There is a difference between something you do
And something he does on your behalf.
My phone rings at 2 PM: It’s Mike.
“Irene contractions begin every three to five minutes,
We are ready to go to the hospital. “
I hasten to meet them,
To get the date exactly to generate Irene.
The room is crowded with nurses,
Irene stands by the hospital bed, holding my hand.
It takes the trouble of contractions.
After constipation stopped,
Irene has enough time to whisper in my ear,
“Ashley, I do not know if I can do this,” he said.
(Laughter)
Before the next contraction comes.
I held her head gently with both hands,
And look in her eyes directly and say:
“You are already doing this.
I and Mike are here beside you, we both know you will succeed. “
In the past six years,
I have had the most pleasure and I have seen more than 100 births.
I am a doctor, but I am not a medical doctor.
I am a behavioral psychologist.
A very passionate supportive child is studying the behavior of childbirth.
You may wonder, “What does the supportive generator mean?”
You are not alone in this question.
The supporting generator is a generating specialist
Provide physical and psychological support for women.
Either at home or in the hospital.
Unfortunately, only 5 percent of US women use the supportive generator today.
So join me for some time on a journey to make a human being.
The pregnancy is miraculous.
Passionate and spiritual.
The woman’s body grows and changes,
They eat whatever ice cream they do without feeling ashamed.
(Laughter)
Something absolutely stunning
To know the body of a woman how to develop a child.
But somehow when it comes to having that child,
Our society does not trust women.
But we insist that an expert takes charge and gives birth to a child.
why is that?
Women historically gave birth to squatting,
They are surrounded by other women.
Birth is not easy, it has never been, but women have been well supported.
They would move, eat, drink, dance and sway
And remain in existing positions.
But most of all, trust their intuition.
Be aware of how to survive.
Midwives or medical obstetricians,
Supervised almost all births.
Reproduction usually takes place in the home environment.
So what has changed and why is it important?
Let us consider this question: “Who is your child’s child?”
A seemingly innocuous question is generally posed to women.
A person other than the woman herself has given birth to her child.
Think about it for a moment.
The power of birth was taken away from women,
Disagree her intuition.
Her birth experience was put in the hands of a medical team.
Of course, when we ask why the birth practices evolve over time
The simple answer is safety.
I always hear this sentence,
“Most important of all is a healthy mother and a healthy child.”
A healthy mother and a healthy child.
But what exactly do we mean by “sound”?
Birth is not only physical,
But is a psychological far-reaching for all who have a relationship.
Suppose you may not remember
Your first day in your current job.
You may not remember until the day you graduated from high school.
But for mothers and fathers,
You will always remember the day your child was born without a doubt.
You will remember it in detail.
Suppose also that everything in nature has a goal.
When we interfere with a woman’s ability to have her child,
As if we might intervene
With their ability and confidence to raise that child.
So when we ask ourselves: “What is the most important thing in birth?”
We must not only think about physical, but also psychological.
Let me go back and share the rest of the story of Irene and Mike’s birth.
When I first met them,
We were sitting around a table in a cafe.
“Tell me why you want to hire a supportive generator,” she said.
Irene looked at me shyly and said:
“I want to have a better birth experience than my previous experiences.”
When I got into talking I soon learned
She had wanted her two children to have a natural birth.
On both occasions she went to the hospital and was forced to lie down in bed against her will,
No other option was given for support or pain relief.
With no options available, Irene did not feel she could skip the process.
Neither the first time nor the second.
At both times, I was left discouraged.
And frustrating,
And resentment.
As many women say with regret,
The word “shocking” was used to describe her birth.
Irene’s husband explained this after her birth.
Irene suffered from severe postpartum depression.
He could not bear to see his wife suffer again.
I wanted to do it differently this time.
With a quick leap beyond five months:
As the hardware surrounds them,
Nurses enter and exit the hospital room quickly.
“Ashley, I do not know if I can do it.”
Irene cries softly now and her body trembles.
I know the look of despair that is the best knowledge and I know it means that it came very close.
“You are already doing this.
I and Mike are here beside you, we both know you will succeed. “
After no more than ten minutes, Irene felt very motivated to pay.
Irene stands on the edge of the narrow hospital bed.
While I stand directly opposite her at the other end.
Irene extends her arms around my neck, hugging her body and hugging her.
She buried her face in my shoulder.
With the help of gravity and only two strong drives,
Irene gives birth to her child to lay down her hands
To her loving husband and met by the nurse.
Who were standing beside them, waiting patiently.
He passes the baby to Irene and is placed on the bed in front of her.
“Oh my God, I did it.”
“It’s male!
I did!”
When I spoke with Irene after the birth,
The only word I found to describe the experience was that it was “perfect”.
Following the two previous traumatic birth cases,
And severe postpartum depression,
These two married couples have given birth to their baby as they wished.
As in the case of Irene and Mike, it is not strange from a family that tells me,
“What I would do for you,”
But in fact, Irene did the whole thing.
All I did was direct my body and myself.
Yes, Ali rubbed her back, and postponed, to Ali held her hand.
But honestly, my most prominent role was the quiet presence,
Reminding her of her ability to have a child.
Wild animals breed their children all the time.
Imagine a female elephant giving birth.
Female elephant looking for shelter and support away from unknown animals.
In this protected environment, the animal allows its body to give birth,
As would any other functional process.
We can say that they know instinctively what to do.
Now imagine that we take that pregnant elephant
We treat them as we treat humans during childbirth.
The elephant comes labor, and is asked to go to the hospital,
(Laughter)
She is asked to lie on her back in a birthing bed,
And have a catheterized fluid,
And connect the device to monitor the contractions of her abdomen,
The nurses are trained to take blood samples and conduct cervical tests.
This sounds funny and very strange
When I imagine a villa being examined for my neck.
But that’s exactly how 95 percent of women in the United States give birth today.
Because the routine practices of the medical model
Interfere in this natural process.
These elephant females are most likely to need epidural anesthesia.
Because she can not move to help her body feel comfortable;
Birth-promoting drugs such as betocin,
Because the female elephant is full of adrenaline caused by the hit-and-run intervention
By the natural production of oxytocin, or the birth hormone.
A possible surgery to have a small baby,
Because she no longer physically feels her body, which prevents her from paying.
Now I know that we are talking about elephants,
And they may not be the perfect metaphor for humans,
But imagine if a man had coincided and met Phil on the mainland.
This man will often retreat and observe quietly,
And will intervene only when absolutely necessary.
So I ask you, should not we treat humans differently?
Because the medical model takes the delivery approach as a satisfactory condition
Something needs medical treatment.
Couples rely on medical expertise to have children.
The doctor becomes the final command.
The natural process is tampered with.
Women do not trust their bodies, and couples enter without preparation.
Doctors produce babies instead of their mothers.
Think about this:
Women are required to spend nine months without eating certain food chemicals
Without taking medication.
But somehow, in the final moments of having a child,
It is okay to be given a woman routinely
A surplus of severe painkillers and industrial hormones,
Which have significant side effects on the mother and baby.
A series of these medical behaviors in the United States
Has contributed to a significant increase
For the number of cesarean deliveries in our country.
Even worse, maternal mortality is on the rise,
It is one of the highest rates among all developing countries.
If we want to improve our maternal practices,
We must put an end to excessive dependence on medicine at birth.
Women should be educated
That there are other options for pain relief,
Rather than routine use of epidural anesthesia.
Strategies supported by narcotic pain relief and enhanced adaptation at birth
Such as motion,
Massage,
Meditation,
Water treatment,
Should be systematically applied and supported in hospitals.
Medical intervention should be left to the time of necessity.
Finally, we have to change our society’s view of birth.
Childbirth should not be seen as a dance between mother and child,
Requires movement and an environment that supports this pattern of behavior.
Imagine what childbirth can be if we look at it
From the perspective of achievement and empowerment,
Instead of seeing it as pain and suffering requires treatment.
So, how important is all this?
My intention today is not to convince you
That doctors are bad or that hospitals are scary,
Because we all know that modern medicine saves lives during childbirth without a doubt.
My intention today is not to convince you of a normal birth
Because I firmly believe that women should have the right to choose.
My intention today is to share the idea that birth is important,
Physically and psychologically.
We should encourage women to have active participation in their birth.
Whether a woman gave birth to her child through a caesarean section,
Or by anesthesia or without anesthesia,
You should stay away from the experience as Irene has just said “I did it!”
I had a good chance to study about birth in the United States and abroad.
I am here today to tell you that we can provide a safe birth,
Under medical direction,
And raise better mothers and children.
In the United States alone, more than 10,000 women will give birth today.
Let me ask you a question:
Who should be born?
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