as ernest hemingway noted the world breaks everyone and afterward many are
breaks everyone and afterward many are
breaks everyone and afterward many are stronger in the broken places but my
stronger in the broken places but my
stronger in the broken places but my question is why is in everyone to me it
question is why is in everyone to me it
question is why is in everyone to me it comes down to the strategies that you
comes down to the strategies that you
comes down to the strategies that you use there really isn’t anything
use there really isn’t anything
use there really isn’t anything objectively good or bad there isn’t
objectively good or bad there isn’t
objectively good or bad there isn’t anything that happens to you that can’t
anything that happens to you that can’t
anything that happens to you that can’t be overcome there isn’t anything that
be overcome there isn’t anything that
be overcome there isn’t anything that could happen to you
could happen to you
could happen to you anything that when you turn inward you
anything that when you turn inward you
anything that when you turn inward you can’t find a reason to overcome you
can’t find a reason to overcome you
can’t find a reason to overcome you can’t find a way to put those pieces
can’t find a way to put those pieces
can’t find a way to put those pieces back together and that becomes your job
back together and that becomes your job
back together and that becomes your job it becomes literally up to you whether
it becomes literally up to you whether
it becomes literally up to you whether you’re going to sit and wallow and woe
you’re going to sit and wallow and woe
you’re going to sit and wallow and woe is me because what happened happened and
is me because what happened happened and
is me because what happened happened and there’s no way to take it back but how
there’s no way to take it back but how
there’s no way to take it back but how you respond what do you bring to that
you respond what do you bring to that
you respond what do you bring to that table whether you need fire wood fire
table whether you need fire wood fire
table whether you need fire wood fire whether you meet that adversity with
whether you meet that adversity with
whether you meet that adversity with falling apart becoming weaker in the
falling apart becoming weaker in the
falling apart becoming weaker in the areas that broke or you bind them and
areas that broke or you bind them and
areas that broke or you bind them and mend them and it becomes like a well
mend them and it becomes like a well
mend them and it becomes like a well that literally makes you stronger is a
that literally makes you stronger is a
that literally makes you stronger is a choice and it’s a choice only you get to
choice and it’s a choice only you get to
choice and it’s a choice only you get to make but as Stephen Hawking said when
make but as Stephen Hawking said when
make but as Stephen Hawking said when you complain nobody wants to help you
you complain nobody wants to help you
you complain nobody wants to help you there are many things in your life every
there are many things in your life every
there are many things in your life every reason to complain about you have every
reason to complain about you have every
reason to complain about you have every reason to be upset by the things that
reason to be upset by the things that
reason to be upset by the things that have happened to you the most sinister
have happened to you the most sinister
have happened to you the most sinister thing about excuses is they’re valid
thing about excuses is they’re valid
thing about excuses is they’re valid there’s a million reasons why you should
there’s a million reasons why you should
there’s a million reasons why you should be able to give up there’s a million
be able to give up there’s a million
be able to give up there’s a million reasons why you shouldn’t need to try
reasons why you shouldn’t need to try
reasons why you shouldn’t need to try that thing that broke you you should be
that thing that broke you you should be
that thing that broke you you should be allowed to just sit on the ground and
allowed to just sit on the ground and
allowed to just sit on the ground and here’s the thing that’s your right
here’s the thing that’s your right
here’s the thing that’s your right you’ve every reason to do it and maybe
you’ve every reason to do it and maybe
you’ve every reason to do it and maybe people won’t even think less of you
people won’t even think less of you
people won’t even think less of you but here’s the truth why they become
but here’s the truth why they become
but here’s the truth why they become weaker or stronger in the places that
weaker or stronger in the places that
weaker or stronger in the places that broke and that’s a choice of how you
broke and that’s a choice of how you
broke and that’s a choice of how you react to moving forward the great news
react to moving forward the great news
react to moving forward the great news is the best thing that you could do to
is the best thing that you could do to
is the best thing that you could do to become stronger is love yourself and as
become stronger is love yourself and as
become stronger is love yourself and as Kamal Ravi Kahn said loving yourself is
Kamal Ravi Kahn said loving yourself is
Kamal Ravi Kahn said loving yourself is attractive people think that it’s
attractive people think that it’s
attractive people think that it’s something that’s going to feel right
something that’s going to feel right
something that’s going to feel right that it’s going to feel natural that
that it’s going to feel natural that
that it’s going to feel natural that you’re just going to turn inward and
you’re just going to turn inward and
you’re just going to turn inward and there it is the spark of love and joy
there it is the spark of love and joy
there it is the spark of love and joy for yourself inside yourself and the
for yourself inside yourself and the
for yourself inside yourself and the truth is that’s just not the human
truth is that’s just not the human
truth is that’s just not the human experience that’s not the way that it
experience that’s not the way that it
experience that’s not the way that it works there’s going to be a voice inside
works there’s going to be a voice inside
works there’s going to be a voice inside your head and it’s going to blame you
your head and it’s going to blame you
your head and it’s going to blame you it’s going to say that it’s your fault
it’s going to say that it’s your fault
it’s going to say that it’s your fault and no matter how many times people on
and no matter how many times people on
and no matter how many times people on the outside tell you that that is not
the outside tell you that that is not
the outside tell you that that is not true that this thing happened to you
true that this thing happened to you
true that this thing happened to you that it isn’t you it doesn’t define you
that it isn’t you it doesn’t define you
that it isn’t you it doesn’t define you there will be a voice that’s going to
there will be a voice that’s going to
there will be a voice that’s going to tell you that it does and that’s where
tell you that it does and that’s where
tell you that it does and that’s where you have to fall back on process that’s
you have to fall back on process that’s
you have to fall back on process that’s where you have to realize that you
where you have to realize that you
where you have to realize that you literally have to practice loving
literally have to practice loving
literally have to practice loving yourself and that it’s okay that no
yourself and that it’s okay that no
yourself and that it’s okay that no matter what happened there is absolutely
matter what happened there is absolutely
matter what happened there is absolutely nothing that invalidates that you’re
nothing that invalidates that you’re
nothing that invalidates that you’re worthy of your own love but you’ve got
worthy of your own love but you’ve got
worthy of your own love but you’ve got to practice it you’ve got to be willing
to practice it you’ve got to be willing
to practice it you’ve got to be willing to do it you’ve got to be willing to put
to do it you’ve got to be willing to put
to do it you’ve got to be willing to put in the reps you’ve got to know that it’s
in the reps you’ve got to know that it’s
in the reps you’ve got to know that it’s not going to feel right but you’ve got
not going to feel right but you’ve got
not going to feel right but you’ve got to know on the other side of that is a
to know on the other side of that is a
to know on the other side of that is a vision of your life where you actually
vision of your life where you actually
vision of your life where you actually do love yourself because you took the
do love yourself because you took the
do love yourself because you took the time to say it you took the time to
time to say it you took the time to
time to say it you took the time to practice it you took the time to sit
practice it you took the time to sit
practice it you took the time to sit there and feel stupid and say that you
there and feel stupid and say that you
there and feel stupid and say that you love yourself and sometimes just putting
love yourself and sometimes just putting
love yourself and sometimes just putting in the work is what you need to do to
in the work is what you need to do to
in the work is what you need to do to get strong so put in the work
get strong so put in the work
get strong so put in the work [Music]
many of you as I have been as I am are
many of you as I have been as I am are where you are in your life based upon
where you are in your life based upon
where you are in your life based upon what you believe and it’s not just what
what you believe and it’s not just what
what you believe and it’s not just what you think you believe on the surface
you think you believe on the surface
you think you believe on the surface it’s also your shadow beliefs that are
it’s also your shadow beliefs that are
it’s also your shadow beliefs that are holding you back from moving into the
holding you back from moving into the
holding you back from moving into the life that you believe you deserve what I
life that you believe you deserve what I
life that you believe you deserve what I know is if you’re not looking at the
know is if you’re not looking at the
know is if you’re not looking at the shadows you’re not looking at what is
shadows you’re not looking at what is
shadows you’re not looking at what is subconsciously running through the tape
subconsciously running through the tape
subconsciously running through the tape in your mind telling yourself you’re not
in your mind telling yourself you’re not
in your mind telling yourself you’re not good enough you’re not worthy enough
good enough you’re not worthy enough
good enough you’re not worthy enough you’re not smart enough you are not
you’re not smart enough you are not
you’re not smart enough you are not enough which is a tape that’s playing
enough which is a tape that’s playing
enough which is a tape that’s playing for a lot of people if you’re not
for a lot of people if you’re not
for a lot of people if you’re not conscious of that then you end up acting
conscious of that then you end up acting
conscious of that then you end up acting out of that belief system and not out of
out of that belief system and not out of
out of that belief system and not out of what you know to be the truth or want to
what you know to be the truth or want to
what you know to be the truth or want to be the truest yourself you are where you
be the truest yourself you are where you
be the truest yourself you are where you are today in part because of what you’ve
are today in part because of what you’ve
are today in part because of what you’ve been saying about yourself words are
been saying about yourself words are
been saying about yourself words are like these when you speak something out
like these when you speak something out
like these when you speak something out you give life to what you’re saying if
you give life to what you’re saying if
you give life to what you’re saying if you continue to say eventually that can
you continue to say eventually that can
you continue to say eventually that can become a reality you are planting seeds
become a reality you are planting seeds
become a reality you are planting seeds when you talk at some point you’re going
when you talk at some point you’re going
when you talk at some point you’re going to eat that fruit my challenge is make
to eat that fruit my challenge is make
to eat that fruit my challenge is make sure you’re planning the right kind of
sure you’re planning the right kind of
sure you’re planning the right kind of seeds if you want apples you have to sow
seeds if you want apples you have to sow
seeds if you want apples you have to sow apple seeds if you want oranges you
apple seeds if you want oranges you
apple seeds if you want oranges you can’t plant cactus seeds poison ivy
can’t plant cactus seeds poison ivy
can’t plant cactus seeds poison ivy seeds mushroom seeds you’re going to
seeds mushroom seeds you’re going to
seeds mushroom seeds you’re going to read through from the exact seed that
read through from the exact seed that
read through from the exact seed that you’ve been selling it in other words
you’ve been selling it in other words
you’ve been selling it in other words you can’t talk negative and expect to
you can’t talk negative and expect to
you can’t talk negative and expect to live a positive life
live a positive life
live a positive life you can’t talk to feet and expect to
you can’t talk to feet and expect to
you can’t talk to feet and expect to have victory you can’t talk lack not
have victory you can’t talk lack not
have victory you can’t talk lack not enough can’t afford it never get ahead
enough can’t afford it never get ahead
enough can’t afford it never get ahead and expect to have abundance if you have
and expect to have abundance if you have
and expect to have abundance if you have a poor mouth you’re going to have a poor
a poor mouth you’re going to have a poor
a poor mouth you’re going to have a poor life
life
life [Music]
[Music]
[Music] this is great when we’re saying things
this is great when we’re saying things
this is great when we’re saying things like I’m blessed I’m strong I will
like I’m blessed I’m strong I will
like I’m blessed I’m strong I will accomplish my dream I’m coming out of
accomplish my dream I’m coming out of
accomplish my dream I’m coming out of there that’s not just being positive
there that’s not just being positive
there that’s not just being positive you are prophesying victory proper sign
you are prophesying victory proper sign
you are prophesying victory proper sign success prophesy new levels your life
success prophesy new levels your life
success prophesy new levels your life will move in the direction of your words
will move in the direction of your words
will move in the direction of your words but too many people go around prophesy
but too many people go around prophesy
but too many people go around prophesy on just the opposite I never get any
on just the opposite I never get any
on just the opposite I never get any good brain I’ll never get back in shape
good brain I’ll never get back in shape
good brain I’ll never get back in shape business is slow
business is slow
business is slow I’ll probably get laid off flu season is
I’ll probably get laid off flu season is
I’ll probably get laid off flu season is here I always get it they don’t realize
here I always get it they don’t realize
here I always get it they don’t realize they are prophesying defeat it’s just
they are prophesying defeat it’s just
they are prophesying defeat it’s just like they’re calling in bad breaks
like they’re calling in bad breaks
like they’re calling in bad breaks mediocrity lack you don’t become what
mediocrity lack you don’t become what
mediocrity lack you don’t become what you want because so much of wanting is
you want because so much of wanting is
you want because so much of wanting is about living in the space of what you
about living in the space of what you
about living in the space of what you don’t have that’s why Jim Carrey’s story
don’t have that’s why Jim Carrey’s story
don’t have that’s why Jim Carrey’s story is so powerful because he started to act
is so powerful because he started to act
is so powerful because he started to act as though he already had it we’d go up
as though he already had it we’d go up
as though he already had it we’d go up to Mulholland Drive you would drive away
to Mulholland Drive you would drive away
to Mulholland Drive you would drive away things thinking I already have those
things thinking I already have those
things thinking I already have those things I just haven’t accessed them as
things I just haven’t accessed them as
things I just haven’t accessed them as yet I believe those things are going to
yet I believe those things are going to
yet I believe those things are going to come to me I’m going to act like they
come to me I’m going to act like they
come to me I’m going to act like they are so I’m going to move forward in my
are so I’m going to move forward in my
are so I’m going to move forward in my life in order to draw that to myself in
life in order to draw that to myself in
life in order to draw that to myself in such a way that my actions are in
such a way that my actions are in
such a way that my actions are in alignment with what I say I believe so
alignment with what I say I believe so
alignment with what I say I believe so if you start to think about that really
if you start to think about that really
if you start to think about that really why are you where you are in your life
why are you where you are in your life
why are you where you are in your life the choices that you have made have been
the choices that you have made have been
the choices that you have made have been because of what you believe to be true
because of what you believe to be true
because of what you believe to be true for yourself
the time is now the time is out to
the time is now the time is out to express and for people to believe in
express and for people to believe in
express and for people to believe in themselves the time is now for it to be
themselves the time is now for it to be
themselves the time is now for it to be okay to be great people in this world
okay to be great people in this world
okay to be great people in this world shutting people for being great for
shutting people for being great for
shutting people for being great for being a bright color to stand and out
being a bright color to stand and out
being a bright color to stand and out but the time is now to be okay to be the
but the time is now to be okay to be the
but the time is now to be okay to be the greatest you you can talk yourself out
greatest you you can talk yourself out
greatest you you can talk yourself out of your destiny
of your destiny
of your destiny negative words can keep you from
negative words can keep you from
negative words can keep you from becoming who you were created to be
becoming who you were created to be
becoming who you were created to be don’t fall into that trap quit calling
don’t fall into that trap quit calling
don’t fall into that trap quit calling in defeat quit talking about how it’s
in defeat quit talking about how it’s
in defeat quit talking about how it’s not going to happen you should write
not going to happen you should write
not going to happen you should write down your goal write down what you want
down your goal write down what you want
down your goal write down what you want to see happen in life any area that
to see happen in life any area that
to see happen in life any area that you’re struggling in where you need to
you’re struggling in where you need to
you’re struggling in where you need to improve write it down like it’s already
improve write it down like it’s already
improve write it down like it’s already done and then every day declares that
done and then every day declares that
done and then every day declares that decree read over it a couple of times
decree read over it a couple of times
decree read over it a couple of times out loud it’s not enough to just think
out loud it’s not enough to just think
out loud it’s not enough to just think it something happens when we speak you
it something happens when we speak you
it something happens when we speak you have to prophesize your teaching those
have to prophesize your teaching those
have to prophesize your teaching those words will get down on the inside of you
words will get down on the inside of you
words will get down on the inside of you they’ll not only change your outlook but
they’ll not only change your outlook but
they’ll not only change your outlook but they will change who you are your words
they will change who you are your words
they will change who you are your words will become your reality everyone takes
will become your reality everyone takes
will become your reality everyone takes the limits of their own vision for the
the limits of their own vision for the
the limits of their own vision for the limits of the world
limits of the world
limits of the world Arthur Chopin our there is all around
Arthur Chopin our there is all around
Arthur Chopin our there is all around you right now the reflections of your
you right now the reflections of your
you right now the reflections of your world beliefs they’re so ever-present
world beliefs they’re so ever-present
world beliefs they’re so ever-present that you don’t even see them all the
that you don’t even see them all the
that you don’t even see them all the assumption that you’ve made about the
assumption that you’ve made about the
assumption that you’ve made about the world the things that are possible what
world the things that are possible what
world the things that are possible what you’re capable of who you are the very
you’re capable of who you are the very
you’re capable of who you are the very definition of what it means to be alive
definition of what it means to be alive
definition of what it means to be alive all of it is completely invisible and
all of it is completely invisible and
all of it is completely invisible and you’re mistaken what you have for what
you’re mistaken what you have for what
you’re mistaken what you have for what could be and once you break free of that
could be and once you break free of that
could be and once you break free of that once you understand that right now
once you understand that right now
once you understand that right now you’re a moment in time and that you
you’re a moment in time and that you
you’re a moment in time and that you have latent potential and that latent
have latent potential and that latent
have latent potential and that latent potential can be expressed in the form
potential can be expressed in the form
potential can be expressed in the form of skills that you can get good at
of skills that you can get good at
of skills that you can get good at things that you can develop yourself in
things that you can develop yourself in
things that you can develop yourself in any direction that brain plasticity
any direction that brain plasticity
any direction that brain plasticity alone is one of the greatest weapons
alone is one of the greatest weapons
alone is one of the greatest weapons that you’re not using but you have to
that you’re not using but you have to
that you’re not using but you have to move beyond what you can perceive today
move beyond what you can perceive today
move beyond what you can perceive today you have to begin to look beyond that
you have to begin to look beyond that
you have to begin to look beyond that and see that which doesn’t yet exist and
and see that which doesn’t yet exist and
and see that which doesn’t yet exist and you have to remember that many of the
you have to remember that many of the
you have to remember that many of the things that are holding you down or
things that are holding you down or
things that are holding you down or rules that you don’t even realize are
rules that you don’t even realize are
rules that you don’t even realize are rules and as General Douglas MacArthur
rules and as General Douglas MacArthur
rules and as General Douglas MacArthur said you’re remembered for the rules you
said you’re remembered for the rules you
said you’re remembered for the rules you break and right now you’re following
break and right now you’re following
break and right now you’re following rules that you don’t even realize exist
rules that you don’t even realize exist
rules that you don’t even realize exist and some of those rules are simply what
and some of those rules are simply what
and some of those rules are simply what is okay to dream but I’m here to tell
is okay to dream but I’m here to tell
is okay to dream but I’m here to tell you the power is in recognizing that you
you the power is in recognizing that you
you the power is in recognizing that you can do it the power is in having the
can do it the power is in having the
can do it the power is in having the arrogance of belief the power is an
arrogance of belief the power is an
arrogance of belief the power is an understanding that you yes you are going
understanding that you yes you are going
understanding that you yes you are going to be capable of something simply
to be capable of something simply
to be capable of something simply because you are willing to believe in
because you are willing to believe in
because you are willing to believe in yourself and that’s the thing it’s a
yourself and that’s the thing it’s a
yourself and that’s the thing it’s a willingness to believe in yourself no
willingness to believe in yourself no
willingness to believe in yourself no one’s going to give it to you even the
one’s going to give it to you even the
one’s going to give it to you even the people that love you they’re not going
people that love you they’re not going
people that love you they’re not going to give you that they’re incapable of
to give you that they’re incapable of
to give you that they’re incapable of giving it to you people cannot be past
giving it to you people cannot be past
giving it to you people cannot be past their limitations and they take them for
their limitations and they take them for
their limitations and they take them for truth people actually believe the things
truth people actually believe the things
truth people actually believe the things that have stopped them will forever not
that have stopped them will forever not
that have stopped them will forever not only stop them but they will stop other
only stop them but they will stop other
only stop them but they will stop other people how can they hope to give you
people how can they hope to give you
people how can they hope to give you anything but limitation
anything but limitation
anything but limitation so if you know that if you know that
so if you know that if you know that
so if you know that if you know that even the people that love you what their
even the people that love you what their
even the people that love you what their handling was limitation with the best of
handling was limitation with the best of
handling was limitation with the best of intentions with all the love in
intentions with all the love in
intentions with all the love in the world how are you going to break out
the world how are you going to break out
the world how are you going to break out of that how are you going to break past
of that how are you going to break past
of that how are you going to break past those rules how are you going to fight
those rules how are you going to fight
those rules how are you going to fight the anxiety that inevitably comes your
the anxiety that inevitably comes your
the anxiety that inevitably comes your way when you think about going against
way when you think about going against
way when you think about going against the grain but my friends until you can
the grain but my friends until you can
the grain but my friends until you can do that you can never get beyond the
do that you can never get beyond the
do that you can never get beyond the that limits you if people said
that limits you if people said
that limits you if people said gravity is what it is we never would
gravity is what it is we never would
gravity is what it is we never would have reached the skate velocity and yet
have reached the skate velocity and yet
have reached the skate velocity and yet as a species we have been able to hurl a
as a species we have been able to hurl a
as a species we have been able to hurl a rocket into space get it outside
rocket into space get it outside
rocket into space get it outside of gravity take us to other planets that
of gravity take us to other planets that
of gravity take us to other planets that is real only because somebody said I
is real only because somebody said I
is real only because somebody said I refuse to be held down by the most
refuse to be held down by the most
refuse to be held down by the most obvious rule that we have the one that
obvious rule that we have the one that
obvious rule that we have the one that everybody says is beyond reproach and
everybody says is beyond reproach and
everybody says is beyond reproach and that is gravity
that is gravity
that is gravity but even gravity will break under the
but even gravity will break under the
but even gravity will break under the weight of a superior will so recognizes
weight of a superior will so recognizes
weight of a superior will so recognizes epictetus said if you want to improve be
epictetus said if you want to improve be
epictetus said if you want to improve be content to be thought foolish and stupid
content to be thought foolish and stupid
content to be thought foolish and stupid can you be content to be thought foolish
can you be content to be thought foolish
can you be content to be thought foolish and stupid or do you allow yourself to
and stupid or do you allow yourself to
and stupid or do you allow yourself to be caged to be hemmed in by what other
be caged to be hemmed in by what other
be caged to be hemmed in by what other people think and look I get it I
people think and look I get it I
people think and look I get it I understand the sting of contempt I
understand the sting of contempt I
understand the sting of contempt I understand how much it sucks and someone
understand how much it sucks and someone
understand how much it sucks and someone you respect doesn’t respect you but you
you respect doesn’t respect you but you
you respect doesn’t respect you but you cannot be anything more than their
cannot be anything more than their
cannot be anything more than their captive if you think about what they
captive if you think about what they
captive if you think about what they think about you if you let yourself be
think about you if you let yourself be
think about you if you let yourself be defined by what other people perceive of
defined by what other people perceive of
defined by what other people perceive of as you then you will forever be limited
as you then you will forever be limited
as you then you will forever be limited by what they give you permission to do
by what they give you permission to do
by what they give you permission to do and I don’t know about you but when I
and I don’t know about you but when I
and I don’t know about you but when I was a kid I said when I’m an adult I
was a kid I said when I’m an adult I
was a kid I said when I’m an adult I will never be told what to do
will never be told what to do
will never be told what to do again I will never be held back by
again I will never be held back by
again I will never be held back by somebody else I will define myself I
somebody else I will define myself I
somebody else I will define myself I will figure out what I need to do and I
will figure out what I need to do and I
will figure out what I need to do and I will do it and at the end of the day
will do it and at the end of the day
will do it and at the end of the day that is it my goals Drive my behavior I
that is it my goals Drive my behavior I
that is it my goals Drive my behavior I am NOT held back by what other people
am NOT held back by what other people
am NOT held back by what other people think about me no matter how
think about me no matter how
think about me no matter how intoxicating it is to be loved you have
intoxicating it is to be loved you have
intoxicating it is to be loved you have to decide what you want more do you want
to decide what you want more do you want
to decide what you want more do you want to be you or do you want to be someone
to be you or do you want to be someone
to be you or do you want to be someone else’s reflect
else’s reflect
else’s reflect you
you
you [Music]
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