good evening everyone I know I signed up to give a TED talk but first I just want
to give a TED talk but first I just want
to give a TED talk but first I just want to ask a member of the audience out on a
to ask a member of the audience out on a
to ask a member of the audience out on a date
good evening are you doing awesome do
good evening are you doing awesome do you want to tell the audience what’s
you want to tell the audience what’s
you want to tell the audience what’s your name is I’m Caroline hi Caroline
your name is I’m Caroline hi Caroline
your name is I’m Caroline hi Caroline say hi Carolina go on Caroline I am a
say hi Carolina go on Caroline I am a
say hi Carolina go on Caroline I am a computer science major which means I
computer science major which means I
computer science major which means I have the prospect of making a decent
have the prospect of making a decent
have the prospect of making a decent living in the future I’m not very tall
living in the future I’m not very tall
living in the future I’m not very tall on five six but I’m great in country
on five six but I’m great in country
on five six but I’m great in country dancing my ideal date is a long bike
dancing my ideal date is a long bike
dancing my ideal date is a long bike ride along the river would you want to
ride along the river would you want to
ride along the river would you want to go out on a date with me sure yes guys
go out on a date with me sure yes guys
go out on a date with me sure yes guys give it up successful that is the second
give it up successful that is the second
give it up successful that is the second yes that I have ever got from a girl I
yes that I have ever got from a girl I
yes that I have ever got from a girl I came to Fort Worth Texas two and a half
came to Fort Worth Texas two and a half
came to Fort Worth Texas two and a half years ago from Vietnam to go to college
years ago from Vietnam to go to college
years ago from Vietnam to go to college before that I never had a chance to
before that I never had a chance to
before that I never had a chance to pursue dating because I grew up in a
pursue dating because I grew up in a
pursue dating because I grew up in a very conservative culture it was only
very conservative culture it was only
very conservative culture it was only after moving to a new country for
after moving to a new country for
after moving to a new country for college did I have the chance to pursue
college did I have the chance to pursue
college did I have the chance to pursue a romantic relationship I was excited
a romantic relationship I was excited
a romantic relationship I was excited ecstatic however I quickly found myself
ecstatic however I quickly found myself
ecstatic however I quickly found myself to be really bad at this dating game
to be really bad at this dating game
to be really bad at this dating game now I have to say new to the demographic
now I have to say new to the demographic
now I have to say new to the demographic characteristic of the school interracial
characteristic of the school interracial
characteristic of the school interracial relationship was my best option at the
relationship was my best option at the
relationship was my best option at the time we had a Vietnamese community at
time we had a Vietnamese community at
time we had a Vietnamese community at TCU sure but it’s so close in it I
TCU sure but it’s so close in it I
TCU sure but it’s so close in it I didn’t want to date anyone in that
didn’t want to date anyone in that
didn’t want to date anyone in that community because it would seem like
community because it would seem like
community because it would seem like dating my own sister and so an
dating my own sister and so an
dating my own sister and so an interracial romantic relationship what’s
interracial romantic relationship what’s
interracial romantic relationship what’s the only option I had and boy was I bad
the only option I had and boy was I bad
the only option I had and boy was I bad discouraged of course by this fact I
discouraged of course by this fact I
discouraged of course by this fact I also want to know why why I want to know
also want to know why why I want to know
also want to know why why I want to know whether it is because of my different
whether it is because of my different
whether it is because of my different ethnicity that cost me to be so bad and
ethnicity that cost me to be so bad and
ethnicity that cost me to be so bad and so on the weekend when people go out
so on the weekend when people go out
so on the weekend when people go out instead of going out and trying to step
instead of going out and trying to step
instead of going out and trying to step up the game in the dating world I hunch
up the game in the dating world I hunch
up the game in the dating world I hunch back on the computer looking up on study
back on the computer looking up on study
back on the computer looking up on study research and paper to try to understand
research and paper to try to understand
research and paper to try to understand why I’m so bad which is probably why I
why I’m so bad which is probably why I
why I’m so bad which is probably why I was bad in the first
however the results of those long
however the results of those long weekends paid off I learned a lot more
weekends paid off I learned a lot more
weekends paid off I learned a lot more about interracial relationship this
about interracial relationship this
about interracial relationship this topic is intriguing because it reveals
topic is intriguing because it reveals
topic is intriguing because it reveals so much about the racial relation and
so much about the racial relation and
so much about the racial relation and the racism the super sis in the American
the racism the super sis in the American
the racism the super sis in the American society nowadays now I really wanted to
society nowadays now I really wanted to
society nowadays now I really wanted to study international love with people of
study international love with people of
study international love with people of different nationality and sexual
different nationality and sexual
different nationality and sexual orientation but for the scope of this
orientation but for the scope of this
orientation but for the scope of this talk I’m just going to talk about the
talk I’m just going to talk about the
talk I’m just going to talk about the four big racial group in the US and hey
four big racial group in the US and hey
four big racial group in the US and hey real sexual relationship because I had
real sexual relationship because I had
real sexual relationship because I had the most information on that on that
the most information on that on that
the most information on that on that group according to Pew Research Center
group according to Pew Research Center
group according to Pew Research Center in 2010 roughly 50% of all the newly
in 2010 roughly 50% of all the newly
in 2010 roughly 50% of all the newly weds in the US were interracial that’s a
weds in the US were interracial that’s a
weds in the US were interracial that’s a big step up compared to all the
big step up compared to all the
big step up compared to all the marriages in which only 8.4 % were
marriages in which only 8.4 % were
marriages in which only 8.4 % were interracial now some people would say
interracial now some people would say
interracial now some people would say that’s not a big number the u.s. is
that’s not a big number the u.s. is
that’s not a big number the u.s. is considered the melting pot of the world
considered the melting pot of the world
considered the melting pot of the world and because of its diversity it’s the
and because of its diversity it’s the
and because of its diversity it’s the number should be higher right I would
number should be higher right I would
number should be higher right I would argue the opposite I would argue that
argue the opposite I would argue that
argue the opposite I would argue that interracial relationship in this country
interracial relationship in this country
interracial relationship in this country is still pretty hard and there are a few
is still pretty hard and there are a few
is still pretty hard and there are a few reasons for that the first reason its
reasons for that the first reason its
reasons for that the first reason its racial housing segregation this is a map
racial housing segregation this is a map
racial housing segregation this is a map of our neighbor city Dallas and it Maps
of our neighbor city Dallas and it Maps
of our neighbor city Dallas and it Maps the population as you can see each dot
the population as you can see each dot
the population as you can see each dot represents 120 people and each color
represents 120 people and each color
represents 120 people and each color represents one of the four big racial
represents one of the four big racial
represents one of the four big racial group all the dots of the same color
group all the dots of the same color
group all the dots of the same color tend to group up in the same
tend to group up in the same
tend to group up in the same neighborhood that’s natural
neighborhood that’s natural
neighborhood that’s natural we prefer to live among people who look
we prefer to live among people who look
we prefer to live among people who look like us we share our values and beliefs
like us we share our values and beliefs
like us we share our values and beliefs but what that does is that it prevents
but what that does is that it prevents
but what that does is that it prevents people from it prevent people from
people from it prevent people from
people from it prevent people from meeting people different farmers it’s
meeting people different farmers it’s
meeting people different farmers it’s hard for us to even have friends of a
hard for us to even have friends of a
hard for us to even have friends of a different race not measuring to start
different race not measuring to start
different race not measuring to start pursuing a romantic relationship with
pursuing a romantic relationship with
pursuing a romantic relationship with one the second reason is that there
one the second reason is that there
one the second reason is that there exists a hierarchy of racial
exists a hierarchy of racial
exists a hierarchy of racial attractiveness the online dating site
attractiveness the online dating site
attractiveness the online dating site OkCupid did a study in 2009 in which
OkCupid did a study in 2009 in which
OkCupid did a study in 2009 in which they asked the user base to rate
they asked the user base to rate
they asked the user base to rate potential candidate those candidates
potential candidate those candidates
potential candidate those candidates belong to before a big racial group they
belong to before a big racial group they
belong to before a big racial group they then put the results on to the table as
then put the results on to the table as
then put the results on to the table as you will see in the following slide
you will see in the following slide
you will see in the following slide signifies that the groups have been
signifies that the groups have been
signifies that the groups have been rated more favorably by the user base
rated more favorably by the user base
rated more favorably by the user base and red means that they have been rated
and red means that they have been rated
and red means that they have been rated more negatively as you can see here when
more negatively as you can see here when
more negatively as you can see here when man rated woman this is the result
man rated woman this is the result
man rated woman this is the result Asian and Latina woman performed the
Asian and Latina woman performed the
Asian and Latina woman performed the best being rated more favorably by all
best being rated more favorably by all
best being rated more favorably by all groups of men that is followed by white
groups of men that is followed by white
groups of men that is followed by white woman and black woman performed the
woman and black woman performed the
woman and black woman performed the worst being rated negatively by all
worst being rated negatively by all
worst being rated negatively by all groups of men when woman rated men the
groups of men when woman rated men the
groups of men when woman rated men the situation is a little bit different
situation is a little bit different
situation is a little bit different white men perform the best followed by
white men perform the best followed by
white men perform the best followed by Latino men followed by black men
Latino men followed by black men
Latino men followed by black men followed by Asian men now I do realize
followed by Asian men now I do realize
followed by Asian men now I do realize this is only one study performed on one
this is only one study performed on one
this is only one study performed on one online dating site okay cubit which you
online dating site okay cubit which you
online dating site okay cubit which you probably don’t even know that exists
probably don’t even know that exists
probably don’t even know that exists however if you were to look at the
however if you were to look at the
however if you were to look at the marriage rate between this group and
marriage rate between this group and
marriage rate between this group and this gender groups a similar pattern
this gender groups a similar pattern
this gender groups a similar pattern happens as you can see here the
happens as you can see here the
happens as you can see here the information is also from Pew Research
information is also from Pew Research
information is also from Pew Research Center according to the Center for
Center according to the Center for
Center according to the Center for whites and Latino both men and women
whites and Latino both men and women
whites and Latino both men and women marry out at the same rate when it comes
marry out at the same rate when it comes
marry out at the same rate when it comes to black though like men marry out way
to black though like men marry out way
to black though like men marry out way more often than do black women in
more often than do black women in
more often than do black women in portions the situation is reversed Asian
portions the situation is reversed Asian
portions the situation is reversed Asian woman marry out way more often than you
woman marry out way more often than you
woman marry out way more often than you Asian men there is no consensus as to
Asian men there is no consensus as to
Asian men there is no consensus as to why this is the situation and as to why
why this is the situation and as to why
why this is the situation and as to why it happens however if you were to look
it happens however if you were to look
it happens however if you were to look at the stereotype perpetuated in the
at the stereotype perpetuated in the
at the stereotype perpetuated in the media when it comes to dating you can
media when it comes to dating you can
media when it comes to dating you can kind of see why it’s a thing whites as
kind of see why it’s a thing whites as
kind of see why it’s a thing whites as seen as the standard think of all the
seen as the standard think of all the
seen as the standard think of all the top actors and actresses you know and
top actors and actresses you know and
top actors and actresses you know and most likely they’re white it’s easier to
most likely they’re white it’s easier to
most likely they’re white it’s easier to imagine yourself with a white person
imagine yourself with a white person
imagine yourself with a white person Latinos and latinas perform this in the
Latinos and latinas perform this in the
Latinos and latinas perform this in the dating world pretty well because they
dating world pretty well because they
dating world pretty well because they have the same Eurocentric SPF that’s
have the same Eurocentric SPF that’s
have the same Eurocentric SPF that’s white people do and they’re also serial
white people do and they’re also serial
white people do and they’re also serial type to be the passionate latin lover
type to be the passionate latin lover
type to be the passionate latin lover which adds value to them on the market
which adds value to them on the market
which adds value to them on the market black man despite being negatively rated
black man despite being negatively rated
black man despite being negatively rated on the OkCupid study also perform pretty
on the OkCupid study also perform pretty
on the OkCupid study also perform pretty well because they actually seen as more
well because they actually seen as more
well because they actually seen as more positive in the media they’re seen as
positive in the media they’re seen as
positive in the media they’re seen as more hyper masculine their large
more hyper masculine their large
more hyper masculine their large presence in sport will help them to
presence in sport will help them to
presence in sport will help them to create this perfect ideal image for men
create this perfect ideal image for men
create this perfect ideal image for men similarly
similarly
similarly woman fit the stereotype of a girlfriend
woman fit the stereotype of a girlfriend
woman fit the stereotype of a girlfriend in a traditional relationship
in a traditional relationship
in a traditional relationship she is stereotyped to be to have a small
she is stereotyped to be to have a small
she is stereotyped to be to have a small physique to be submissive obedient in a
physique to be submissive obedient in a
physique to be submissive obedient in a relationship and that is still something
relationship and that is still something
relationship and that is still something that is desirable in a relationship
that is desirable in a relationship
that is desirable in a relationship conversely like women and Asian men do
conversely like women and Asian men do
conversely like women and Asian men do not fit the stereotypes like well like
not fit the stereotypes like well like
not fit the stereotypes like well like women are serial type to be loud to be
women are serial type to be loud to be
women are serial type to be loud to be controlling to be demanding in a
controlling to be demanding in a
controlling to be demanding in a relationship and her beauty does not fit
relationship and her beauty does not fit
relationship and her beauty does not fit the Eurocentric beauty that we see
the Eurocentric beauty that we see
the Eurocentric beauty that we see because of her hair and because of her
because of her hair and because of her
because of her hair and because of her dark skin the Asian man man they’re not
dark skin the Asian man man they’re not
dark skin the Asian man man they’re not they’re emasculated so much it’s hard to
they’re emasculated so much it’s hard to
they’re emasculated so much it’s hard to even think of them as men
even think of them as men
even think of them as men there’s no stereotype for the sexy asian
there’s no stereotype for the sexy asian
there’s no stereotype for the sexy asian men no there’s only two stock characters
men no there’s only two stock characters
men no there’s only two stock characters and that’s the martial art it already
and that’s the martial art it already
and that’s the martial art it already artists who let’s not speak English and
artists who let’s not speak English and
artists who let’s not speak English and that’s the nerd who only speaks math and
that’s the nerd who only speaks math and
that’s the nerd who only speaks math and that is not sexy in the dating world at
that is not sexy in the dating world at
that is not sexy in the dating world at all and I don’t even want to talk about
all and I don’t even want to talk about
all and I don’t even want to talk about the small genitalia stereotype because
the small genitalia stereotype because
the small genitalia stereotype because it’s simply not true actually I got it
it’s simply not true actually I got it
it’s simply not true actually I got it wrong there’s one Asian man who was very
wrong there’s one Asian man who was very
wrong there’s one Asian man who was very successful needing a in dating a non
successful needing a in dating a non
successful needing a in dating a non Asian woman and he’s actually pretty
Asian woman and he’s actually pretty
Asian woman and he’s actually pretty white and there while he known I think
white and there while he known I think
white and there while he known I think you might know him and yes I’m talking
you might know him and yes I’m talking
you might know him and yes I’m talking about Glenn and Maggie from The Walking
about Glenn and Maggie from The Walking
about Glenn and Maggie from The Walking Dead yes for those who don’t know this
Dead yes for those who don’t know this
Dead yes for those who don’t know this is a show about a post-apocalyptic world
is a show about a post-apocalyptic world
is a show about a post-apocalyptic world in which zombies have overtaken the
in which zombies have overtaken the
in which zombies have overtaken the world it takes a deadly virus to turn
world it takes a deadly virus to turn
world it takes a deadly virus to turn the entire population into zombies for
the entire population into zombies for
the entire population into zombies for an Asian man to have a chance with a non
an Asian man to have a chance with a non
an Asian man to have a chance with a non Asian girl fun fact about myself in my
Asian girl fun fact about myself in my
Asian girl fun fact about myself in my free time I like to develop strains of
free time I like to develop strains of
free time I like to develop strains of deadly virus that can turn people with
deadly virus that can turn people with
deadly virus that can turn people with your questioning zombies because I might
your questioning zombies because I might
your questioning zombies because I might get desperate wonder one of the
get desperate wonder one of the
get desperate wonder one of the consequences of the hierarchy of racial
consequences of the hierarchy of racial
consequences of the hierarchy of racial attractiveness is that it leads to so
attractiveness is that it leads to so
attractiveness is that it leads to so the at least the social exchange in a
the at least the social exchange in a
the at least the social exchange in a relationship the theory of social
relationship the theory of social
relationship the theory of social exchange theory is that race in an
exchange theory is that race in an
exchange theory is that race in an interracial relationship is seen as a
interracial relationship is seen as a
interracial relationship is seen as a commodity just as attractiveness wealth
commodity just as attractiveness wealth
commodity just as attractiveness wealth or fame for example if a man of color
or fame for example if a man of color
or fame for example if a man of color wants to date a white woman he ought to
wants to date a white woman he ought to
wants to date a white woman he ought to be either way
be either way
be either way richer way more famous way more
richer way more famous way more
richer way more famous way more attractive or we’ll all be above than
attractive or we’ll all be above than
attractive or we’ll all be above than she is in order to justify the
she is in order to justify the
she is in order to justify the relationship I think the way of looking
relationship I think the way of looking
relationship I think the way of looking at the relationship like that is
at the relationship like that is
at the relationship like that is inhumane because it suggests that there
inhumane because it suggests that there
inhumane because it suggests that there is something wrong with the ethnicity
is something wrong with the ethnicity
is something wrong with the ethnicity you’re born with and that is a defect so
you’re born with and that is a defect so
you’re born with and that is a defect so I’m not yet to compensate with it with
I’m not yet to compensate with it with
I’m not yet to compensate with it with characteristic like money or fame
characteristic like money or fame
characteristic like money or fame externally an interracial couple might
externally an interracial couple might
externally an interracial couple might also face societal disapproval
also face societal disapproval
also face societal disapproval interracial relationship was illegal 50
interracial relationship was illegal 50
interracial relationship was illegal 50 years ago until a couple Richard and
years ago until a couple Richard and
years ago until a couple Richard and Mildred Loving sued the state of
Mildred Loving sued the state of
Mildred Loving sued the state of Virginia so that they can get married
Virginia so that they can get married
Virginia so that they can get married legally in a famous case Loving v
legally in a famous case Loving v
legally in a famous case Loving v Virginia they finally gained the right
Virginia they finally gained the right
Virginia they finally gained the right for interracial couples to get married
for interracial couples to get married
for interracial couples to get married but that was only fifty years ago now
but that was only fifty years ago now
but that was only fifty years ago now because it is illegal 50 years ago it’s
because it is illegal 50 years ago it’s
because it is illegal 50 years ago it’s still a taboo nowadays and it is not
still a taboo nowadays and it is not
still a taboo nowadays and it is not uncommon for interracial couples to get
uncommon for interracial couples to get
uncommon for interracial couples to get stares and to get criticism from society
stares and to get criticism from society
stares and to get criticism from society when they go out into the public sphere
when they go out into the public sphere
when they go out into the public sphere however not just the public they also
however not just the public they also
however not just the public they also face problem from the closest people
face problem from the closest people
face problem from the closest people their family in the same year that in
their family in the same year that in
their family in the same year that in the same theory of the case Loving v
the same theory of the case Loving v
the same theory of the case Loving v Virginia the movie guess who’s coming to
Virginia the movie guess who’s coming to
Virginia the movie guess who’s coming to dinner came out the movie is about a
dinner came out the movie is about a
dinner came out the movie is about a white woman bringing her black boyfriend
white woman bringing her black boyfriend
white woman bringing her black boyfriend back to her family and receiving a lot
back to her family and receiving a lot
back to her family and receiving a lot of disapproval from her family like I
of disapproval from her family like I
of disapproval from her family like I said it’s a taboo 50 years ago it’s
said it’s a taboo 50 years ago it’s
said it’s a taboo 50 years ago it’s still taboo nowadays people still have
still taboo nowadays people still have
still taboo nowadays people still have trouble with their family and how can I
trouble with their family and how can I
trouble with their family and how can I assert that it’s still a problem today
assert that it’s still a problem today
assert that it’s still a problem today there’s a weekly how entry on how to to
there’s a weekly how entry on how to to
there’s a weekly how entry on how to to introduce you’re part of different
introduce you’re part of different
introduce you’re part of different colors of your parents immediate needs
colors of your parents immediate needs
colors of your parents immediate needs as much instruction as how to roll a
as much instruction as how to roll a
as much instruction as how to roll a burrito or how to write an essay an hour
burrito or how to write an essay an hour
burrito or how to write an essay an hour before the deadline because that many
before the deadline because that many
before the deadline because that many people have trouble with it and that
people have trouble with it and that
people have trouble with it and that many people have instruction with it I
many people have instruction with it I
many people have instruction with it I would take a step back and say it makes
would take a step back and say it makes
would take a step back and say it makes sense though this come back to the first
sense though this come back to the first
sense though this come back to the first point of racial housing segregation we
point of racial housing segregation we
point of racial housing segregation we like to live with people who look like
like to live with people who look like
like to live with people who look like us we feel the most comfortable with
us we feel the most comfortable with
us we feel the most comfortable with people who are like in your family you
people who are like in your family you
people who are like in your family you kind of expect
kind of expect
kind of expect the people to be the same as you and so
the people to be the same as you and so
the people to be the same as you and so when you bring someone of a different
when you bring someone of a different
when you bring someone of a different race into the very intimate sphere that
race into the very intimate sphere that
race into the very intimate sphere that is your family it makes sense that will
is your family it makes sense that will
is your family it makes sense that will be some backlash and that your parents
be some backlash and that your parents
be some backlash and that your parents will not be very disapprove of the
will not be very disapprove of the
will not be very disapprove of the relationship so it makes sense but it
relationship so it makes sense but it
relationship so it makes sense but it adds strain and it makes it harder for
adds strain and it makes it harder for
adds strain and it makes it harder for interracial couples to make it it seems
interracial couples to make it it seems
interracial couples to make it it seems like interracial relationship is pretty
like interracial relationship is pretty
like interracial relationship is pretty hard regular relationship is already
hard regular relationship is already
hard regular relationship is already pretty hard right I think I never had
pretty hard right I think I never had
pretty hard right I think I never had one I don’t know but because it is so
one I don’t know but because it is so
one I don’t know but because it is so hard why bother adding another layer of
hard why bother adding another layer of
hard why bother adding another layer of difficulty to it why even bother to
difficulty to it why even bother to
difficulty to it why even bother to engage in one at all this is not a trick
engage in one at all this is not a trick
engage in one at all this is not a trick question by though I do have some pretty
question by though I do have some pretty
question by though I do have some pretty good answer I just asked Caroline now I
good answer I just asked Caroline now I
good answer I just asked Caroline now I don’t want to shoot myself look like and
don’t want to shoot myself look like and
don’t want to shoot myself look like and ruin my chance before the first day I do
ruin my chance before the first day I do
ruin my chance before the first day I do have good answer
have good answer
have good answer this way but I think it matters because
this way but I think it matters because
this way but I think it matters because it’s really hard to find someone to love
it’s really hard to find someone to love
it’s really hard to find someone to love it’s hard to find someone whom you care
it’s hard to find someone whom you care
it’s hard to find someone whom you care about whom understand you who want to
about whom understand you who want to
about whom understand you who want to spend time with you whom you enjoy being
spend time with you whom you enjoy being
spend time with you whom you enjoy being with and so if you do find a person like
with and so if you do find a person like
with and so if you do find a person like that even if you’re of a different race
that even if you’re of a different race
that even if you’re of a different race and that would bring problems hold on to
and that would bring problems hold on to
and that would bring problems hold on to that person because it’s well worth it
that person because it’s well worth it
that person because it’s well worth it it’s well worth it overcoming those
it’s well worth it overcoming those
it’s well worth it overcoming those problems because again it is hard to
problems because again it is hard to
problems because again it is hard to find someone to love the second reason
find someone to love the second reason
find someone to love the second reason is that an interracial relationship is a
is that an interracial relationship is a
is that an interracial relationship is a gateway to discover an entire new world
gateway to discover an entire new world
gateway to discover an entire new world in a regular relationship you only get
in a regular relationship you only get
in a regular relationship you only get to discover a person in an interracial
to discover a person in an interracial
to discover a person in an interracial one you discover an entire new world
one you discover an entire new world
one you discover an entire new world chances are if you don’t look alike you
chances are if you don’t look alike you
chances are if you don’t look alike you would have different cultures that
would have different cultures that
would have different cultures that different food that you need different
different food that you need different
different food that you need different celebration that your party different
celebration that your party different
celebration that your party different groups of friends that you hang out with
groups of friends that you hang out with
groups of friends that you hang out with different clothes that you wear
different clothes that you wear
different clothes that you wear different different ways that you do
different different ways that you do
different different ways that you do your hair and chances are if you don’t
your hair and chances are if you don’t
your hair and chances are if you don’t look alike you might have families from
look alike you might have families from
look alike you might have families from different parts of the country or in the
different parts of the country or in the
different parts of the country or in the world so that justify traveling which by
world so that justify traveling which by
world so that justify traveling which by the way Caroline that’s a picture of
the way Caroline that’s a picture of
the way Caroline that’s a picture of Donna Beach in Vietnam one of the most
Donna Beach in Vietnam one of the most
Donna Beach in Vietnam one of the most beautiful beaches on the planet
beautiful beaches on the planet
beautiful beaches on the planet so one of the perks of dating me will be
so one of the perks of dating me will be
so one of the perks of dating me will be the chance to visit that I need all the
the chance to visit that I need all the
the chance to visit that I need all the help I can get guys the final reason
help I can get guys the final reason
help I can get guys the final reason which I think is the most important is
which I think is the most important is
which I think is the most important is that it gives you the chance to see the
that it gives you the chance to see the
that it gives you the chance to see the world through a different lens this is
world through a different lens this is
world through a different lens this is the New York Times article about a white
the New York Times article about a white
the New York Times article about a white police officer in Baltimore a few days
police officer in Baltimore a few days
police officer in Baltimore a few days after the riot it’s it tells the story
after the riot it’s it tells the story
after the riot it’s it tells the story of mr. jannu who was the police officer
of mr. jannu who was the police officer
of mr. jannu who was the police officer in the Baltimore Police Department he
in the Baltimore Police Department he
in the Baltimore Police Department he has up like wife and together they have
has up like wife and together they have
has up like wife and together they have a biracial son he voices his concern
a biracial son he voices his concern
a biracial son he voices his concern about the conversation he will need to
about the conversation he will need to
about the conversation he will need to have with his son when his son grows up
have with his son when his son grows up
have with his son when his son grows up it’s not gonna be don’t break the law
it’s not gonna be don’t break the law
it’s not gonna be don’t break the law it’s going to be act as if you have
it’s going to be act as if you have
it’s going to be act as if you have already broken the law especially in
already broken the law especially in
already broken the law especially in front of the police that is something
front of the police that is something
front of the police that is something that mr. Jenner as a white gentleman
that mr. Jenner as a white gentleman
that mr. Jenner as a white gentleman would never have to think about had he
would never have to think about had he
would never have to think about had he had a white son if not thanks to his
had a white son if not thanks to his
had a white son if not thanks to his interracial relationship with his wife
interracial relationship with his wife
interracial relationship with his wife he will probably not understand what the
he will probably not understand what the
he will probably not understand what the youth that he see on the street every
youth that he see on the street every
youth that he see on the street every day how those people feel like and I
day how those people feel like and I
day how those people feel like and I think that is significant this is only
think that is significant this is only
think that is significant this is only one example but it tells why interracial
one example but it tells why interracial
one example but it tells why interracial relationship matters in that type of
relationship matters in that type of
relationship matters in that type of relationship you get to care for you get
relationship you get to care for you get
relationship you get to care for you get to understand you get to love the person
to understand you get to love the person
to understand you get to love the person so much that you strive to understand
so much that you strive to understand
so much that you strive to understand what they are feeling like you want to
what they are feeling like you want to
what they are feeling like you want to experience the pain that they get from
experience the pain that they get from
experience the pain that they get from being mistreated you want to understand
being mistreated you want to understand
being mistreated you want to understand why they’re mistreated they want to know
why they’re mistreated they want to know
why they’re mistreated they want to know why people treat them differently from
why people treat them differently from
why people treat them differently from you and I think that’s big it brings
you and I think that’s big it brings
you and I think that’s big it brings people together he gives you the feeling
people together he gives you the feeling
people together he gives you the feeling it gives you a glimpse of the world that
it gives you a glimpse of the world that
it gives you a glimpse of the world that they live in every day and he gives you
they live in every day and he gives you
they live in every day and he gives you the experience that their group of
the experience that their group of
the experience that their group of people might have experienced every day
people might have experienced every day
people might have experienced every day and that just make you more empathetic
and that just make you more empathetic
and that just make you more empathetic opens up your world makes your heart
opens up your world makes your heart
opens up your world makes your heart bigger now I can’t urge everyone here to
bigger now I can’t urge everyone here to
bigger now I can’t urge everyone here to start dating into racially that’s not
start dating into racially that’s not
start dating into racially that’s not how love works that’s not how you should
how love works that’s not how you should
how love works that’s not how you should approach it if you’re simply dating a
approach it if you’re simply dating a
approach it if you’re simply dating a person if another color because you want
person if another color because you want
person if another color because you want to make a political statement please
to make a political statement please
to make a political statement please don’t because understand that your
don’t because understand that your
don’t because understand that your tokenizing the person
tokenizing the person
tokenizing the person you’re reducing them to a few
you’re reducing them to a few
you’re reducing them to a few characteristic and you want their race
characteristic and you want their race
characteristic and you want their race as something that’s unnecessary and that
as something that’s unnecessary and that
as something that’s unnecessary and that is very painful so please don’t
is very painful so please don’t
is very painful so please don’t again love has to start from you sharing
again love has to start from you sharing
again love has to start from you sharing some commonalities from you enjoying
some commonalities from you enjoying
some commonalities from you enjoying being together from you trying to
being together from you trying to
being together from you trying to understand each other it’s just that if
understand each other it’s just that if
understand each other it’s just that if you do have a person like that and that
you do have a person like that and that
you do have a person like that and that person happens to be of a different race
person happens to be of a different race
person happens to be of a different race know that there’ll be difficulties in
know that there’ll be difficulties in
know that there’ll be difficulties in dating the person you have clash in the
dating the person you have clash in the
dating the person you have clash in the culture that that you enjoy people will
culture that that you enjoy people will
culture that that you enjoy people will look at you your family might be might
look at you your family might be might
look at you your family might be might be disapproval but it’s worth it because
be disapproval but it’s worth it because
be disapproval but it’s worth it because there’s a chance to learn more about the
there’s a chance to learn more about the
there’s a chance to learn more about the world to explore yourself to learn how
world to explore yourself to learn how
world to explore yourself to learn how to communicate and for those who have
to communicate and for those who have
to communicate and for those who have already been in a relationship or may be
already been in a relationship or may be
already been in a relationship or may be too young to be in one you can always
too young to be in one you can always
too young to be in one you can always learn from interracial couples learn how
learn from interracial couples learn how
learn from interracial couples learn how they talk about the differences learn
they talk about the differences learn
they talk about the differences learn how they love each other not because not
how they love each other not because not
how they love each other not because not simply because they are like that
simply because they are like that
simply because they are like that because they are different and they
because they are different and they
because they are different and they treasure that kind of difference now I
treasure that kind of difference now I
treasure that kind of difference now I would love to stay and talk to you guys
would love to stay and talk to you guys
would love to stay and talk to you guys more about the topic but I think I have
more about the topic but I think I have
more about the topic but I think I have a date to go on thank you
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