today I would like to share my biggest discovery in life and that is the power
discovery in life and that is the power
discovery in life and that is the power of a Carlos moment and as you will soon
of a Carlos moment and as you will soon
of a Carlos moment and as you will soon realize I like to do things differently
realize I like to do things differently
realize I like to do things differently even today my talk I have never done it
even today my talk I have never done it
even today my talk I have never done it in this order or way before yeah so for
in this order or way before yeah so for
in this order or way before yeah so for today let’s start with yeah are there
today let’s start with yeah are there
today let’s start with yeah are there any questions and thank you for
any questions and thank you for
any questions and thank you for listening now let’s kick it off with a
listening now let’s kick it off with a
listening now let’s kick it off with a question for you what’s the difference
question for you what’s the difference
question for you what’s the difference these are our highway signs and the
these are our highway signs and the
these are our highway signs and the Netherlands and Belgium oh and I live in
Netherlands and Belgium oh and I live in
Netherlands and Belgium oh and I live in best I moved there a year ago I moved to
best I moved there a year ago I moved to
best I moved there a year ago I moved to best and I must say since then my
best and I must say since then my
best and I must say since then my international career really took off
yeah if you type in Google best public
yeah if you type in Google best public speaker
last year also wrote a book that is sold
last year also wrote a book that is sold in my hometown say bestseller
well the difference the difference is
well the difference the difference is 44% less traffic jams 44% less traffic
44% less traffic jams 44% less traffic
44% less traffic jams 44% less traffic the old and a new highway signs through
the old and a new highway signs through
the old and a new highway signs through the arrows down 67 years ago when
the arrows down 67 years ago when
the arrows down 67 years ago when aiwei’s were first introduced in the
aiwei’s were first introduced in the
aiwei’s were first introduced in the Netherlands we more or less place them
Netherlands we more or less place them
Netherlands we more or less place them above our highways in this manner it
above our highways in this manner it
above our highways in this manner it worked until one university student
asked why just a simple why and he must
asked why just a simple why and he must have thought Who am I to change
have thought Who am I to change
have thought Who am I to change something this big Who am I to change
something this big Who am I to change
something this big Who am I to change something that we’ve been doing the same
something that we’ve been doing the same
something that we’ve been doing the same way for so many years but he persevered
way for so many years but he persevered
way for so many years but he persevered he tested it and near a highway near
he tested it and near a highway near
he tested it and near a highway near Antwerp Belgium he measured the biggest
Antwerp Belgium he measured the biggest
Antwerp Belgium he measured the biggest difference 44 percent less traffic jams
difference 44 percent less traffic jams
difference 44 percent less traffic jams and that made me wonder if something so
and that made me wonder if something so
and that made me wonder if something so small can have such a big effect what if
small can have such a big effect what if
small can have such a big effect what if we in our lives make a small change
we in our lives make a small change
we in our lives make a small change maybe even choose to make a small change
maybe even choose to make a small change
maybe even choose to make a small change because my life has always always been
because my life has always always been
because my life has always always been busy there was always the next big thing
busy there was always the next big thing
busy there was always the next big thing waiting out there before me and it’s
waiting out there before me and it’s
waiting out there before me and it’s always been this way always if I go back
always been this way always if I go back
always been this way always if I go back it started early on I was good with
it started early on I was good with
it started early on I was good with numbers so I went to the University
numbers so I went to the University
numbers so I went to the University study international business and if you
study international business and if you
study international business and if you want to accomplish something in life
want to accomplish something in life
want to accomplish something in life you have to work hard it doesn’t come
you have to work hard it doesn’t come
you have to work hard it doesn’t come for free you have to work hard so next
for free you have to work hard so next
for free you have to work hard so next to my university studies I had three
to my university studies I had three
to my university studies I had three part-time jobs good for another 30 hours
part-time jobs good for another 30 hours
part-time jobs good for another 30 hours a week of a student association that was
a week of a student association that was
a week of a student association that was assistant to a Dutch parliament member I
assistant to a Dutch parliament member I
assistant to a Dutch parliament member I every year I went abroad for two months
every year I went abroad for two months
every year I went abroad for two months for some international experience and I
for some international experience and I
for some international experience and I don’t know if you can recognize this
don’t know if you can recognize this
don’t know if you can recognize this feeling but for me it felt like a God on
feeling but for me it felt like a God on
feeling but for me it felt like a God on a train I got on a train that started to
a train I got on a train that started to
a train I got on a train that started to race into the future and all of a sudden
race into the future and all of a sudden
race into the future and all of a sudden I was only racing racing Racing racing
the next station it’s not that
the next station it’s not that interesting nine ten stations into the
interesting nine ten stations into the
interesting nine ten stations into the future there it would be okay and there
future there it would be okay and there
future there it would be okay and there I could reap the fruits or the benefits
I could reap the fruits or the benefits
I could reap the fruits or the benefits of all my hard labor and hard work
of all my hard labor and hard work
of all my hard labor and hard work remains the hard work remained for the
remains the hard work remained for the
remains the hard work remained for the moment that I could enjoy more for me
moment that I could enjoy more for me
moment that I could enjoy more for me felt like ever out of reach the thing I
felt like ever out of reach the thing I
felt like ever out of reach the thing I miss most was just look outside the
miss most was just look outside the
miss most was just look outside the window look out the window and see and
window look out the window and see and
window look out the window and see and enjoy all those small beautiful moments
enjoy all those small beautiful moments
enjoy all those small beautiful moments that passed me by on a daily basis I
that passed me by on a daily basis I
that passed me by on a daily basis I didn’t see them anymore because my focus
didn’t see them anymore because my focus
didn’t see them anymore because my focus was there
I still know the day July 20th and was
I still know the day July 20th and was in holidays albufeira Portugal beautiful
in holidays albufeira Portugal beautiful
in holidays albufeira Portugal beautiful sunny day I walked into the cooler
sunny day I walked into the cooler
sunny day I walked into the cooler seawater and I just passed that ooh
seawater and I just passed that ooh
seawater and I just passed that ooh moment for men okay for the women too
moment for men okay for the women too
moment for men okay for the women too haha only you get it twice and I was
haha only you get it twice and I was
haha only you get it twice and I was standing in waist-high water and a big
standing in waist-high water and a big
standing in waist-high water and a big wave approached and it felt like that
wave approached and it felt like that
wave approached and it felt like that was my wave enthusiastically I dive into
was my wave enthusiastically I dive into
was my wave enthusiastically I dive into that wave I dive too steeply I hit my
that wave I dive too steeply I hit my
that wave I dive too steeply I hit my head against the ocean floor
head against the ocean floor
head against the ocean floor I hear crack I break my neck can’t move
I hear crack I break my neck can’t move
I hear crack I break my neck can’t move a single muscle in my entire body
a single muscle in my entire body
a single muscle in my entire body anymore I was floating with my face down
anymore I was floating with my face down
anymore I was floating with my face down into the water I could only wait there
into the water I could only wait there
into the water I could only wait there were thousands of people around me and
were thousands of people around me and
were thousands of people around me and still I was alone
and then when water entered my lungs and
and then when water entered my lungs and I had to say my goodbyes a second Whig
I had to say my goodbyes a second Whig
I had to say my goodbyes a second Whig wave approached that flipped me over
wave approached that flipped me over
wave approached that flipped me over onto my back and I could breathe again I
onto my back and I could breathe again I
onto my back and I could breathe again I got a second chance and then everything
got a second chance and then everything
got a second chance and then everything went really really quickly I wake up in
went really really quickly I wake up in
went really really quickly I wake up in a room I do not recognize I wake up in a
a room I do not recognize I wake up in a
a room I do not recognize I wake up in a body I don’t recognize in blind panic I
body I don’t recognize in blind panic I
body I don’t recognize in blind panic I scream out and nobody comes why not they
scream out and nobody comes why not they
scream out and nobody comes why not they were used to it
Portugal d’Ivoire quite a lot of diving
Portugal d’Ivoire quite a lot of diving accidents there and a diving victim is
accidents there and a diving victim is
accidents there and a diving victim is in panic and if you scream long and hard
in panic and if you scream long and hard
in panic and if you scream long and hard enough eventually someone comes I can
enough eventually someone comes I can
enough eventually someone comes I can hear footsteps entering the room
hear footsteps entering the room
hear footsteps entering the room and in the corner of my eye I can see
and in the corner of my eye I can see
and in the corner of my eye I can see someone neatly checking all the monitors
someone neatly checking all the monitors
someone neatly checking all the monitors beside me she turn around and also left
beside me she turn around and also left
beside me she turn around and also left the room
the room
the room and then there was Carlos Carlos the
and then there was Carlos Carlos the
and then there was Carlos Carlos the nurse you see in the picture behind me
nurse you see in the picture behind me
nurse you see in the picture behind me and this man changed my life he placed
and this man changed my life he placed
and this man changed my life he placed his hand on my shoulder on a part that I
his hand on my shoulder on a part that I
his hand on my shoulder on a part that I still had feeling and said it’s okay
that was everything that was needed just
that was everything that was needed just a warm hand on the shoulder it’s okay
a warm hand on the shoulder it’s okay
a warm hand on the shoulder it’s okay and it made me wonder if something so
and it made me wonder if something so
and it made me wonder if something so small can have such a big effect then we
small can have such a big effect then we
small can have such a big effect then we must all be capable of making a
must all be capable of making a
must all be capable of making a difference well what do you think that
difference well what do you think that
difference well what do you think that Carlos said when I told him what he
Carlos said when I told him what he
Carlos said when I told him what he meant to me ma it was just my job
meant to me ma it was just my job
meant to me ma it was just my job plus normal you would have done the same
plus normal you would have done the same
plus normal you would have done the same for me for something so small but later
for me for something so small but later
for me for something so small but later he also felt joy he felt realized by
he also felt joy he felt realized by
he also felt joy he felt realized by doing something small maybe even
doing something small maybe even
doing something small maybe even something that he considered part of his
something that he considered part of his
something that he considered part of his job he could add a lot of value to the
job he could add a lot of value to the
job he could add a lot of value to the life of someone else and I dare to ask
life of someone else and I dare to ask
life of someone else and I dare to ask the question how do you react how do you
the question how do you react how do you
the question how do you react how do you react when someone takes the time and
react when someone takes the time and
react when someone takes the time and the effort to thank you do you let it in
the effort to thank you do you let it in
the effort to thank you do you let it in would you push it away because the
would you push it away because the
would you push it away because the nerves who checked all the monitors just
nerves who checked all the monitors just
nerves who checked all the monitors just did a job and technically everything was
did a job and technically everything was
did a job and technically everything was perfect
perfect
perfect all the procedures all the protocols
all the procedures all the protocols
all the procedures all the protocols even the legal stuff everything was
even the legal stuff everything was
even the legal stuff everything was covered making a difference
covered making a difference
covered making a difference happens after the basics happens but
happens after the basics happens but
happens after the basics happens but what you do after you covered the
what you do after you covered the
what you do after you covered the technical stuff and for me it’s not the
technical stuff and for me it’s not the
technical stuff and for me it’s not the challenge to work even harder but maybe
challenge to work even harder but maybe
challenge to work even harder but maybe our biggest challenge is to take a step
our biggest challenge is to take a step
our biggest challenge is to take a step back which is quite difficult take a
back which is quite difficult take a
back which is quite difficult take a step back and do all the things that you
step back and do all the things that you
step back and do all the things that you already do which is so so many things
already do which is so so many things
already do which is so so many things and do that with a little bit more care
and now with everything I do I ask
and now with everything I do I ask myself the question so I just want to do
myself the question so I just want to do
myself the question so I just want to do a job which is sometimes fine or you can
a job which is sometimes fine or you can
a job which is sometimes fine or you can avoid a simple way make a difference by
avoid a simple way make a difference by
avoid a simple way make a difference by a simple way do something special and
a simple way do something special and
a simple way do something special and last year I had the presentation of my
last year I had the presentation of my
last year I had the presentation of my new book and believe me a book
new book and believe me a book
new book and believe me a book presentation the launch of a new book
presentation the launch of a new book
presentation the launch of a new book isn’t the most inspiring event of the
isn’t the most inspiring event of the
isn’t the most inspiring event of the year but I felt like this deserved
year but I felt like this deserved
year but I felt like this deserved something more so for the first time in
something more so for the first time in
something more so for the first time in 10 years
10 years
10 years I called to Portugal
I called to Portugal
I called to Portugal I called Carlos now asked him if he was
I called Carlos now asked him if he was
I called Carlos now asked him if he was willing to come to the Netherlands
half an hour later he had already booked
half an hour later he had already booked his flight and he was so nervous he
his flight and he was so nervous he
his flight and he was so nervous he worked on this beach for five months and
worked on this beach for five months and
worked on this beach for five months and he came up on stage and he he was
he came up on stage and he he was
he came up on stage and he he was shivering and I hello I’m Carlos from
shivering and I hello I’m Carlos from
shivering and I hello I’m Carlos from the book so I rolled up to him place my
the book so I rolled up to him place my
the book so I rolled up to him place my hand on his shoulder it’s okay and the
hand on his shoulder it’s okay and the
hand on his shoulder it’s okay and the connection that the two of us have is so
connection that the two of us have is so
connection that the two of us have is so dear to me maybe even the connection
dear to me maybe even the connection
dear to me maybe even the connection that we dare to have this picture was
that we dare to have this picture was
that we dare to have this picture was taken when he had to leave again and I
taken when he had to leave again and I
taken when he had to leave again and I will never forget what he told me in
will never forget what he told me in
will never forget what he told me in this moment yeah you always say that I
this moment yeah you always say that I
this moment yeah you always say that I changed your life you have to know that
changed your life you have to know that
changed your life you have to know that you change mine as well if you do
you change mine as well if you do
you change mine as well if you do something special for someone else not
something special for someone else not
something special for someone else not by working harder but maybe by working
by working harder but maybe by working
by working harder but maybe by working with a little bit more care it all comes
with a little bit more care it all comes
with a little bit more care it all comes back to you too
a Carlos moment goes both ways my only
a Carlos moment goes both ways my only wish for you is go and find your own
wish for you is go and find your own
wish for you is go and find your own Carlos moments let them in enjoy them
Carlos moments let them in enjoy them
Carlos moments let them in enjoy them share them celebrate them because
share them celebrate them because
share them celebrate them because they’re out there waiting just for you
thank you very much
thank you very much [Applause]
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