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[Applause]

[Applause] two weeks ago I met Yahweh he spoke to

two weeks ago I met Yahweh he spoke to

two weeks ago I met Yahweh he spoke to me I looked at his face and if you know

me I looked at his face and if you know

me I looked at his face and if you know your old testament you know Yahweh means

your old testament you know Yahweh means

your old testament you know Yahweh means God the great I am you’re not supposed

God the great I am you’re not supposed

God the great I am you’re not supposed to be able to look at him and live well

to be able to look at him and live well

to be able to look at him and live well i did and i’m here to talk about it

i did and i’m here to talk about it

i did and i’m here to talk about it because Yahweh lives in Haiti he has a

because Yahweh lives in Haiti he has a

because Yahweh lives in Haiti he has a wonderful huge smile he’s the gardener

wonderful huge smile he’s the gardener

wonderful huge smile he’s the gardener at the guest house where I building

at the guest house where I building

at the guest house where I building goodness foundation volunteers today

goodness foundation volunteers today

goodness foundation volunteers today when they go to the area of leg on I was

when they go to the area of leg on I was

when they go to the area of leg on I was down there last week checking out

down there last week checking out

down there last week checking out housing after Hurricane Matthew this is

housing after Hurricane Matthew this is

housing after Hurricane Matthew this is a typical teek hai a small house that

a typical teek hai a small house that

a typical teek hai a small house that building good foundation has built seven

building good foundation has built seven

building good foundation has built seven hundred of them I’m very very pleased to

hundred of them I’m very very pleased to

hundred of them I’m very very pleased to say that our ruse did well houses

say that our ruse did well houses

say that our ruse did well houses survived not so much the neighbors these

survived not so much the neighbors these

survived not so much the neighbors these are temporary shelters that still people

are temporary shelters that still people

are temporary shelters that still people are living in six years after the

are living in six years after the

are living in six years after the earthquake in 2010 some of my friends

earthquake in 2010 some of my friends

earthquake in 2010 some of my friends who are not religious use the word about

who are not religious use the word about

who are not religious use the word about an earthquake and a hurricane in a

an earthquake and a hurricane in a

an earthquake and a hurricane in a hurricane as apocalyptic I’m not afraid

hurricane as apocalyptic I’m not afraid

hurricane as apocalyptic I’m not afraid of theological language I come from a

of theological language I come from a

of theological language I come from a large southern family we get together

large southern family we get together

large southern family we get together twice a year sometimes more enjoy

twice a year sometimes more enjoy

twice a year sometimes more enjoy perfect wonderful pork BBQ a side bowl

perfect wonderful pork BBQ a side bowl

perfect wonderful pork BBQ a side bowl of theological discussion doctrinal

of theological discussion doctrinal

of theological discussion doctrinal strips on the side our conversation is

strips on the side our conversation is

strips on the side our conversation is all about stories memories and trying to

all about stories memories and trying to

all about stories memories and trying to be 16 18 years old again and almost

be 16 18 years old again and almost

be 16 18 years old again and almost always about grandma Madeline grandma

always about grandma Madeline grandma

always about grandma Madeline grandma eppley our matriarch

eppley our matriarch

eppley our matriarch the story goes like this an unlikely

the story goes like this an unlikely

the story goes like this an unlikely couple Madeline on her way to the

couple Madeline on her way to the

couple Madeline on her way to the mission field very driven smart in

mission field very driven smart in

mission field very driven smart in seminary very unusual for a Baptist

seminary very unusual for a Baptist

seminary very unusual for a Baptist young woman she had if she won’t end up

young woman she had if she won’t end up

young woman she had if she won’t end up going to China then she met Kelly a

going to China then she met Kelly a

going to China then she met Kelly a sailor just back from the North Atlantic

sailor just back from the North Atlantic

sailor just back from the North Atlantic where he was on a very fast ship chasing

where he was on a very fast ship chasing

where he was on a very fast ship chasing German submarines and he had a touch of

German submarines and he had a touch of

German submarines and he had a touch of tuberculosis so they fell in love and

tuberculosis so they fell in love and

tuberculosis so they fell in love and for love she did not go to China and for

for love she did not go to China and for

for love she did not go to China and for the Great Depression it forced them back

the Great Depression it forced them back

the Great Depression it forced them back to their homeland to his home in the

to their homeland to his home in the

to their homeland to his home in the mountains of North Carolina close to

mountains of North Carolina close to

mountains of North Carolina close to Asheville and the story the next story

Asheville and the story the next story

Asheville and the story the next story is that as she sat on the steps of that

is that as she sat on the steps of that

is that as she sat on the steps of that little shabby home and the wagon that

little shabby home and the wagon that

little shabby home and the wagon that had brought their possessions slowly

had brought their possessions slowly

had brought their possessions slowly made its way back up the road she sat

made its way back up the road she sat

made its way back up the road she sat down and she went to ballin that’s

down and she went to ballin that’s

down and she went to ballin that’s Appalachian for really big grief and

Appalachian for really big grief and

Appalachian for really big grief and then she got up which was her character

then she got up which was her character

then she got up which was her character and she went to work and she made that

and she went to work and she made that

and she went to work and she made that area her mission field she got involved

area her mission field she got involved

area her mission field she got involved in the school she was a backbone of the

in the school she was a backbone of the

in the school she was a backbone of the church she was the heart of the

church she was the heart of the

church she was the heart of the community she drove people to goodness

community she drove people to goodness

community she drove people to goodness she raised a family and the nurses

she raised a family and the nurses

she raised a family and the nurses teachers phd’s successful business

teachers phd’s successful business

teachers phd’s successful business people she had a code and she had an

people she had a code and she had an

people she had a code and she had an ethic I think they went something like

ethic I think they went something like

ethic I think they went something like this because of her faith and her love

this because of her faith and her love

this because of her faith and her love everyone knew she loved deeply number

everyone knew she loved deeply number

everyone knew she loved deeply number one you treat your neighbor like

one you treat your neighbor like

one you treat your neighbor like yourself love your neighbor like

yourself love your neighbor like

yourself love your neighbor like yourself everybody’s the same number two

yourself everybody’s the same number two

yourself everybody’s the same number two you go to school and you never stop

you go to school and you never stop

you go to school and you never stop learning and then you never ever stop

learning and then you never ever stop

learning and then you never ever stop learning and number three you work

learning and number three you work

learning and number three you work really really hard especially at number

really really hard especially at number

really really hard especially at number one and number two so

one and number two so

one and number two so for us and for me specifically she

for us and for me specifically she

for us and for me specifically she impacted me so directly that it

impacted me so directly that it

impacted me so directly that it projected me through the 1980s the first

projected me through the 1980s the first

projected me through the 1980s the first few years I lived in west africa i

few years I lived in west africa i

few years I lived in west africa i worked with volunteers who are working

worked with volunteers who are working

worked with volunteers who are working in water development next to the desert

in water development next to the desert

in water development next to the desert I learned French middle of the decade

I learned French middle of the decade

I learned French middle of the decade worked with Haitian refugees the crisis

worked with Haitian refugees the crisis

worked with Haitian refugees the crisis when so many people were coming back to

when so many people were coming back to

when so many people were coming back to Haiti from Haiti to to Virginia actually

Haiti from Haiti to to Virginia actually

Haiti from Haiti to to Virginia actually and I learned Haitian Creole then my

and I learned Haitian Creole then my

and I learned Haitian Creole then my wife and I worked in Latin America

wife and I worked in Latin America

wife and I worked in Latin America Central America South America with

Central America South America with

Central America South America with Habitat for Humanity we learned Spanish

Habitat for Humanity we learned Spanish

Habitat for Humanity we learned Spanish so when we were looking for a place to

so when we were looking for a place to

so when we were looking for a place to stay I did what we do in our family the

stay I did what we do in our family the

stay I did what we do in our family the guys we marry intelligent women we

guys we marry intelligent women we

guys we marry intelligent women we listen to them she chose Charlottesville

listen to them she chose Charlottesville

listen to them she chose Charlottesville so we ended up here in 1991 and I

so we ended up here in 1991 and I

so we ended up here in 1991 and I realized that I was in a town where I

realized that I was in a town where I

realized that I was in a town where I could thrive number one love your

could thrive number one love your

could thrive number one love your neighbor as yourself but your neighbors

neighbor as yourself but your neighbors

neighbor as yourself but your neighbors weren’t just local they were global it

weren’t just local they were global it

weren’t just local they were global it was everybody number two people around

was everybody number two people around

was everybody number two people around here never stop learning and number

here never stop learning and number

here never stop learning and number three I could work hard I found a place

three I could work hard I found a place

three I could work hard I found a place in the nonprofit industry and I have

in the nonprofit industry and I have

in the nonprofit industry and I have been a professional volunteer

been a professional volunteer

been a professional volunteer coordinator in every job I’ve had

coordinator in every job I’ve had

coordinator in every job I’ve had helping empower the community fast

helping empower the community fast

helping empower the community fast forward a little bit 2010 January

forward a little bit 2010 January

forward a little bit 2010 January thirteenth I was having breakfast at tip

thirteenth I was having breakfast at tip

thirteenth I was having breakfast at tip top restaurant Jack stoner he was the

top restaurant Jack stoner he was the

top restaurant Jack stoner he was the chairman of the board for building

chairman of the board for building

chairman of the board for building goodness foundation I was the newly

goodness foundation I was the newly

goodness foundation I was the newly hired executive director and the

hired executive director and the

hired executive director and the conversation went like almost every

conversation went like almost every

conversation went like almost every nonprofit conversation goes how do we

nonprofit conversation goes how do we

nonprofit conversation goes how do we get more money get more volunteers how

get more money get more volunteers how

get more money get more volunteers how do we raise awareness you know how do we

do we raise awareness you know how do we

do we raise awareness you know how do we get in the media everyone who’s done it

get in the media everyone who’s done it

get in the media everyone who’s done it knows this but for me because it was

knows this but for me because it was

knows this but for me because it was Jack’s donor I was completely stoked I

Jack’s donor I was completely stoked I

Jack’s donor I was completely stoked I wanted to work with this guy it’s a

wanted to work with this guy it’s a

wanted to work with this guy it’s a personal hero he had been to Haiti

personal hero he had been to Haiti

personal hero he had been to Haiti number of years before had a huge

number of years before had a huge

number of years before had a huge transformational experience

transformational experience

transformational experience found that he could use his construction

found that he could use his construction

found that he could use his construction skills very well as a builder came back

skills very well as a builder came back

skills very well as a builder came back and he created a visioning pulled people

and he created a visioning pulled people

and he created a visioning pulled people to him as close as friends and they

to him as close as friends and they

to him as close as friends and they decided they had a vision for an

decided they had a vision for an

decided they had a vision for an organization that would give local

organization that would give local

organization that would give local designers and builders a chance to use

designers and builders a chance to use

designers and builders a chance to use them and change the world he was unhappy

them and change the world he was unhappy

them and change the world he was unhappy with his life he was discontented with

with his life he was discontented with

with his life he was discontented with the huge gap between the haves and

the huge gap between the haves and

the huge gap between the haves and have-nots and he turned it on its ear

have-nots and he turned it on its ear

have-nots and he turned it on its ear and brought and inspired so many people

and brought and inspired so many people

and brought and inspired so many people to him and to a friends who got friends

to him and to a friends who got friends

to him and to a friends who got friends and friends that are involved that it

and friends that are involved that it

and friends that are involved that it became a movement and I watched it

became a movement and I watched it

became a movement and I watched it happen throughout for those 20 years and

happen throughout for those 20 years and

happen throughout for those 20 years and so that was January thirteenth and he

so that was January thirteenth and he

so that was January thirteenth and he said as we stepped out a tip top he said

said as we stepped out a tip top he said

said as we stepped out a tip top he said did you see the news last night and I

did you see the news last night and I

did you see the news last night and I said well no I did and he said had

said well no I did and he said had

said well no I did and he said had mentioned it before but Haiti had an

mentioned it before but Haiti had an

mentioned it before but Haiti had an earthquake and I said that can’t be true

earthquake and I said that can’t be true

earthquake and I said that can’t be true quick hadn’t happened 100 years so I

quick hadn’t happened 100 years so I

quick hadn’t happened 100 years so I went back to the office and there on the

went back to the office and there on the

went back to the office and there on the screen I was horrified to see

screen I was horrified to see

screen I was horrified to see port-au-prince with a mile high cloud of

port-au-prince with a mile high cloud of

port-au-prince with a mile high cloud of concrete dust from thousands of

concrete dust from thousands of

concrete dust from thousands of buildings that had imploded on top of

buildings that had imploded on top of

buildings that had imploded on top of each other and there were images of

each other and there were images of

each other and there were images of people being dragged out of buildings

people being dragged out of buildings

people being dragged out of buildings and stories about the whole gym not the

and stories about the whole gym not the

and stories about the whole gym not the whole campus but the campus roofs

whole campus but the campus roofs

whole campus but the campus roofs falling from the port-au-prince

falling from the port-au-prince

falling from the port-au-prince University killing thousands of students

University killing thousands of students

University killing thousands of students at one time and the palace was down and

at one time and the palace was down and

at one time and the palace was down and government buildings were down and then

government buildings were down and then

government buildings were down and then the news started calling our office

the news started calling our office

the news started calling our office because we had been to Haiti and we

because we had been to Haiti and we

because we had been to Haiti and we became ground central for things about

became ground central for things about

became ground central for things about Haiti and so we ended up hearing from

Haiti and so we ended up hearing from

Haiti and so we ended up hearing from getting on the TV and getting the radio

getting on the TV and getting the radio

getting on the TV and getting the radio and talking about this horrible thing

and talking about this horrible thing

and talking about this horrible thing but I was touched mostly by the calls

but I was touched mostly by the calls

but I was touched mostly by the calls that I got from the volunteers someone

that I got from the volunteers someone

that I got from the volunteers someone called and said how’s Renee someone else

called and said how’s Renee someone else

called and said how’s Renee someone else called said house clay mom someone else

called said house clay mom someone else

called said house clay mom someone else called and said house y’all Philippe

called and said house y’all Philippe

called and said house y’all Philippe have you heard anything about him

have you heard anything about him

have you heard anything about him someone else called said how is that

someone else called said how is that

someone else called said how is that lady that lives under the church with

lady that lives under the church with

lady that lives under the church with those six kids next to the clinics that

those six kids next to the clinics that

those six kids next to the clinics that we built

we built

we built then it struck me Haiti was not a place

then it struck me Haiti was not a place

then it struck me Haiti was not a place where we go for one more tragic story

where we go for one more tragic story

where we go for one more tragic story haiti was a place where our neighbors

haiti was a place where our neighbors

haiti was a place where our neighbors lived we knew their children we played

lived we knew their children we played

lived we knew their children we played with them on construction sites we

with them on construction sites we

with them on construction sites we helped them build their homes we had

helped them build their homes we had

helped them build their homes we had whimsical memories of what it was like

whimsical memories of what it was like

whimsical memories of what it was like to be there in their villages we worked

to be there in their villages we worked

to be there in their villages we worked with him we employed them we were side

with him we employed them we were side

with him we employed them we were side by side partners with them in helping

by side partners with them in helping

by side partners with them in helping their lives and dealing with a very

their lives and dealing with a very

their lives and dealing with a very tragic history so we got busy it was

tragic history so we got busy it was

tragic history so we got busy it was about neighbors in our community helping

about neighbors in our community helping

about neighbors in our community helping our neighbors in Haiti plan went out

our neighbors in Haiti plan went out

our neighbors in Haiti plan went out once the the Emergency Response cream

once the the Emergency Response cream

once the the Emergency Response cream teams were cleared out about a month

teams were cleared out about a month

teams were cleared out about a month later we got busy and we built a trade

later we got busy and we built a trade

later we got busy and we built a trade school so that Haitians can help the

school so that Haitians can help the

school so that Haitians can help the next generation of Education buildings

next generation of Education buildings

next generation of Education buildings not implode in an earthquake schools and

not implode in an earthquake schools and

not implode in an earthquake schools and communities that were far from

communities that were far from

communities that were far from port-au-prince this one’s in Cap Haitien

port-au-prince this one’s in Cap Haitien

port-au-prince this one’s in Cap Haitien in the north beautiful school in hench

in the north beautiful school in hench

in the north beautiful school in hench cooperative centers where people can

cooperative centers where people can

cooperative centers where people can process mangoes and coffee economic

process mangoes and coffee economic

process mangoes and coffee economic development centers a women’s health

development centers a women’s health

development centers a women’s health clinic the only of its kind in the

clinic the only of its kind in the

clinic the only of its kind in the mountains within 50 miles and 700 homes

mountains within 50 miles and 700 homes

mountains within 50 miles and 700 homes helping people have homes after the

helping people have homes after the

helping people have homes after the earthquake and then after Hurricane

earthquake and then after Hurricane

earthquake and then after Hurricane sandy so we learned some things Haiti is

sandy so we learned some things Haiti is

sandy so we learned some things Haiti is a place where people automatically think

a place where people automatically think

a place where people automatically think about 400 years of inhumane injustice

about 400 years of inhumane injustice

about 400 years of inhumane injustice and slavery corruption bad US policies

and slavery corruption bad US policies

and slavery corruption bad US policies rice subsidies that obliterated their

rice subsidies that obliterated their

rice subsidies that obliterated their rice economy all these things are huge

rice economy all these things are huge

rice economy all these things are huge and should be discussed but what we have

and should be discussed but what we have

and should be discussed but what we have learned in our time I would like to say

learned in our time I would like to say

learned in our time I would like to say this it’s about being good neighbors a

this it’s about being good neighbors a

this it’s about being good neighbors a methodology of neighborliness number one

methodology of neighborliness number one

methodology of neighborliness number one size does matter while the international

size does matter while the international

size does matter while the international community is trying to and for good

community is trying to and for good

community is trying to and for good reason fine

reason fine

reason fine way to build the plumbing to get

way to build the plumbing to get

way to build the plumbing to get resources to the ground small

resources to the ground small

resources to the ground small organizations like ours can make a huge

organizations like ours can make a huge

organizations like ours can make a huge difference by going into communities and

difference by going into communities and

difference by going into communities and being involved on the grassroots level

being involved on the grassroots level

being involved on the grassroots level to work with number two good neighbors

to work with number two good neighbors

to work with number two good neighbors already in place organizations that have

already in place organizations that have

already in place organizations that have been there a long time but don’t want us

been there a long time but don’t want us

been there a long time but don’t want us to come in and fix them they already

to come in and fix them they already

to come in and fix them they already know how to fix themselves we partner

know how to fix themselves we partner

know how to fix themselves we partner with them it’s about a relationship it’s

with them it’s about a relationship it’s

with them it’s about a relationship it’s not about a transaction and that can

not about a transaction and that can

not about a transaction and that can happen on the community level and number

happen on the community level and number

happen on the community level and number three I don’t want to be seen as

three I don’t want to be seen as

three I don’t want to be seen as critical but then going to Haiti for a

critical but then going to Haiti for a

critical but then going to Haiti for a long time seeing thousands of volunteers

long time seeing thousands of volunteers

long time seeing thousands of volunteers get on the plains and go down to be a

get on the plains and go down to be a

get on the plains and go down to be a part of it for good reason they want to

part of it for good reason they want to

part of it for good reason they want to help people want to help they need to

help people want to help they need to

help people want to help they need to learn about these things however how

learn about these things however how

learn about these things however how many work sites when you go on or places

many work sites when you go on or places

many work sites when you go on or places where you go where Americans are doing a

where you go where Americans are doing a

where you go where Americans are doing a great job volunteering and the Haitians

great job volunteering and the Haitians

great job volunteering and the Haitians are on this side and there’s a sixty

are on this side and there’s a sixty

are on this side and there’s a sixty percent unemployment situation going on

percent unemployment situation going on

percent unemployment situation going on the Americans often are doing the jobs

the Americans often are doing the jobs

the Americans often are doing the jobs that people can do I’m not saying don’t

that people can do I’m not saying don’t

that people can do I’m not saying don’t go I’m just saying let’s find more ways

go I’m just saying let’s find more ways

go I’m just saying let’s find more ways to employ people because neighbors help

to employ people because neighbors help

to employ people because neighbors help other neighbors have the dignity of jobs

other neighbors have the dignity of jobs

other neighbors have the dignity of jobs what we do now we send small teams work

what we do now we send small teams work

what we do now we send small teams work side-by-side with Asians we employ

side-by-side with Asians we employ

side-by-side with Asians we employ dozens and dozens of impatience to give

dozens and dozens of impatience to give

dozens and dozens of impatience to give them the dignity of jobs so they can

them the dignity of jobs so they can

them the dignity of jobs so they can send their kids to school and so that

send their kids to school and so that

send their kids to school and so that they can pay for medical bills so we’ve

they can pay for medical bills so we’ve

they can pay for medical bills so we’ve learned a few things and now i’m talking

learned a few things and now i’m talking

learned a few things and now i’m talking about yahweh I said Yahweh I went out to

about yahweh I said Yahweh I went out to

about yahweh I said Yahweh I went out to your village destra we built that

your village destra we built that

your village destra we built that community center out there I heard that

community center out there I heard that

community center out there I heard that the storm hit and it was well used but

the storm hit and it was well used but

the storm hit and it was well used but no one will talk to me they’re little

no one will talk to me they’re little

no one will talk to me they’re little traumatized by the situation what

traumatized by the situation what

traumatized by the situation what happened he said I’ll tell you what

happened he said I’ll tell you what

happened he said I’ll tell you what happened he said when the hurricane hit

happened he said when the hurricane hit

happened he said when the hurricane hit and the wind started blowing in the

and the wind started blowing in the

and the wind started blowing in the water rose out of the ocean and the

water rose out of the ocean and the

water rose out of the ocean and the river right next door flooded the whole

river right next door flooded the whole

river right next door flooded the whole village water level picked up one or two

village water level picked up one or two

village water level picked up one or two feet and when people who lived in those

feet and when people who lived in those

feet and when people who lived in those temporary

temporary

temporary shelters started getting flooded out

shelters started getting flooded out

shelters started getting flooded out they headed for the community center and

they headed for the community center and

they headed for the community center and so for two days the wind house so loud

so for two days the wind house so loud

so for two days the wind house so loud we could not hear it I said come be a

we could not hear it I said come be a

we could not hear it I said come be a Monday la how many people were there he

Monday la how many people were there he

Monday la how many people were there he said oh I don’t know I’m peel I’m p lime

said oh I don’t know I’m peel I’m p lime

said oh I don’t know I’m peel I’m p lime peel it’s like don’t tell me how many

peel it’s like don’t tell me how many

peel it’s like don’t tell me how many families wheat decent puck only eight or

families wheat decent puck only eight or

families wheat decent puck only eight or nine really so you’re talking about 80

nine really so you’re talking about 80

nine really so you’re talking about 80 or 90 100 people grandpa’s grandmas kids

or 90 100 people grandpa’s grandmas kids

or 90 100 people grandpa’s grandmas kids cousins everything in that shelter he

cousins everything in that shelter he

cousins everything in that shelter he said yeah yeah yeah yeah we couldn’t

said yeah yeah yeah yeah we couldn’t

said yeah yeah yeah yeah we couldn’t hear ourselves talk we couldn’t hear

hear ourselves talk we couldn’t hear

hear ourselves talk we couldn’t hear ourselves things and the kids were

ourselves things and the kids were

ourselves things and the kids were crying and I said that must have been

crying and I said that must have been

crying and I said that must have been horrible he said oh no no lieb only

horrible he said oh no no lieb only

horrible he said oh no no lieb only buncombe plan said what as good as good

buncombe plan said what as good as good

buncombe plan said what as good as good he said yeah guide Oh Lita Kambei the

he said yeah guide Oh Lita Kambei the

he said yeah guide Oh Lita Kambei the roof it stayed on and then he went back

roof it stayed on and then he went back

roof it stayed on and then he went back to his garden Thank You Yahweh

to his garden Thank You Yahweh

to his garden Thank You Yahweh [Applause]

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