before I start I just want to ask who here thinks that they are perfect okay
here thinks that they are perfect okay
here thinks that they are perfect okay who he wants to be perfect I once wanted
who he wants to be perfect I once wanted
who he wants to be perfect I once wanted to be perfect to you anta nearly killed
to be perfect to you anta nearly killed
to be perfect to you anta nearly killed me I’m now an international professional
me I’m now an international professional
me I’m now an international professional model but back when I had this desire
model but back when I had this desire
model but back when I had this desire for perfection I was bullied and hated
for perfection I was bullied and hated
for perfection I was bullied and hated myself for my looks and that’s because I
myself for my looks and that’s because I
myself for my looks and that’s because I would look in the mirror and see myself
would look in the mirror and see myself
would look in the mirror and see myself wearing the labels that the playground
wearing the labels that the playground
wearing the labels that the playground bullies gave me but if we live our lives
bullies gave me but if we live our lives
bullies gave me but if we live our lives based on the judgments of others then
based on the judgments of others then
based on the judgments of others then we’re living their lives and not ours so
we’re living their lives and not ours so
we’re living their lives and not ours so I developed a way to redefine hate if
I developed a way to redefine hate if
I developed a way to redefine hate if you take the e from the end of hate and
you take the e from the end of hate and
you take the e from the end of hate and put it at the beginning it becomes e hat
put it at the beginning it becomes e hat
put it at the beginning it becomes e hat so essentially when someone’s hunting us
so essentially when someone’s hunting us
so essentially when someone’s hunting us hates they’re hunting us an e hat with a
hates they’re hunting us an e hat with a
hates they’re hunting us an e hat with a label on it but it’s up to us whether to
label on it but it’s up to us whether to
label on it but it’s up to us whether to wear these hats or not and the more you
wear these hats or not and the more you
wear these hats or not and the more you wear the more it’s going to weigh you
wear the more it’s going to weigh you
wear the more it’s going to weigh you down the moment everything changed for
down the moment everything changed for
down the moment everything changed for me was when I decided to take off these
me was when I decided to take off these
me was when I decided to take off these hats and learn to love myself and the
hats and learn to love myself and the
hats and learn to love myself and the ironic thing is that the day I gave my
ironic thing is that the day I gave my
ironic thing is that the day I gave my first workshop on self-love was a day
first workshop on self-love was a day
first workshop on self-love was a day that I got scouted to be a model and
that I got scouted to be a model and
that I got scouted to be a model and here’s the interesting thing that I’ve
here’s the interesting thing that I’ve
here’s the interesting thing that I’ve learnt about modeling the standards
learnt about modeling the standards
learnt about modeling the standards created by the media could not be more
created by the media could not be more
created by the media could not be more fake next time you see a picture of a
fake next time you see a picture of a
fake next time you see a picture of a model I want you to remember one word
model I want you to remember one word
model I want you to remember one word and that word is clap c stands for the
and that word is clap c stands for the
and that word is clap c stands for the clothes that get pinned behind our backs
clothes that get pinned behind our backs
clothes that get pinned behind our backs to make them look like they fit us
to make them look like they fit us
to make them look like they fit us better than they do L stands for
better than they do L stands for
better than they do L stands for lighting which can take up to an hour to
lighting which can take up to an hour to
lighting which can take up to an hour to get right and obviously we can’t choose
get right and obviously we can’t choose
get right and obviously we can’t choose the lighting that people see us in a
the lighting that people see us in a
the lighting that people see us in a estar angles every single picture that
estar angles every single picture that
estar angles every single picture that you see will have been taken ten
you see will have been taken ten
you see will have been taken ten different times from 10 different angles
different times from 10 different angles
different times from 10 different angles and again you can’t choose the angle
and again you can’t choose the angle
and again you can’t choose the angle that people see you from a is also for
that people see you from a is also for
that people see you from a is also for age you can have 14 year old girls
age you can have 14 year old girls
age you can have 14 year old girls modeling skincare for middle-aged women
modeling skincare for middle-aged women
modeling skincare for middle-aged women I mean that’s crazy and P is for
I mean that’s crazy and P is for
I mean that’s crazy and P is for preparations so hair and makeup can take
preparations so hair and makeup can take
preparations so hair and makeup can take up to three hours and if we spent Val
up to three hours and if we spent Val
up to three hours and if we spent Val preparing ourselves every day for a year
preparing ourselves every day for a year
preparing ourselves every day for a year that would take up 46 days and nights
that would take up 46 days and nights
that would take up 46 days and nights out of the year P is also for of course
out of the year P is also for of course
out of the year P is also for of course Photoshop in most cases it would take a
Photoshop in most cases it would take a
Photoshop in most cases it would take a shorter amount of time to generate a
shorter amount of time to generate a
shorter amount of time to generate a cartoon character than it were to edit a
cartoon character than it were to edit a
cartoon character than it were to edit a picture of a model so my question is if
picture of a model so my question is if
picture of a model so my question is if you’re going to compare yourself to a
you’re going to compare yourself to a
you’re going to compare yourself to a picture of a model why not compare
picture of a model why not compare
picture of a model why not compare yourself to Jessica Rabbit or Betty Boop
yourself to Jessica Rabbit or Betty Boop
yourself to Jessica Rabbit or Betty Boop the problem that this creates for us is
the problem that this creates for us is
the problem that this creates for us is it leaves us to say I’ll accept myself
it leaves us to say I’ll accept myself
it leaves us to say I’ll accept myself when I look like that
when I look like that
when I look like that I should have whiter teeth I should have
I should have whiter teeth I should have
I should have whiter teeth I should have longer legs I should have longer hair
longer legs I should have longer hair
longer legs I should have longer hair we’ll stop shooting all over yourselves
we’ll stop shooting all over yourselves
we’ll stop shooting all over yourselves because if you do ever achieve all those
because if you do ever achieve all those
because if you do ever achieve all those things you still won’t love yourself
things you still won’t love yourself
things you still won’t love yourself because it’s not true self-love to say
because it’s not true self-love to say
because it’s not true self-love to say that you can’t accept yourself for who
that you can’t accept yourself for who
that you can’t accept yourself for who you already are so next time you see a
you already are so next time you see a
you already are so next time you see a picture of a model you can either give
picture of a model you can either give
picture of a model you can either give them a clap or you can stand up and give
them a clap or you can stand up and give
them a clap or you can stand up and give yourselves a round of applause for
yourselves a round of applause for
yourselves a round of applause for knowing that you’re not that fake think
knowing that you’re not that fake think
knowing that you’re not that fake think about Rolls Royce Rolls Royce and all
about Rolls Royce Rolls Royce and all
about Rolls Royce Rolls Royce and all the best companies don’t have an
the best companies don’t have an
the best companies don’t have an advertising budget and they don’t
advertising budget and they don’t
advertising budget and they don’t promote themselves because they know
promote themselves because they know
promote themselves because they know their value and they know their worth
their value and they know their worth
their value and they know their worth and because of this they have no problem
and because of this they have no problem
and because of this they have no problem selling what happens when we question
selling what happens when we question
selling what happens when we question our self-worth is we immediately step
our self-worth is we immediately step
our self-worth is we immediately step into a place of uncertainty and self
into a place of uncertainty and self
into a place of uncertainty and self neglect which leads us to attract so
neglect which leads us to attract so
neglect which leads us to attract so much negativity into our lives when
much negativity into our lives when
much negativity into our lives when saying I can’t do this our mind will
saying I can’t do this our mind will
saying I can’t do this our mind will subconsciously hold these words until it
subconsciously hold these words until it
subconsciously hold these words until it gets the certainty that we will write
gets the certainty that we will write
gets the certainty that we will write about what it was we thought we couldn’t
about what it was we thought we couldn’t
about what it was we thought we couldn’t do and that’s why people who lack in
do and that’s why people who lack in
do and that’s why people who lack in self-love also lack in achieving their
self-love also lack in achieving their
self-love also lack in achieving their goals and if you don’t believe that you
goals and if you don’t believe that you
goals and if you don’t believe that you can do it
can do it
can do it why would anyone else and if you don’t
why would anyone else and if you don’t
why would anyone else and if you don’t love yourself how can anyone else and if
love yourself how can anyone else and if
love yourself how can anyone else and if you stop judging yourself you’ll stop
you stop judging yourself you’ll stop
you stop judging yourself you’ll stop judging other people and that’s why
judging other people and that’s why
judging other people and that’s why self-love is so important can you
self-love is so important can you
self-love is so important can you imagine how the world would be if no one
imagine how the world would be if no one
imagine how the world would be if no one judged themselves can you imagine how
judged themselves can you imagine how
judged themselves can you imagine how the world would be if no one judged
the world would be if no one judged
the world would be if no one judged anyone and what even is perfection its
anyone and what even is perfection its
anyone and what even is perfection its objective it’s a moving target and
objective it’s a moving target and
objective it’s a moving target and everyone has a different idea of what it
everyone has a different idea of what it
everyone has a different idea of what it actually is
actually is
actually is to some people this is perfect to some
to some people this is perfect to some
to some people this is perfect to some people this is perfect to some people
people this is perfect to some people
people this is perfect to some people this is perfect and strangely enough to
this is perfect and strangely enough to
this is perfect and strangely enough to me to some people this is perfect and
me to some people this is perfect and
me to some people this is perfect and the same thing actually applies to
the same thing actually applies to
the same thing actually applies to humans
humans
humans – some people perfection is having
– some people perfection is having
– some people perfection is having curves and wavy hair and in other
curves and wavy hair and in other
curves and wavy hair and in other cultures perfection is wearing lots of
cultures perfection is wearing lots of
cultures perfection is wearing lots of colors and having an elongated neck the
colors and having an elongated neck the
colors and having an elongated neck the very definition itself is aesthetically
very definition itself is aesthetically
very definition itself is aesthetically pleasing to the eye
pleasing to the eye
pleasing to the eye so when someone says to you I think
so when someone says to you I think
so when someone says to you I think you’re perfect what they’re really
you’re perfect what they’re really
you’re perfect what they’re really saying to you is you are everything that
saying to you is you are everything that
saying to you is you are everything that I would like to be you are very
I would like to be you are very
I would like to be you are very satisfying to me I would have absolute
satisfying to me I would have absolute
satisfying to me I would have absolute certainty that I do not need to change
certainty that I do not need to change
certainty that I do not need to change if I were you and parents when you tell
if I were you and parents when you tell
if I were you and parents when you tell your children that they’re perfect all
your children that they’re perfect all
your children that they’re perfect all you’re doing is giving them a full sense
you’re doing is giving them a full sense
you’re doing is giving them a full sense of entitlement and rubbing them from
of entitlement and rubbing them from
of entitlement and rubbing them from being the best version of themselves so
being the best version of themselves so
being the best version of themselves so change the definition to match yourself
change the definition to match yourself
change the definition to match yourself tell yourself all I need is already
tell yourself all I need is already
tell yourself all I need is already within me now and own yourself because
within me now and own yourself because
within me now and own yourself because no one else does even Coco Chanel said
no one else does even Coco Chanel said
no one else does even Coco Chanel said that beauty begins the moment we decide
that beauty begins the moment we decide
that beauty begins the moment we decide to be ourselves I know I wouldn’t be
to be ourselves I know I wouldn’t be
to be ourselves I know I wouldn’t be here today to share the rules of
here today to share the rules of
here today to share the rules of perfection with you if I hadn’t learned
perfection with you if I hadn’t learned
perfection with you if I hadn’t learned to break them myself so the best way
to break them myself so the best way
to break them myself so the best way that I can share the rules of perfection
that I can share the rules of perfection
that I can share the rules of perfection is with the mirror challenge now I’m
is with the mirror challenge now I’m
is with the mirror challenge now I’m sure many of you have seen those viral
sure many of you have seen those viral
sure many of you have seen those viral videos on Facebook and YouTube of the
videos on Facebook and YouTube of the
videos on Facebook and YouTube of the kids standing in front of the mirror
kids standing in front of the mirror
kids standing in front of the mirror going you were kind you were smart you
going you were kind you were smart you
going you were kind you were smart you were loved and their parents are amazing
were loved and their parents are amazing
were loved and their parents are amazing because they’ve taught them self love
because they’ve taught them self love
because they’ve taught them self love from such an early age and that’s gonna
from such an early age and that’s gonna
from such an early age and that’s gonna come with them for life but it’s never
come with them for life but it’s never
come with them for life but it’s never too late to learn to love yourselves so
too late to learn to love yourselves so
too late to learn to love yourselves so we’re gonna do the mirror challenge
we’re gonna do the mirror challenge
we’re gonna do the mirror challenge right now Amira is just a piece of glass
right now Amira is just a piece of glass
right now Amira is just a piece of glass and what you see behind it is up to you
and what you see behind it is up to you
and what you see behind it is up to you so I want you to all close your eyes all
so I want you to all close your eyes all
so I want you to all close your eyes all of you and I want you to visualize the
of you and I want you to visualize the
of you and I want you to visualize the person that you see in the mirror when
person that you see in the mirror when
person that you see in the mirror when you wake up in the morning I want you to
you wake up in the morning I want you to
you wake up in the morning I want you to look at your messy hair girls I want you
look at your messy hair girls I want you
look at your messy hair girls I want you to look at your smudged mascara guys I
to look at your smudged mascara guys I
to look at your smudged mascara guys I want you to look at your stubble and I
want you to look at your stubble and I
want you to look at your stubble and I want you to give your
want you to give your
want you to give your a smile who else loves that smile who
a smile who else loves that smile who
a smile who else loves that smile who else do you love what else have you got
else do you love what else have you got
else do you love what else have you got to be proud of who else is proud of you
to be proud of who else is proud of you
to be proud of who else is proud of you what else are you grateful for you can
what else are you grateful for you can
what else are you grateful for you can open your eyes now doesn’t that feel
open your eyes now doesn’t that feel
open your eyes now doesn’t that feel good once I learn to love myself I
good once I learn to love myself I
good once I learn to love myself I believe that I became more beautiful to
believe that I became more beautiful to
believe that I became more beautiful to the eye of others and it’s not that my
the eye of others and it’s not that my
the eye of others and it’s not that my looks changed it’s that my attitude did
looks changed it’s that my attitude did
looks changed it’s that my attitude did beauty is in the eye of the beholder and
beauty is in the eye of the beholder and
beauty is in the eye of the beholder and this can be rephrased to love light or
this can be rephrased to love light or
this can be rephrased to love light or radiances in the eye of the beholder
radiances in the eye of the beholder
radiances in the eye of the beholder because they all mean the same thing
because they all mean the same thing
because they all mean the same thing beauty is not something that you are
beauty is not something that you are
beauty is not something that you are it’s something that you feel and radiate
it’s something that you feel and radiate
it’s something that you feel and radiate outwards the lake Harry Fisher said the
outwards the lake Harry Fisher said the
outwards the lake Harry Fisher said the youth and beauty and not accomplishments
youth and beauty and not accomplishments
youth and beauty and not accomplishments they are the temporary happy byproducts
they are the temporary happy byproducts
they are the temporary happy byproducts of time so how did I learn to love
of time so how did I learn to love
of time so how did I learn to love myself I decided to breach the e hats
myself I decided to breach the e hats
myself I decided to breach the e hats that my classmates gave me and to find
that my classmates gave me and to find
that my classmates gave me and to find myself I decided to breach the laws of
myself I decided to breach the laws of
myself I decided to breach the laws of perfection and create my own I went from
perfection and create my own I went from
perfection and create my own I went from being a girl who hated her reflection to
being a girl who hated her reflection to
being a girl who hated her reflection to a woman who embraces every detail in the
a woman who embraces every detail in the
a woman who embraces every detail in the mirror attempting to end my life to
mirror attempting to end my life to
mirror attempting to end my life to loving how beautiful it is a playground
loving how beautiful it is a playground
loving how beautiful it is a playground victim to having a wonderful circle of
victim to having a wonderful circle of
victim to having a wonderful circle of friends and the one thing that connects
friends and the one thing that connects
friends and the one thing that connects all these personal changes is self-love
all these personal changes is self-love
all these personal changes is self-love once we create our own laws of
once we create our own laws of
once we create our own laws of acceptance so much more becomes possible
acceptance so much more becomes possible
acceptance so much more becomes possible you are your first and your last love
you are your first and your last love
you are your first and your last love and in the end you’re gonna end up with
and in the end you’re gonna end up with
and in the end you’re gonna end up with yourself anyway so you may as well make
yourself anyway so you may as well make
yourself anyway so you may as well make the effort to have a good relationship
the effort to have a good relationship
the effort to have a good relationship with yourself all that could get quite
with yourself all that could get quite
with yourself all that could get quite awkward see is whatever story you have
awkward see is whatever story you have
awkward see is whatever story you have to make yourself stronger even if
to make yourself stronger even if
to make yourself stronger even if someone else says something to us that
someone else says something to us that
someone else says something to us that we choose to believe in order to feel
we choose to believe in order to feel
we choose to believe in order to feel fulfilled we are still the people making
fulfilled we are still the people making
fulfilled we are still the people making ourselves fulfilled instead of relying
ourselves fulfilled instead of relying
ourselves fulfilled instead of relying on others to believe that we are who we
on others to believe that we are who we
on others to believe that we are who we should be we are actually relying on
should be we are actually relying on
should be we are actually relying on ourselves and should therefore tell us
ourselves and should therefore tell us
ourselves and should therefore tell us that we are exactly who we need to be
that we are exactly who we need to be
that we are exactly who we need to be without relying on others because if you
without relying on others because if you
without relying on others because if you can’t approve of yourself how can you
can’t approve of yourself how can you
can’t approve of yourself how can you expect anyone else to how many hats have
expect anyone else to how many hats have
expect anyone else to how many hats have you piled up over the years from your
you piled up over the years from your
you piled up over the years from your colleagues friends and family isn’t it
colleagues friends and family isn’t it
colleagues friends and family isn’t it about time that you took them off
about time that you took them off
about time that you took them off perfection isn’t real there’s no point
perfection isn’t real there’s no point
perfection isn’t real there’s no point living up to something that doesn’t
living up to something that doesn’t
living up to something that doesn’t exist thank you
exist thank you
exist thank you [Applause]
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