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when I found out I was pregnant for the

when I found out I was pregnant for the first time I freaked the out it was

first time I freaked the out it was

first time I freaked the out it was 2009 and the economy was in serious

2009 and the economy was in serious

2009 and the economy was in serious meltdown I just lost my job at the art

meltdown I just lost my job at the art

meltdown I just lost my job at the art restoration firm where I worked in

restoration firm where I worked in

restoration firm where I worked in Chicago and no one was hiring especially

Chicago and no one was hiring especially

Chicago and no one was hiring especially not a pregnant woman so just like that I

not a pregnant woman so just like that I

not a pregnant woman so just like that I went from a 20-somethings cool City

went from a 20-somethings cool City

went from a 20-somethings cool City lifestyle to stay at home mom now at the

lifestyle to stay at home mom now at the

lifestyle to stay at home mom now at the time when I thought of stay-at-home moms

time when I thought of stay-at-home moms

time when I thought of stay-at-home moms I did not think of myself TV and the

I did not think of myself TV and the

I did not think of myself TV and the internet had me picturing this drab

internet had me picturing this drab

internet had me picturing this drab middle-aged women taking care of

middle-aged women taking care of

middle-aged women taking care of everyone else at her own expense it

everyone else at her own expense it

everyone else at her own expense it turned out I loved being a mom but I was

turned out I loved being a mom but I was

turned out I loved being a mom but I was having a really hard time pushing my

having a really hard time pushing my

having a really hard time pushing my hard edge loudmouth identity into this

hard edge loudmouth identity into this

hard edge loudmouth identity into this quiet selfless motherhood mold and I

quiet selfless motherhood mold and I

quiet selfless motherhood mold and I felt like I was losing myself as a

felt like I was losing myself as a

felt like I was losing myself as a person because the thing is moms aren’t

person because the thing is moms aren’t

person because the thing is moms aren’t cool mom jeans yo mama jokes it’s a

cool mom jeans yo mama jokes it’s a

cool mom jeans yo mama jokes it’s a thing and I really liked feeling cool I

thing and I really liked feeling cool I

thing and I really liked feeling cool I missed feeling cool now that I was a mom

missed feeling cool now that I was a mom

missed feeling cool now that I was a mom and I just kept wondering how did this

and I just kept wondering how did this

and I just kept wondering how did this happen how did I go from cool to uncool

happen how did I go from cool to uncool

happen how did I go from cool to uncool just by squeezing a baby out of my

just by squeezing a baby out of my

just by squeezing a baby out of my vagina giving birth was seriously the

vagina giving birth was seriously the

vagina giving birth was seriously the most intense thing I’ve ever done in my

most intense thing I’ve ever done in my

most intense thing I’ve ever done in my life through the miracle of my glorious

life through the miracle of my glorious

life through the miracle of my glorious female reproductive organs i created

female reproductive organs i created

female reproductive organs i created this unique special person and through

this unique special person and through

this unique special person and through the majestic power of my mom body I

the majestic power of my mom body I

the majestic power of my mom body I pushed this massive object through a

pushed this massive object through a

pushed this massive object through a very small hole to give birth to new

very small hole to give birth to new

very small hole to give birth to new life that’s pretty cool my baby

life that’s pretty cool my baby

life that’s pretty cool my baby was rad and watching her girl fat and

was rad and watching her girl fat and

was rad and watching her girl fat and chubby for my breast milk made me feel

chubby for my breast milk made me feel

chubby for my breast milk made me feel kick ass and powerful so why was I

kick ass and powerful so why was I

kick ass and powerful so why was I feeling so deeply on

feeling so deeply on

feeling so deeply on all I looked in the mirror and my

all I looked in the mirror and my

all I looked in the mirror and my reflection peered back at me exhausted

reflection peered back at me exhausted

reflection peered back at me exhausted baggy eyes bloated postpartum tummy and

baggy eyes bloated postpartum tummy and

baggy eyes bloated postpartum tummy and wearing this hideous drapey pastel knit

wearing this hideous drapey pastel knit

wearing this hideous drapey pastel knit dress why was I wearing this dress it’s

dress why was I wearing this dress it’s

dress why was I wearing this dress it’s cuz it was the only thing I could find

cuz it was the only thing I could find

cuz it was the only thing I could find that was easy to breastfeed in I mean I

that was easy to breastfeed in I mean I

that was easy to breastfeed in I mean I just had a baby of course I’m going to

just had a baby of course I’m going to

just had a baby of course I’m going to be ugly I shouldn’t care what I look

be ugly I shouldn’t care what I look

be ugly I shouldn’t care what I look like right when it came to mamang I felt

like right when it came to mamang I felt

like right when it came to mamang I felt on point but when it came to me I just

on point but when it came to me I just

on point but when it came to me I just kept wondering where did that confident

kept wondering where did that confident

kept wondering where did that confident person go who is this frumpy mom looking

person go who is this frumpy mom looking

person go who is this frumpy mom looking back in the mirror at me this is not

back in the mirror at me this is not

back in the mirror at me this is not okay we live in a world where as a woman

okay we live in a world where as a woman

okay we live in a world where as a woman you’re told from the time you’re young

you’re told from the time you’re young

you’re told from the time you’re young that you’re worth lies and how

that you’re worth lies and how

that you’re worth lies and how attractive you are two men and once you

attractive you are two men and once you

attractive you are two men and once you have a baby the cultural messaging is

have a baby the cultural messaging is

have a baby the cultural messaging is you’re done used up you look like

you’re done used up you look like

you’re done used up you look like and you’re not cool anymore here’s some

and you’re not cool anymore here’s some

and you’re not cool anymore here’s some frumpy clothes go hide yourself at home

frumpy clothes go hide yourself at home

frumpy clothes go hide yourself at home and don’t come out again until you’re

and don’t come out again until you’re

and don’t come out again until you’re done breastfeeding cuz that’s gross and

done breastfeeding cuz that’s gross and

done breastfeeding cuz that’s gross and you lose some weight cuz you’re fat this

you lose some weight cuz you’re fat this

you lose some weight cuz you’re fat this is total giving birth is an

is total giving birth is an

is total giving birth is an amazing journey if I had just climbed

amazing journey if I had just climbed

amazing journey if I had just climbed Mount Everest and lost a few fingers

Mount Everest and lost a few fingers

Mount Everest and lost a few fingers everybody would think that’s Totally Rad

everybody would think that’s Totally Rad

everybody would think that’s Totally Rad so why are my stretch marks my extra

so why are my stretch marks my extra

so why are my stretch marks my extra pounds and my postpartum fatigue

pounds and my postpartum fatigue

pounds and my postpartum fatigue something to be ashamed of oh sure I can

something to be ashamed of oh sure I can

something to be ashamed of oh sure I can hear you saying it takes actual skill to

hear you saying it takes actual skill to

hear you saying it takes actual skill to climb Mount Everest but anyone can give

climb Mount Everest but anyone can give

climb Mount Everest but anyone can give birth actually no that’s not true not

birth actually no that’s not true not

birth actually no that’s not true not anyone only half the human population

anyone only half the human population

anyone only half the human population can give birth

can give birth

can give birth and coincidentally it’s the half that

and coincidentally it’s the half that

and coincidentally it’s the half that can’t who have the loudest voice and

can’t who have the loudest voice and

can’t who have the loudest voice and female cultural beauty norms to me my

female cultural beauty norms to me my

female cultural beauty norms to me my postpartum body represented the beauty

postpartum body represented the beauty

postpartum body represented the beauty and the power of my motherhood the fat

and the power of my motherhood the fat

and the power of my motherhood the fat in my tummy provided the nutrients for

in my tummy provided the nutrients for

in my tummy provided the nutrients for my breast milk and my stretch marks

my breast milk and my stretch marks

my breast milk and my stretch marks which I still have today are the

which I still have today are the

which I still have today are the souvenir I got from the most incredible

souvenir I got from the most incredible

souvenir I got from the most incredible experience of my life so back to me

experience of my life so back to me

experience of my life so back to me looking in the mirror there I am feeling

looking in the mirror there I am feeling

looking in the mirror there I am feeling awesome and powerful but not looking

awesome and powerful but not looking

awesome and powerful but not looking like it at all I wanted clothes that

like it at all I wanted clothes that

like it at all I wanted clothes that would help me represent how cool

would help me represent how cool

would help me represent how cool motherhood and breastfeeding really are

motherhood and breastfeeding really are

motherhood and breastfeeding really are I was just learning to sew at the time

I was just learning to sew at the time

I was just learning to sew at the time so I made myself a dress which matched

so I made myself a dress which matched

so I made myself a dress which matched my edgy punk-rock aesthetic and I

my edgy punk-rock aesthetic and I

my edgy punk-rock aesthetic and I included zippers along the bust for easy

included zippers along the bust for easy

included zippers along the bust for easy breastfeeding access wearing it made me

breastfeeding access wearing it made me

breastfeeding access wearing it made me feel badass and smart as how that I

feel badass and smart as how that I

feel badass and smart as how that I could easily integrate breastfeeding

could easily integrate breastfeeding

could easily integrate breastfeeding into my life while still maintaining

into my life while still maintaining

into my life while still maintaining hard-edged loudmouth me I wanted to

hard-edged loudmouth me I wanted to

hard-edged loudmouth me I wanted to empower other women to embrace the

empower other women to embrace the

empower other women to embrace the awesomeness of their postpartum selves

awesomeness of their postpartum selves

awesomeness of their postpartum selves to I taught myself fashion design and i

to I taught myself fashion design and i

to I taught myself fashion design and i launched my company leche Libre to

launched my company leche Libre to

launched my company leche Libre to create clothing for mamas so they can

create clothing for mamas so they can

create clothing for mamas so they can easily and confidently breastfeed in

easily and confidently breastfeed in

easily and confidently breastfeed in total style without losing their edge if

total style without losing their edge if

total style without losing their edge if women feel beautiful in my clothes

women feel beautiful in my clothes

women feel beautiful in my clothes that’s awesome but my main goal is to

that’s awesome but my main goal is to

that’s awesome but my main goal is to make them feel powerful it is not okay

make them feel powerful it is not okay

make them feel powerful it is not okay for any woman or mother to be made to

for any woman or mother to be made to

for any woman or mother to be made to feel ashamed of their body or uncool

feel ashamed of their body or uncool

feel ashamed of their body or uncool after doing the most powerful thing a

after doing the most powerful thing a

after doing the most powerful thing a human being can do and we all need to

human being can do and we all need to

human being can do and we all need to put our middle fingers up against any

put our middle fingers up against any

put our middle fingers up against any cultural judgments which limit our

cultural judgments which limit our

cultural judgments which limit our abilities to love ourselves and it’s not

abilities to love ourselves and it’s not

abilities to love ourselves and it’s not the mom jeans which bug me I love mom

the mom jeans which bug me I love mom

the mom jeans which bug me I love mom jeans what bugs me is the fact that the

jeans what bugs me is the fact that the

jeans what bugs me is the fact that the term has come to represent this idea of

term has come to represent this idea of

term has come to represent this idea of being middle-aged and giving up on how

being middle-aged and giving up on how

being middle-aged and giving up on how you

you

you look I see a new generation of women who

look I see a new generation of women who

look I see a new generation of women who are rejecting the idea that how we look

are rejecting the idea that how we look

are rejecting the idea that how we look will be defined by the desires of others

will be defined by the desires of others

will be defined by the desires of others a generation of moms who own our

a generation of moms who own our

a generation of moms who own our and love our bodies no matter what our

and love our bodies no matter what our

and love our bodies no matter what our age or size we dress for how we want and

age or size we dress for how we want and

age or size we dress for how we want and we need our clothing to be functional

we need our clothing to be functional

we need our clothing to be functional for being stylish dynamic women and

for being stylish dynamic women and

for being stylish dynamic women and loving nurturing moms at the same time

loving nurturing moms at the same time

loving nurturing moms at the same time so I say it’s about time that we reject

so I say it’s about time that we reject

so I say it’s about time that we reject this idea that women moms aren’t cool

this idea that women moms aren’t cool

this idea that women moms aren’t cool because we’re no longer as sexy as we

because we’re no longer as sexy as we

because we’re no longer as sexy as we were before and it’s about time that we

were before and it’s about time that we

were before and it’s about time that we rebrand motherhood as cool because we’ve

rebrand motherhood as cool because we’ve

rebrand motherhood as cool because we’ve gone through an amazing birthday and

gone through an amazing birthday and

gone through an amazing birthday and we’re proud of it so next time

we’re proud of it so next time

we’re proud of it so next time you hear anything that makes you feel

you hear anything that makes you feel

you hear anything that makes you feel bad about how you look just ignore that

bad about how you look just ignore that

bad about how you look just ignore that because your stretch marks are not

because your stretch marks are not

because your stretch marks are not what impede your cool they’re what

what impede your cool they’re what

what impede your cool they’re what define it

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[Music]

[Music] [Applause]

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you

you [Music]

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