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my path to becoming an upstander started

my path to becoming an upstander started a few short years ago in 2012 the story

a few short years ago in 2012 the story

a few short years ago in 2012 the story of it went viral it was featured on the

of it went viral it was featured on the

of it went viral it was featured on the blog humans of New York and I was dubbed

blog humans of New York and I was dubbed

blog humans of New York and I was dubbed the social justice preschool teacher

the social justice preschool teacher

the social justice preschool teacher seeing the range of reactions that

seeing the range of reactions that

seeing the range of reactions that people had some kind some not so kind

people had some kind some not so kind

people had some kind some not so kind helped me to solidify my truth and stand

helped me to solidify my truth and stand

helped me to solidify my truth and stand up for doing what’s right let’s

up for doing what’s right let’s

up for doing what’s right let’s backtrack when I was a preschool teacher

backtrack when I was a preschool teacher

backtrack when I was a preschool teacher in Washington DC I was charged with

in Washington DC I was charged with

in Washington DC I was charged with shaping and molding young minds prepping

shaping and molding young minds prepping

shaping and molding young minds prepping my students for the world the beginning

my students for the world the beginning

my students for the world the beginning of the year things were going great the

of the year things were going great the

of the year things were going great the class was happily humming along as I’m

class was happily humming along as I’m

class was happily humming along as I’m teaching them ABCs one two threes shapes

teaching them ABCs one two threes shapes

teaching them ABCs one two threes shapes and colors and then the upheaval started

and colors and then the upheaval started

and colors and then the upheaval started Trayvon Martin was killed and it blew up

Trayvon Martin was killed and it blew up

Trayvon Martin was killed and it blew up in the news and it shook the bedrock of

in the news and it shook the bedrock of

in the news and it shook the bedrock of our school community at the time Society

our school community at the time Society

our school community at the time Society was in turmoil kind of similar to today

was in turmoil kind of similar to today

was in turmoil kind of similar to today race relations were at an all-time low

race relations were at an all-time low

race relations were at an all-time low and my people black brown latina –cz

and my people black brown latina –cz

and my people black brown latina –cz Asian Indian American people were being

Asian Indian American people were being

Asian Indian American people were being mistreated and killed by vigilantes and

mistreated and killed by vigilantes and

mistreated and killed by vigilantes and racist folks who devalued our lives as I

racist folks who devalued our lives as I

racist folks who devalued our lives as I and my fellow teachers were reeling from

and my fellow teachers were reeling from

and my fellow teachers were reeling from this more people of color became martyrs

this more people of color became martyrs

this more people of color became martyrs at the hands of police brutality often

at the hands of police brutality often

at the hands of police brutality often their attackers went unindicted through

their attackers went unindicted through

their attackers went unindicted through a series and a comedy of errors despite

a series and a comedy of errors despite

a series and a comedy of errors despite my best efforts to try to shield my

my best efforts to try to shield my

my best efforts to try to shield my students from the harsh realities of

students from the harsh realities of

students from the harsh realities of this tough world the uncertainty seeped

this tough world the uncertainty seeped

this tough world the uncertainty seeped into our classroom and as I feared they

into our classroom and as I feared they

into our classroom and as I feared they started to ask me unanswerable questions

started to ask me unanswerable questions

started to ask me unanswerable questions is it is it a crime to wear a hoodie

is it is it a crime to wear a hoodie

is it is it a crime to wear a hoodie my mommy won’t let me watch the news

my mommy won’t let me watch the news

my mommy won’t let me watch the news what’s happening did the little boy get

what’s happening did the little boy get

what’s happening did the little boy get killed for eating skittles are we safe

killed for eating skittles are we safe

killed for eating skittles are we safe I needed backup I hope to find support

I needed backup I hope to find support

I needed backup I hope to find support among seasoned educators to help me

among seasoned educators to help me

among seasoned educators to help me think through what I should say to these

think through what I should say to these

think through what I should say to these babies strangely and sadly few in the

babies strangely and sadly few in the

babies strangely and sadly few in the early childhood community wanted to talk

early childhood community wanted to talk

early childhood community wanted to talk about it or teach around it or touch it

about it or teach around it or touch it

about it or teach around it or touch it I decided I couldn’t ignore this anymore

I decided I couldn’t ignore this anymore

I decided I couldn’t ignore this anymore I couldn’t shut out what was happening

I couldn’t shut out what was happening

I couldn’t shut out what was happening in the world

in the world

in the world I couldn’t hug away my children’s

I couldn’t hug away my children’s

I couldn’t hug away my children’s anxiety I had to tell the truth we had

anxiety I had to tell the truth we had

anxiety I had to tell the truth we had to face it I had to be the kind of

to face it I had to be the kind of

to face it I had to be the kind of educator to take a stand with integrity

educator to take a stand with integrity

educator to take a stand with integrity so I devised this series of lesson plans

so I devised this series of lesson plans

so I devised this series of lesson plans with the consent of the parents and we

with the consent of the parents and we

with the consent of the parents and we explored the theme community care we did

explored the theme community care we did

explored the theme community care we did neighborhood cleanups in playgrounds in

neighborhood cleanups in playgrounds in

neighborhood cleanups in playgrounds in parks we did all these acts of service

parks we did all these acts of service

parks we did all these acts of service and kindness for others in our school

and kindness for others in our school

and kindness for others in our school community and at the end of the year yes

community and at the end of the year yes

community and at the end of the year yes we wrote Mother’s Day cards for Trayvon

we wrote Mother’s Day cards for Trayvon

we wrote Mother’s Day cards for Trayvon Martin’s mom letting her know that she

Martin’s mom letting her know that she

Martin’s mom letting her know that she was in our thoughts and her son was too

was in our thoughts and her son was too

was in our thoughts and her son was too and we sent them to her foundation one

and we sent them to her foundation one

and we sent them to her foundation one day I was feeling good about all we had

day I was feeling good about all we had

day I was feeling good about all we had learned wrapping up the year getting to

learned wrapping up the year getting to

learned wrapping up the year getting to be the end of school thinking this is a

be the end of school thinking this is a

be the end of school thinking this is a routine meeting my principal summoned me

routine meeting my principal summoned me

routine meeting my principal summoned me to the office I thought I was going to

to the office I thought I was going to

to the office I thought I was going to sign my contract for the next year I was

sign my contract for the next year I was

sign my contract for the next year I was ready right and with a stern face and

ready right and with a stern face and

ready right and with a stern face and tears in her eyes she said to me your

tears in her eyes she said to me your

tears in her eyes she said to me your politics are too radical your special

politics are too radical your special

politics are too radical your special curriculum it’s not welcome the

curriculum it’s not welcome the

curriculum it’s not welcome the administration has been murmuring about

administration has been murmuring about

administration has been murmuring about you and they disapprove of what you’re

you and they disapprove of what you’re

you and they disapprove of what you’re doing and then she fired me

that was the year that changed me

that was the year that changed me offering students chances to be mindful

offering students chances to be mindful

offering students chances to be mindful gave me a renewed sense of purpose about

gave me a renewed sense of purpose about

gave me a renewed sense of purpose about the power of empathy to transform

the power of empathy to transform

the power of empathy to transform teaching in retrospect being let go was

teaching in retrospect being let go was

teaching in retrospect being let go was a blessing I was still enough stander

a blessing I was still enough stander

a blessing I was still enough stander and I did what I thought was right for

and I did what I thought was right for

and I did what I thought was right for those kids to help them walk through the

those kids to help them walk through the

those kids to help them walk through the world with the tools of compassion and

world with the tools of compassion and

world with the tools of compassion and confidence and make sense of things my

confidence and make sense of things my

confidence and make sense of things my radical actions were in alignment with

radical actions were in alignment with

radical actions were in alignment with my truth which was far more valuable to

my truth which was far more valuable to

my truth which was far more valuable to me than the administration’s approval or

me than the administration’s approval or

me than the administration’s approval or career stability it was this experience

career stability it was this experience

career stability it was this experience that allowed me to live boldly to walk

that allowed me to live boldly to walk

that allowed me to live boldly to walk in purpose to create safe spaces that I

in purpose to create safe spaces that I

in purpose to create safe spaces that I had envisioned for processing current

had envisioned for processing current

had envisioned for processing current events looking at how we can grieve and

events looking at how we can grieve and

events looking at how we can grieve and grow and organize and respond together

grow and organize and respond together

grow and organize and respond together getting fired was the spark that it took

getting fired was the spark that it took

getting fired was the spark that it took for me to launch the world’s first

for me to launch the world’s first

for me to launch the world’s first mobile social justice Museum inspired by

mobile social justice Museum inspired by

mobile social justice Museum inspired by art activism self and society it helps

art activism self and society it helps

art activism self and society it helps me to create the Museum of impact I want

me to create the Museum of impact I want

me to create the Museum of impact I want to know what injustice boils your blood

to know what injustice boils your blood

to know what injustice boils your blood what haunts you what keeps you up at

what haunts you what keeps you up at

what haunts you what keeps you up at night what makes your heart explode what

night what makes your heart explode what

night what makes your heart explode what matters so much to you that you would

matters so much to you that you would

matters so much to you that you would break your silence for it the black

break your silence for it the black

break your silence for it the black lives matter movement that was my

lives matter movement that was my

lives matter movement that was my turning point what is yours

turning point what is yours

turning point what is yours going to be we have to be willing to

going to be we have to be willing to

going to be we have to be willing to break the bondage of apathy of doubt of

break the bondage of apathy of doubt of

break the bondage of apathy of doubt of helplessness we have to find and forge

helplessness we have to find and forge

helplessness we have to find and forge solutions to be this radical bomb for

solutions to be this radical bomb for

solutions to be this radical bomb for what ails our world the way I see it

what ails our world the way I see it

what ails our world the way I see it there’s just two types of people

there’s just two types of people

there’s just two types of people bystanders and upstanders what is a

bystanders and upstanders what is a

bystanders and upstanders what is a bystander someone who watches someone

bystander someone who watches someone

bystander someone who watches someone who’s passive they’re present at

who’s passive they’re present at

who’s passive they’re present at critical moments in time but they don’t

critical moments in time but they don’t

critical moments in time but they don’t take action they don’t take part what is

take action they don’t take part what is

take action they don’t take part what is an upstander someone who is active

an upstander someone who is active

an upstander someone who is active someone who does

someone who does

someone who does who’s changed making centering empathy

who’s changed making centering empathy

who’s changed making centering empathy and bravery and progress and taking

and bravery and progress and taking

and bravery and progress and taking action the world needs more upstanders

action the world needs more upstanders

action the world needs more upstanders as we can see from this election cycle

as we can see from this election cycle

as we can see from this election cycle politicians and preachers they can’t

politicians and preachers they can’t

politicians and preachers they can’t save us we are the ones we’ve been

save us we are the ones we’ve been

save us we are the ones we’ve been waiting for

waiting for

waiting for sometimes we’re wasting time hoping that

sometimes we’re wasting time hoping that

sometimes we’re wasting time hoping that a special someone’s gonna swoop in and

a special someone’s gonna swoop in and

a special someone’s gonna swoop in and save the day and make it better and I’m

save the day and make it better and I’m

save the day and make it better and I’m here to tell you while we’re waiting

here to tell you while we’re waiting

here to tell you while we’re waiting injustice abounds and inequities persist

injustice abounds and inequities persist

injustice abounds and inequities persist and honestly truly the hero is in us

and honestly truly the hero is in us

and honestly truly the hero is in us there’s some choices we can make to

there’s some choices we can make to

there’s some choices we can make to build power and Ally ourselves with

build power and Ally ourselves with

build power and Ally ourselves with movements that matter there’s so many

movements that matter there’s so many

movements that matter there’s so many examples of everyday people like my

examples of everyday people like my

examples of everyday people like my friend chase iron eyes who are making

friend chase iron eyes who are making

friend chase iron eyes who are making change who are standing up and speaking

change who are standing up and speaking

change who are standing up and speaking up and acting up the thing about being

up and acting up the thing about being

up and acting up the thing about being an upstander is you have to understand

an upstander is you have to understand

an upstander is you have to understand how you’re going to respond you have to

how you’re going to respond you have to

how you’re going to respond you have to make that choice here are a few

make that choice here are a few

make that choice here are a few responses that stand out to me of people

responses that stand out to me of people

responses that stand out to me of people I think you should know standing up what

I think you should know standing up what

I think you should know standing up what does that mean

does that mean

does that mean volunteer educate uplift community use

volunteer educate uplift community use

volunteer educate uplift community use your presence to advocate for justice

your presence to advocate for justice

your presence to advocate for justice the journal arrow app who was started by

the journal arrow app who was started by

the journal arrow app who was started by artist Sol era Mindy is a great example

artist Sol era Mindy is a great example

artist Sol era Mindy is a great example of standing up this app works with

of standing up this app works with

of standing up this app works with marginalized immigrant workers drawing

marginalized immigrant workers drawing

marginalized immigrant workers drawing upon the mantra nothing about us without

upon the mantra nothing about us without

upon the mantra nothing about us without us the smartphone app was developed with

us the smartphone app was developed with

us the smartphone app was developed with New York City’s immigrant communities in

New York City’s immigrant communities in

New York City’s immigrant communities in conjunction with lawyers and artists and

conjunction with lawyers and artists and

conjunction with lawyers and artists and other concerned citizens and it

other concerned citizens and it

other concerned citizens and it crowdsources data to prevent wage theft

crowdsources data to prevent wage theft

crowdsources data to prevent wage theft from the most vulnerable undocumented

from the most vulnerable undocumented

from the most vulnerable undocumented workers standing up to bosses who cheat

workers standing up to bosses who cheat

workers standing up to bosses who cheat and mistreat them speak up use your

and mistreat them speak up use your

and mistreat them speak up use your voice be heard create a more just

voice be heard create a more just

voice be heard create a more just connected powerful world employ art

connected powerful world employ art

connected powerful world employ art literature and music and media to speak

literature and music and media to speak

literature and music and media to speak out against unfair treatment to quote a

out against unfair treatment to quote a

out against unfair treatment to quote a phrase from the US Department of Arts

phrase from the US Department of Arts

phrase from the US Department of Arts and Culture when we stand rooted in the

and Culture when we stand rooted in the

and Culture when we stand rooted in the power of our culture our stories and our

power of our culture our stories and our

power of our culture our stories and our songs we can arise together against hate

songs we can arise together against hate

songs we can arise together against hate and injustice celebrities and musicians

and injustice celebrities and musicians

and injustice celebrities and musicians do a great job of

do a great job of

do a great job of speaking of using their platform to

speaking of using their platform to

speaking of using their platform to engage listeners and fans there are

engage listeners and fans there are

engage listeners and fans there are recent albums that you might be aware of

recent albums that you might be aware of

recent albums that you might be aware of that are really raising the

that are really raising the

that are really raising the consciousness of us all a seat at the

consciousness of us all a seat at the

consciousness of us all a seat at the table by singer Solange black America

table by singer Solange black America

table by singer Solange black America again by rapper common all of these are

again by rapper common all of these are

again by rapper common all of these are speaking out around the issues black

speaking out around the issues black

speaking out around the issues black lives matter

lives matter

lives matter senseless violence cultural

senseless violence cultural

senseless violence cultural appropriation and fostering this

appropriation and fostering this

appropriation and fostering this creative resilience and people are

creative resilience and people are

creative resilience and people are listening one of my favs chance the

listening one of my favs chance the

listening one of my favs chance the rapper he recently did this amazing

rapper he recently did this amazing

rapper he recently did this amazing thing right amazing thing he led

thing right amazing thing he led

thing right amazing thing he led thousands in Chicago on a parade to the

thousands in Chicago on a parade to the

thousands in Chicago on a parade to the polls getting people to exercise their

polls getting people to exercise their

polls getting people to exercise their right to vote early and culminating that

right to vote early and culminating that

right to vote early and culminating that with a black party that celebrated civic

with a black party that celebrated civic

with a black party that celebrated civic engagement acting up last but not least

engagement acting up last but not least

engagement acting up last but not least protest boycott rally picket organize

protest boycott rally picket organize

protest boycott rally picket organize support movements tactics initiatives

support movements tactics initiatives

support movements tactics initiatives that lead to our liberation use your

that lead to our liberation use your

that lead to our liberation use your presence to disrupt bias and withdraw

presence to disrupt bias and withdraw

presence to disrupt bias and withdraw your support from spaces that don’t

your support from spaces that don’t

your support from spaces that don’t support us Native American tribes chase

support us Native American tribes chase

support us Native American tribes chase iron eyes all the allies out there with

iron eyes all the allies out there with

iron eyes all the allies out there with them they are acting up fighting hard to

them they are acting up fighting hard to

them they are acting up fighting hard to protect this earth from people that want

protect this earth from people that want

protect this earth from people that want to pollute it keeping the water the

to pollute it keeping the water the

to pollute it keeping the water the ecosystem the burial grounds sacred

ecosystem the burial grounds sacred

ecosystem the burial grounds sacred they’re demonstrating their speaking

they’re demonstrating their speaking

they’re demonstrating their speaking truth to power they’re challenging

truth to power they’re challenging

truth to power they’re challenging elected officials to stop putting

elected officials to stop putting

elected officials to stop putting capitalism over environment I’m here to

capitalism over environment I’m here to

capitalism over environment I’m here to tell you that environment

tell you that environment

tell you that environment Trump’s capitalism

when social movements like Occupy first

when social movements like Occupy first started the suffragists movement even

started the suffragists movement even

started the suffragists movement even civil rights a lot of people were

civil rights a lot of people were

civil rights a lot of people were hesitant they were on the fence they

hesitant they were on the fence they

hesitant they were on the fence they didn’t know if this would work they

didn’t know if this would work they

didn’t know if this would work they didn’t know what would happen or if a

didn’t know what would happen or if a

didn’t know what would happen or if a change would really be made and later on

change would really be made and later on

change would really be made and later on they witnessed the groundswell and in

they witnessed the groundswell and in

they witnessed the groundswell and in hindsight we can look back and see that

hindsight we can look back and see that

hindsight we can look back and see that those movements were on the right side

those movements were on the right side

those movements were on the right side of history movements come and go but

of history movements come and go but

of history movements come and go but being aligned with your values with the

being aligned with your values with the

being aligned with your values with the highest way of being of acting a

highest way of being of acting a

highest way of being of acting a standing of speaking that’s the right

standing of speaking that’s the right

standing of speaking that’s the right side of history

side of history

side of history here’s what I know I think we’re all

here’s what I know I think we’re all

here’s what I know I think we’re all secretly revolutionaries waiting for a

secretly revolutionaries waiting for a

secretly revolutionaries waiting for a signal the next time injustice occurs

signal the next time injustice occurs

signal the next time injustice occurs don’t worry don’t wait don’t freeze

don’t worry don’t wait don’t freeze

don’t worry don’t wait don’t freeze don’t get trapped in fear and apathy and

don’t get trapped in fear and apathy and

don’t get trapped in fear and apathy and overwhelm find some like-minded people

overwhelm find some like-minded people

overwhelm find some like-minded people dialog make a plan do something it’s up

dialog make a plan do something it’s up

dialog make a plan do something it’s up to us to take action on what’s been in

to us to take action on what’s been in

to us to take action on what’s been in our hearts the whole time change making

our hearts the whole time change making

our hearts the whole time change making is this amazing journey and the signal

is this amazing journey and the signal

is this amazing journey and the signal is here let’s prepare to renew our

is here let’s prepare to renew our

is here let’s prepare to renew our intentions right now Assata Shakur

intentions right now Assata Shakur

intentions right now Assata Shakur taught us it is our duty to fight for

taught us it is our duty to fight for

taught us it is our duty to fight for our freedom it is our duty to win we

our freedom it is our duty to win we

our freedom it is our duty to win we must love and support one another we

must love and support one another we

must love and support one another we have nothing to lose but our chains as a

have nothing to lose but our chains as a

have nothing to lose but our chains as a sign of solidarity and making this world

sign of solidarity and making this world

sign of solidarity and making this world a brilliantly better place we’re going

a brilliantly better place we’re going

a brilliantly better place we’re going to physically stand up together at my

to physically stand up together at my

to physically stand up together at my cue you can do this first think about

cue you can do this first think about

cue you can do this first think about something that matters to you what’s

something that matters to you what’s

something that matters to you what’s keeping you up at night what are you

keeping you up at night what are you

keeping you up at night what are you willing to stand up for next imagine

willing to stand up for next imagine

willing to stand up for next imagine yourself an upstander what will it feel

yourself an upstander what will it feel

yourself an upstander what will it feel like be like look like smell like taste

like be like look like smell like taste

like be like look like smell like taste like when you’re channeling your empathy

like when you’re channeling your empathy

like when you’re channeling your empathy your energy your actions to standing and

your energy your actions to standing and

your energy your actions to standing and speaking and acting now ready yourself

speaking and acting now ready yourself

speaking and acting now ready yourself on the count of three join me in

on the count of three join me in

on the count of three join me in standing for your beliefs one two three

standing for your beliefs one two three

standing for your beliefs one two three stand out

stand out

stand out thank you

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