exactly it feels incredible it also feels incredible giving them here’s the
feels incredible giving them here’s the
feels incredible giving them here’s the interesting thing about compliments when
interesting thing about compliments when
interesting thing about compliments when somebody gives you a compliment you
somebody gives you a compliment you
somebody gives you a compliment you order
order
order matically like them more right you’re
matically like them more right you’re
matically like them more right you’re like buddy I thought he was a but he
like buddy I thought he was a but he
like buddy I thought he was a but he said I know shoes he’s not so bad follow
said I know shoes he’s not so bad follow
said I know shoes he’s not so bad follow along the person getting the compliment
along the person getting the compliment
along the person getting the compliment feels incredible you feel great for
feels incredible you feel great for
feels incredible you feel great for making them feel incredible and they
making them feel incredible and they
making them feel incredible and they actually like you more the other upside
actually like you more the other upside
actually like you more the other upside to giving compliments is that it helps
to giving compliments is that it helps
to giving compliments is that it helps you develop your people skills leading
you develop your people skills leading
you develop your people skills leading to confidence and increased social
to confidence and increased social
to confidence and increased social prowess human developed and exciting we
prowess human developed and exciting we
prowess human developed and exciting we developed a real sense of competence or
developed a real sense of competence or
developed a real sense of competence or confidence coming from a sense of
confidence coming from a sense of
confidence coming from a sense of integrity for ourselves you know
integrity for ourselves you know
integrity for ourselves you know integrity is I Know Who I am and I am
integrity is I Know Who I am and I am
integrity is I Know Who I am and I am being that consistent I know what I want
being that consistent I know what I want
being that consistent I know what I want and I am chasing that consistent
and I am chasing that consistent
and I am chasing that consistent integrity being aligned with who you are
integrity being aligned with who you are
integrity being aligned with who you are your values your beliefs and your dreams
your values your beliefs and your dreams
your values your beliefs and your dreams having integrity that gives us
having integrity that gives us
having integrity that gives us confidence in self right that our self
confidence in self right that our self
confidence in self right that our self can stand on its own and be itself and
can stand on its own and be itself and
can stand on its own and be itself and do what it desires that gives us a sense
do what it desires that gives us a sense
do what it desires that gives us a sense of common so have you been doing that
of common so have you been doing that
of common so have you been doing that Department have you been really
Department have you been really
Department have you been really demonstrating who you are to the world
demonstrating who you are to the world
demonstrating who you are to the world and you allowed yourself to do that
and you allowed yourself to do that
and you allowed yourself to do that because if you do that over a period of
because if you do that over a period of
because if you do that over a period of time this is the self and I would argue
time this is the self and I would argue
time this is the self and I would argue the soul senses of coherence you know
the soul senses of coherence you know
the soul senses of coherence you know there’s a cohesive sense of identity
there’s a cohesive sense of identity
there’s a cohesive sense of identity that comes from being consistent to the
that comes from being consistent to the
that comes from being consistent to the best of who we are
best of who we are
best of who we are confidence comes from that and that too
confidence comes from that and that too
confidence comes from that and that too is will it is decision it is a desire to
is will it is decision it is a desire to
is will it is decision it is a desire to want to be a person of integrity and
want to be a person of integrity and
want to be a person of integrity and cost
cost
cost and that’s what Samsung
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