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this chip on my shoulder started 40

this chip on my shoulder started 40 years ago when my mother was 69 she was

years ago when my mother was 69 she was

years ago when my mother was 69 she was assaulted in her home beaten unconscious

assaulted in her home beaten unconscious

assaulted in her home beaten unconscious raped and left for dead I found out the

raped and left for dead I found out the

raped and left for dead I found out the next day and hopped the red-eye and

next day and hopped the red-eye and

next day and hopped the red-eye and arrived at the hospital where she was

arrived at the hospital where she was

arrived at the hospital where she was the next morning at dawn she was still

the next morning at dawn she was still

the next morning at dawn she was still on the gurney in the emergency room

on the gurney in the emergency room

on the gurney in the emergency room nearly three days after the assault they

nearly three days after the assault they

nearly three days after the assault they hadn’t decided whether to admit her

hadn’t decided whether to admit her

hadn’t decided whether to admit her probably thought she was too old to

probably thought she was too old to

probably thought she was too old to survive and just waited for her to die

survive and just waited for her to die

survive and just waited for her to die anyhow I got her admitted and six long

anyhow I got her admitted and six long

anyhow I got her admitted and six long weeks in the trauma ward she was

weeks in the trauma ward she was

weeks in the trauma ward she was discharged for a convalescence in spite

discharged for a convalescence in spite

discharged for a convalescence in spite of that horrendous event she gained

of that horrendous event she gained

of that horrendous event she gained enough mobility to work part-time in the

enough mobility to work part-time in the

enough mobility to work part-time in the local library why am I telling you all

local library why am I telling you all

local library why am I telling you all this because she was an inspiration she

this because she was an inspiration she

this because she was an inspiration she had earned her bachelor’s degree at the

had earned her bachelor’s degree at the

had earned her bachelor’s degree at the age of 60 and inspired by that I had

age of 60 and inspired by that I had

age of 60 and inspired by that I had enrolled in college before she got hurt

enrolled in college before she got hurt

enrolled in college before she got hurt and I was able to graduate and then went

and I was able to graduate and then went

and I was able to graduate and then went on to earn a master’s degree and mama

on to earn a master’s degree and mama

on to earn a master’s degree and mama got out of her wheelchair and came to my

got out of her wheelchair and came to my

got out of her wheelchair and came to my graduation yeah that was major I know

graduation yeah that was major I know

graduation yeah that was major I know it’s hard going back to school in

it’s hard going back to school in

it’s hard going back to school in midlife but it’s really worth it it

midlife but it’s really worth it it

midlife but it’s really worth it it really is I worked hard at it and I

really is I worked hard at it and I

really is I worked hard at it and I achieved a better job as a result so so

achieved a better job as a result so so

achieved a better job as a result so so as she as Genevieve said I’m now

as she as Genevieve said I’m now

as she as Genevieve said I’m now enrolled at UNM in a doctoral program

enrolled at UNM in a doctoral program

enrolled at UNM in a doctoral program and my dissertation is about how older

and my dissertation is about how older

and my dissertation is about how older students are perceived on

students are perceived on

students are perceived on campus and how older students adapt to

campus and how older students adapt to

campus and how older students adapt to the youth oriented culture on campus

the youth oriented culture on campus

the youth oriented culture on campus after five years of studying

after five years of studying

after five years of studying organizational culture I’m going to be

organizational culture I’m going to be

organizational culture I’m going to be able to put that much of it to use let

able to put that much of it to use let

able to put that much of it to use let me ask you this why do the professor’s

me ask you this why do the professor’s

me ask you this why do the professor’s when they lecture about the generations

when they lecture about the generations

when they lecture about the generations in our society and they talk about the

in our society and they talk about the

in our society and they talk about the Millennials Gen Y echo kids Gen X

Millennials Gen Y echo kids Gen X

Millennials Gen Y echo kids Gen X boomers and then they stopped and I say

boomers and then they stopped and I say

boomers and then they stopped and I say you who how about those of us who beat

you who how about those of us who beat

you who how about those of us who beat the rush we’re called the silent

the rush we’re called the silent

the rush we’re called the silent generation where the smallest generation

generation where the smallest generation

generation where the smallest generation in our society but it’s as if we were

in our society but it’s as if we were

in our society but it’s as if we were all dead and gone already well I’m

all dead and gone already well I’m

all dead and gone already well I’m telling you we’re not we were born

telling you we’re not we were born

telling you we’re not we were born during the Great Depression we remember

during the Great Depression we remember

during the Great Depression we remember the first world of the sets out the

the first world of the sets out the

the first world of the sets out the first excuse me the Second World War I

first excuse me the Second World War I

first excuse me the Second World War I grew up listening to my father’s stories

grew up listening to my father’s stories

grew up listening to my father’s stories about his service in the First World War

about his service in the First World War

about his service in the First World War but we do remember the Second World War

but we do remember the Second World War

but we do remember the Second World War my mother used to say sister finish your

my mother used to say sister finish your

my mother used to say sister finish your plate think of all the starving children

plate think of all the starving children

plate think of all the starving children in Europe I hate to say that what’s

in Europe I hate to say that what’s

in Europe I hate to say that what’s happening in Syria and Africa today is

happening in Syria and Africa today is

happening in Syria and Africa today is not the first time that refugees were

not the first time that refugees were

not the first time that refugees were marching miles and starving we remember

marching miles and starving we remember

marching miles and starving we remember that we we went through the polio

that we we went through the polio

that we we went through the polio epidemic and got the first vaccines the

epidemic and got the first vaccines the

epidemic and got the first vaccines the experimental vaccines for it some of our

experimental vaccines for it some of our

experimental vaccines for it some of our classmates lost brothers and uncles in

classmates lost brothers and uncles in

classmates lost brothers and uncles in the Forgotten War talk about being

the Forgotten War talk about being

the Forgotten War talk about being invisible the war in Korea we integrated

invisible the war in Korea we integrated

invisible the war in Korea we integrated the schools and the buses and and the

the schools and the buses and and the

the schools and the buses and and the lunch counters in the train stations

lunch counters in the train stations

lunch counters in the train stations there’s a wonderful painting in the

there’s a wonderful painting in the

there’s a wonderful painting in the museum over here about a train station

museum over here about a train station

museum over here about a train station with the sign that said for colored and

with the sign that said for colored and

with the sign that said for colored and us white kids would go sit in the

us white kids would go sit in the

us white kids would go sit in the colored section

colored section

colored section raised Cain we we did we did we

raised Cain we we did we did we

raised Cain we we did we did we integrated we barely participated in

integrated we barely participated in

integrated we barely participated in those integration efforts and I’m going

those integration efforts and I’m going

those integration efforts and I’m going to degress from a script just a moment

to degress from a script just a moment

to degress from a script just a moment to share this with you my mother took me

to share this with you my mother took me

to share this with you my mother took me out of school one day in high school to

out of school one day in high school to

out of school one day in high school to go to federal court and observe when

go to federal court and observe when

go to federal court and observe when Thurgood Marshall represented the

Thurgood Marshall represented the

Thurgood Marshall represented the n-double-a-cp against the Dallas

n-double-a-cp against the Dallas

n-double-a-cp against the Dallas Independent School District yes

testified brilliantly and lost and 10

testified brilliantly and lost and 10 years 20 10 or 15 years later the

years 20 10 or 15 years later the

years 20 10 or 15 years later the superintendent of my school principal of

superintendent of my school principal of

superintendent of my school principal of my school had had made me serve a

my school had had made me serve a

my school had had made me serve a detention for an unexcused absence and

detention for an unexcused absence and

detention for an unexcused absence and my social studies teacher had given me

my social studies teacher had given me

my social studies teacher had given me extra credit for a paper I wrote in the

extra credit for a paper I wrote in the

extra credit for a paper I wrote in the detention hall and she was all right and

detention hall and she was all right and

detention hall and she was all right and then and then the principal got promoted

then and then the principal got promoted

then and then the principal got promoted to the district’s administration and was

to the district’s administration and was

to the district’s administration and was put in charge of integrating the schools

put in charge of integrating the schools

put in charge of integrating the schools 15 years later so that’s i just added

15 years later so that’s i just added

15 years later so that’s i just added that is because it’s such an important

that is because it’s such an important

that is because it’s such an important memory anyhow where was I so so we the

memory anyhow where was I so so we the

memory anyhow where was I so so we the problems in with refugees and starvation

problems in with refugees and starvation

problems in with refugees and starvation that was not new and neither is a

that was not new and neither is a

that was not new and neither is a recycling as we know it today but back

recycling as we know it today but back

recycling as we know it today but back then we called it salvaged for the war

then we called it salvaged for the war

then we called it salvaged for the war effort we don’t do that anymore do we

effort we don’t do that anymore do we

effort we don’t do that anymore do we and and there was something else we do a

and and there was something else we do a

and and there was something else we do a locally grown food today was called

locally grown food today was called

locally grown food today was called Victory Garden and there I am first in

Victory Garden and there I am first in

Victory Garden and there I am first in the country and then in the city in our

the country and then in the city in our

the country and then in the city in our Victory Garden I was kind of cute then

Victory Garden I was kind of cute then

Victory Garden I was kind of cute then one night

so we we integrated all those those

so we we integrated all those those venues and and and we’re still

venues and and and we’re still

venues and and and we’re still contributing members of society listen

contributing members of society listen

contributing members of society listen to what we remember the next time you

to what we remember the next time you

to what we remember the next time you need advice seek advice seek us yeah

need advice seek advice seek us yeah

need advice seek advice seek us yeah we’re not done yet but we are ignored

we’re not done yet but we are ignored

we’re not done yet but we are ignored the wonderful singers referred to that

the wonderful singers referred to that

the wonderful singers referred to that is invisible older people on campus are

is invisible older people on campus are

is invisible older people on campus are invisible we’re in we seem to be assumed

invisible we’re in we seem to be assumed

invisible we’re in we seem to be assumed to be demented and frail and useless and

to be demented and frail and useless and

to be demented and frail and useless and people seem to assume that we’re no

people seem to assume that we’re no

people seem to assume that we’re no longer contributing or competent even

longer contributing or competent even

longer contributing or competent even and they’re astonished when we aren’t

and they’re astonished when we aren’t

and they’re astonished when we aren’t what they assumed their astonishment

what they assumed their astonishment

what they assumed their astonishment based on their false assumptions is

based on their false assumptions is

based on their false assumptions is insulting why shouldn’t Kathryn buyers

insulting why shouldn’t Kathryn buyers

insulting why shouldn’t Kathryn buyers have finished the 2004 boston marathon

have finished the 2004 boston marathon

have finished the 2004 boston marathon at age 81 why shouldn’t root Ruth Bader

at age 81 why shouldn’t root Ruth Bader

at age 81 why shouldn’t root Ruth Bader Ginsburg sit on the US Supreme Court at

Ginsburg sit on the US Supreme Court at

Ginsburg sit on the US Supreme Court at 82

why shouldn’t I at age 76 embark on a

why shouldn’t I at age 76 embark on a doctorate degree and when people ask

doctorate degree and when people ask

doctorate degree and when people ask what do you want with another degree at

what do you want with another degree at

what do you want with another degree at your age I want a job that’s what I want

your age I want a job that’s what I want

your age I want a job that’s what I want [Applause]

[Applause]

[Applause] they’ll say my you don’t look that old

they’ll say my you don’t look that old

they’ll say my you don’t look that old [Music]

[Music]

[Music] well I’m not that old there’s the

well I’m not that old there’s the

well I’m not that old there’s the screensaver on my laptop I’m sweet 16

screensaver on my laptop I’m sweet 16

screensaver on my laptop I’m sweet 16 with 60 years experience you can see

with 60 years experience you can see

with 60 years experience you can see that real laptop after a while in the

that real laptop after a while in the

that real laptop after a while in the audience participation um that’s my

audience participation um that’s my

audience participation um that’s my that’s my brain it goes everywhere

that’s my brain it goes everywhere

that’s my brain it goes everywhere usually in a backpack it’s a great tool

usually in a backpack it’s a great tool

usually in a backpack it’s a great tool here’s another tool well here’s supposed

here’s another tool well here’s supposed

here’s another tool well here’s supposed to be another tool I built my own

to be another tool I built my own

to be another tool I built my own Victory Garden in my own backyard last

Victory Garden in my own backyard last

Victory Garden in my own backyard last winter have you ever tried to dig in our

winter have you ever tried to dig in our

winter have you ever tried to dig in our high desert caliche it’s not for wimps

high desert caliche it’s not for wimps

high desert caliche it’s not for wimps it takes a tool like this it’s awful to

it takes a tool like this it’s awful to

it takes a tool like this it’s awful to be considered inferior at some

be considered inferior at some

be considered inferior at some mysterious threshold that nobody agrees

mysterious threshold that nobody agrees

mysterious threshold that nobody agrees on anyway the EEO Commission says 40 ARP

on anyway the EEO Commission says 40 ARP

on anyway the EEO Commission says 40 ARP says 50 the Census Bureau says 65 kids

says 50 the Census Bureau says 65 kids

says 50 the Census Bureau says 65 kids say it’s anybody older than mom

say it’s anybody older than mom

say it’s anybody older than mom what do you think it is I think it’s

what do you think it is I think it’s

what do you think it is I think it’s when the individual says it is maybe

when the individual says it is maybe

when the individual says it is maybe when mobility and agility begin to

when mobility and agility begin to

when mobility and agility begin to decline which for some it never does i

decline which for some it never does i

decline which for some it never does i mean–the hadn’t tried to kill my mother

mean–the hadn’t tried to kill my mother

mean–the hadn’t tried to kill my mother twice she’d still be going what does

twice she’d still be going what does

twice she’d still be going what does elderly mean in some societies an elder

elderly mean in some societies an elder

elderly mean in some societies an elder is a person in authority with some some

is a person in authority with some some

is a person in authority with some some stature in the community treated with

stature in the community treated with

stature in the community treated with respect but not here mama was not

respect but not here mama was not

respect but not here mama was not elderly at 69 I’m not elderly at 70

elderly at 69 I’m not elderly at 70

elderly at 69 I’m not elderly at 70 whatever I am 77 I just had a birthday

whatever I am 77 I just had a birthday

whatever I am 77 I just had a birthday last week so I don’t know how old I am

last week so I don’t know how old I am

last week so I don’t know how old I am I’m sweet 16 with a bunch of years you

I’m sweet 16 with a bunch of years you

I’m sweet 16 with a bunch of years you and I working together could help those

and I working together could help those

and I working together could help those astonished people overcome their biases

astonished people overcome their biases

astonished people overcome their biases and assumptions let’s stop the

and assumptions let’s stop the

and assumptions let’s stop the stereotypes of this spectacular

stereotypes of this spectacular

stereotypes of this spectacular generation participate with us in the

generation participate with us in the

generation participate with us in the adventure of long years so don’t you

adventure of long years so don’t you

adventure of long years so don’t you think it’s time to get this chip off my

think it’s time to get this chip off my

think it’s time to get this chip off my shoulder

some of them oops this one says old

some of them oops this one says old people can’t learn well my professor is

people can’t learn well my professor is

people can’t learn well my professor is out there in the dark somewhere ask her

out there in the dark somewhere ask her

out there in the dark somewhere ask her if I can’t learn with my grade point

if I can’t learn with my grade point

if I can’t learn with my grade point average at 3.8 this one says hmm this

average at 3.8 this one says hmm this

average at 3.8 this one says hmm this one says old women aren’t interested in

one says old women aren’t interested in

one says old women aren’t interested in sex really wait till Robert Redford

sex really wait till Robert Redford

sex really wait till Robert Redford rings my doorbell

here you take them I’ve got a

here you take them I’ve got a dissertation to finish

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